Eeyore79 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Regardless of personal preference you admit being Tall is an amazingly beautiful attractive trait thats great to stare at and admire you dont stare at shortness in the same way Shrotness is not the "eyecandy" you speak of but you realize what high demand tall guys are in so you rather a short guy whos less likely to cheat on you while you admire us from afar I like it when a guy makes me feel protected and safe. Tall guys make me feel that just by being big, but I have also dated shorter guys who created the same feeling of protectiveness and safety by being strong and confident, and behaving in a protective and masculine sort of manner. I will admit that tall guys catch my eye more often, but if they're wussy then I'll lose interest; I want a guy who is a real man and makes me feel like a woman, and being tall is not the only way (or even the main way) to achieve that. I wouldn't date a short guy because he's less likely to cheat; I don't even think that's true. In fact I know tall guys who struggle to date because they're wussy - women initially like the look of them but quickly lose interest because of their lack of masculinity and confidence.
TPPpeter Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Ignore the height they're looking for and just go for it. I did this on internet dating sites and some girls replied while others didn't. Earlier this year I dated a cute girl who was my height. Another time I dated a hottie who's 2 inches taller. Women always have a preference of what they prefer. But if they find a man who they're somewhat attracted to, the height/weight won't be an issue. From my experience, the only women who accepted men of their preferred height were the ones who knew exactly what they want in a man. Just go after any woman you find attractive. Good luck!
Els Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I never said short guys cant get women but as u said they have to jump through hoops and be extrodinary everywhere else to get women Tall Guys just have to find away not to f things up *shrugs* That's life, frankly. And it only works with the shallow population. And if we're talking about THAT population, well, I'm pretty darn sure a woman who has a great figure, or large breasts, or a pretty face, etc, will also 'be cut more slack' by such people than ordinary-looking women. Solution is to either accept it and do something about yourself, or laugh in their face and hold out for the person who won't need you to 'jump through hoops' just because of your average looks. Is it that hard to grasp? Most women seem to pretty much get that as a fact of life by the time they're out of high school, but it seems men are just only realizing it, like it's a new thing.
elysium23 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 (edited) I never said shorter Men cant get women of course they can theryes only so many tall guys to go around for women You pretty much admitted you look at and admire tall guysproves my point,tall guys are admired and lusted after in a different way then shorter guys doesnt mean shorter guys cant get women they just dont get women as worked up and animalsitically into you as they are with a tall guy It looks like you're forgetting about celebrities like Tom Cruise: http://www.babble.com/CS/blogs/famecrawler/2007/10/23-End/tom-cruise-katie-holmes-posh-spice-victoria-beckham.jpg Tom Cruise is one of the most lusted after male celebrities (well,at least he was before his breakdown)... I think he's one of the most attractive men I have seen and I usually prefer tall guys. This is just like men saying they prefer big breasts or a nice butt. It's a plus for most men, but it's usually not a dealbreaker, unless the person is extremely shallow. The preference for tallness is exactly the same thing. Edited May 13, 2010 by elysium23
AD1980 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I like it when a guy makes me feel protected and safe. Tall guys make me feel that just by being big, but I have also dated shorter guys who created the same feeling of protectiveness and safety by being strong and confident, and behaving in a protective and masculine sort of manner. I will admit that tall guys catch my eye more often, but if they're wussy then I'll lose interest; I want a guy who is a real man and makes me feel like a woman, and being tall is not the only way (or even the main way) to achieve that. I wouldn't date a short guy because he's less likely to cheat; I don't even think that's true. In fact I know tall guys who struggle to date because they're wussy - women initially like the look of them but quickly lose interest because of their lack of masculinity and confidence. I never understood women thinking height automatically=strength thing I also never understood the need for "protection" why type of women constantly needs protection? Where do u hang out in back alleys? All you need is a guy who would stand up for you if somebody is bothering you..Evne if hes not big and hypothetically your boyfriend gets beat up what is the guy then gonna carry on his shoulder like King Kong run away with you and assault you?
