lullaby Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 So I've told in my previous thread that I saw my ex bf a week ago after one month separation. Everything went really well, there was no physical connection or anything, but it was really genuine and fun. The point is that he mentioned wanting to be with me in a probable near future, and I said I would like that too but that I needed time because I was hurt and was getting to know myself with him again. He understood and said the only way to work things out would be with time. Well, the details are on the other thread so... But I couldn't contain myself and sent him an email on Monday, a week after, which was actually a forward of another email I got which was a greeting to both of us from some people we wet on holidays in Brazil and they were just saluting us, so it wasn't a personal email really. It was friendly and kind and didn't even mention to meet with him, nothing, it was cool and relaxed. So..... yesterday night he called!! saying he preferred to call me instead of answering my email and began to tell me what he'd been up to this past days since we met, he told me every single detail in his life at the moment, and he even mentioned talking later on in the night but I said I had work to do and would not be able to The talk lasted 12 minutes, it was quite short for the amount of time we normally talk and we never brought up serious issues. I ended up telling him that I would let him know what happens with a new job offer I have and about my grandpa's health. He said he'd love to hear about that and we could then arrange to meet again but there was no date settled, though I decided to let him know that I was unavailable this weekend (and it is true!!!!) just in case, you know? so.... we'll see. What do you think??? I'm happy with the way I'm acting. I feel like I'm in control and I don't think he is moving on. Besides, he is not even acting as if I were the backup for anything, or just sex, he doesn't act like that. And I do think he is trying to start connecting with me, he left me, he contacted me most of the times and well... now that I've talked about it with some friends, they've come to the conclusion that it was never a break up, that he needed time to sort things out in his "cave" and that's it. Who knows, right??? any advice as to what to do now??? Sorry, but I can't help but to see hope at the end of the tunnel.
Tim The Enchanter Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 It definitely looks like you're making progress. Also, I think you're right to play it cool at this stage. He's the one who broke the relationship off, so it's up to him to make amends if he wants a reconciliation. You must be feeling a lot better about things now!
Author lullaby Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 Yes! I'm feeling so much better because I was strong enough and never contacted him until he appeared again, and that time helped realize how much I needed him, and what were the things I needed to change of myself, flaws that we all have and know we need to change, so let's see how it goes! Thanks again!
wingman2 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 I'm glad to hear that there's light at the end of your tunnel. As for me, I feel like I'm still stuck in the middle of it or not making much progress. I've decided to just do NC for at least a week, maybe two or somewhere in between. She may or may not contact me during that time. Would I be better off if I had contacted her? Based off what others have told me including you I think that I should communicate with her on my terms and don't let her have her ways. I just feel so bad when I put her off though and don't want her to think that I'm not interested. I just feel like progress is just going about very slowly. We write eachother a short text message about everyday, last night she responded back to my message but made no mention of wanting to talk again. There was nothing I could think of to respond back with so I'm just ending it there. I just sometimes feel like she may just be gone for good. Idk, I don't know how she feels or what she wants. I think she possibly is still confused though. All I know is that I miss her more now than I ever did before, more than I did a month ago and it's been 2 months. I'll try to keep NC for as long as I can. Just want to know what my next move should be, whether I should wait for her to contact me again or contact her next time. If she does contact me and ask to talk should I? Should I even respond to her?
cbee Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Lullaby good luck with everything! It sounds like you are on the road to reconciling. Let me know how it goes
cbee Posted June 23, 2010 Posted June 23, 2010 Or how it went... I saw this post in the similar thread box, didn't consider looking at dates.
Author lullaby Posted June 23, 2010 Author Posted June 23, 2010 Or how it went... I saw this post in the similar thread box, didn't consider looking at dates. Thanks! you can read a long thread about how things went. We're still there but it's not sooo nice anymore. It's the one about "met with ex bf after 1 month Sunday". There is the whole story since that week on. You can read and it may help you if you're willing to go through that process!!
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