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He doesn't believe in love. Eeeks!

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I also don't believe in love - it doesn't make evolutionary sense. Lust is a better word for the feeling you get. So guys as a tip, if you ever are in a situation where you need to say 'I love you,' substitute 'love' for 'lust' in your head and you can say it over and over again 24/7.

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I also don't believe in love - it doesn't make evolutionary sense. Lust is a better word for the feeling you get. So guys as a tip, if you ever are in a situation where you need to say 'I love you,' substitute 'love' for 'lust' in your head and you can say it over and over again 24/7.

 

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That's pretty cruel and totally uneccesary and can actually backfire on a person. There are plenty of people out there who also don't believe in love, or who are simply looking for a casual relationship, so there's really no need to destroy someone's ability to trust, hurt them, and give yourself the reputation of being a fake and a jerk. When I decided I didn't want anything serious, I told people to their faces, I didn't believe in love, that I didn't want to commit, didn't want monogamy and would never love them that way. I said exactly what I wanted, and told them they could be with whomever they wanted, so long as they were honest. I also said I'd do the same, and we did. I didn't have to lie, I protected both our feelings by being honest, and the relationship was less stressful because I didn't have to bother worrying about getting caught up in anything or feeling guilty, either. I also was able to trust the guys better because they knew it was okay to be honest with me. And now, years later, one of those guys has started talking to me again, as friends. He doesn't hate me because I didn't lie to him and manipulate him that way. While I agree love is more about breeding than anything else, some people do get emotionally invested and there's no use in being a fake and causing you and a potential partner issues. There's all kinds of people out there who want what you want.

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