Els Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I never understood women thinking height automatically=strength thing I also never understood the need for "protection" why type of women constantly needs protection? Where do u hang out in back alleys? All you need is a guy who would stand up for you if somebody is bothering you..Evne if hes not big and hypothetically your boyfriend gets beat up what is the guy then gonna carry on his shoulder like King Kong run away with you and assault you? Noone said it had to make sense. It makes about as much sense as men arguing that they're biologically inclined to like hot women not because they enjoy visual pleasure, but because it apparently is something about wanting to pass good genes on to their kids and apparently good-looking women=good genes . Or that thing about women with big breasts and wide hips being 'ideal for childbearing'?
PrettyinInk Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 it is about confidence, confidence attracted women, how many times does it have to be said. i have dated a lot of shorter guys in my life (i am talking 5'4-5'5, you crazy 5'7 guys who think you are short! that is laughable! i am 5'5 BTW), you know what those "short guys" have that most of the guys on this website don't? Confidence. your first step is not thinking of your self proclaimed shortness as a handicap, embrassing who you are, and loving yourself! "i am good enough, i am smart enough, and dawgonit, people like me!"
AD1980 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Noone said it had to make sense. It makes about as much sense as men arguing that they're biologically inclined to like hot women not because they enjoy visual pleasure, but because it apparently is something about wanting to pass good genes on to their kids and apparently good-looking women=good genes . Or that thing about women with big breasts and wide hips being 'ideal for childbearing'? I rarely hear Men blame biology we jsut say we like to look at hot women
Els Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I rarely hear Men blame biology we jsut say we like to look at hot women You haven't been reading enough of these forums, then.
electricity Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I rarely hear Men blame biology we jsut say we like to look at hot women What's considered "hot" is at least somewhat biological - you may not know it, but you're hard-wired to find certain features attractive and are more likely to consider women who have them "hot." Height doesn't automatically equate to strength (I definitely know some well-trained men who were much stronger than taller guys), but it helps. Sure I'm not in any sort of imminent danger and don't need constant protection, but it's nice to feel safe. I take a lot of risks in life as an individual, and it's nice to have an anchor to hold onto.
AD1980 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 What's considered "hot" is at least somewhat biological - you may not know it, but you're hard-wired to find certain features attractive and are more likely to consider women who have them "hot." Height doesn't automatically equate to strength (I definitely know some well-trained men who were much stronger than taller guys), but it helps. Sure I'm not in any sort of imminent danger and don't need constant protection, but it's nice to feel safe. I take a lot of risks in life as an individual, and it's nice to have an anchor to hold onto. So you're looking for a bodyguard first then love
Els Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 So you're looking for a bodyguard first then love Awww, c'mon. That's like saying that men who like hot women are looking for a trophy/eye-pleaser first and then love. Why is it so hard for you to accept? You like hot women, some women like hot men. It just so happens that 'tall' is one of the generic 'hot' attributes for men, just like 'hourglass figure' is for women. If it bothers you to have it applied to you, why apply it to women?
electricity Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 So you're looking for a bodyguard first then love I thought I specifically said I'm not in imminent danger and don't need protection. Oh wait, I did. When I say risks, I don't mean physical risks - I mean emotional, financial, those kinds of risks. I don't need a bodyguard, I want someone who will hold me when I hit a rough patch in my career or talk to me when I'm feeling lonely after moving to a new city.
AD1980 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Awww, c'mon. That's like saying that men who like hot women are looking for a trophy/eye-pleaser first and then love. Why is it so hard for you to accept? You like hot women, some women like hot men. It just so happens that 'tall' is one of the generic 'hot' attributes for men, just like 'hourglass figure' is for women. If it bothers you to have it applied to you, why apply it to women? That's all i wanted to hear is that you find it "hot" which is fine all the other stuff you say about liking tall Men[protection,bioligical] is fluff I realize Short Men arent attratcive or hot to women just something modt women have to settle for becasue theryes not enough tall guys for everyone
Els Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I never said such a thing. Plenty of men claim that they're 'biologically wired' to want hot women. Plenty. You may agree or disagree with it, but it happens with both genders. Stop making this into a 'women' thing.
AD1980 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 When I say risks, I don't mean physical risks - I mean emotional, financial, those kinds of risks. I want someone who will hold me when I hit a rough patch in my career or talk to me when I'm feeling lonely after moving to a new city. So only tall guys can do this?
electricity Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 (edited) So only tall guys can do this? I also never understood the need for "protection" Height doesn't automatically equate to strength but it helps... it's nice to feel safe. No. It's just nice to feel safe and protected, just like men think it's nice for women to look a certain way. Height, strength, etc. helps because feeling physically safe helps stabilizing oneself emotionally (a security blanket doesn't REALLY protect a kid from anything, but he could like having something physical to hold onto anyway). Height is not the be all end all, however. Edited May 13, 2010 by electricity
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 lol i told you guys women love us Tall Men.Beign a Tall guy is the #1 most physically deisrable trait in the dating world women worship and lust over height. Doesnt mean short guys cant get women but you wont wow a women like tall guys do,the stuff we get away with for being blessed by god with height:cool:
flc Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I would say that most women are more comfortable dating men who are taller than them and most men prefer women who are shorter than them. Average height for US women is 5'4" so in general I think if you are 5'6" or taller you will be taller than the majority of women so no excuses. I'm 5'7" my ex was 5'2" my current GF is 5'7". With my ex I would say I never thought about height at all with my GF even though I can't say it it bothers me when she has heels on and is a few inches taller than me I do notice it. So height does matter at some level but I don't think being 5'7" means you have no marketability.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I'm 6'3". Height is a rather irrelevant consideration whereas style, confidence and unique personality can bowl me over with a feather. Still, if I had a gun to my head, I'd have to say 5' through 5-10" for ideal women. And yes, it is a little difficult being 6-3 or more for a man. Most conventionalites are produced for 5'8 dudes and always bending, hitting your head, not being able to fit in some sports cars adds up to nuisance. I don't want to be 5'8 though.
EricaH329 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I completely agree with Elswyth. This same concept can be applied to females. Men like looking at women with nice breasts and a nice butt. But what about the girls who don't have those attributes? Sure, some of us will get surgery, but the majority of us have to deal with it. How do we deal with it? By making up for it in other areas. Such as our personality. If you are a person that lacks what the majority of human beings believe to be 'above average' attributes, then we are left with (I shouldn't say 'left with', I should say 'blessed with') the people who are not shallow. Females get to have the man who doesn't care whether her body is a perfect 10, and men get to have the females who don't care about whether he is 6". I actually think we get the better end of the stick. Physical attributes shouldn't deter you from finding someone that wants to be with you. If you've fallen back on that excuse, then I highly suggest figuring out what it is about your personality or the way you carry yourself that's preventing you from finding someone.
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I completely agree with Elswyth. This same concept can be applied to females. Men like looking at women with nice breasts and a nice butt. But what about the girls who don't have those attributes? Sure, some of us will get surgery, but the majority of us have to deal with it. How do we deal with it? By making up for it in other areas. Such as our personality. If you are a person that lacks what the majority of human beings believe to be 'above average' attributes, then we are left with (I shouldn't say 'left with', I should say 'blessed with') the people who are not shallow. Females get to have the man who doesn't care whether her body is a perfect 10, and men get to have the females who don't care about whether he is 6". I actually think we get the better end of the stick. Physical attributes shouldn't deter you from finding someone that wants to be with you. If you've fallen back on that excuse, then I highly suggest figuring out what it is about your personality or the way you carry yourself that's preventing you from finding someone. Some people are just not attractive to the opposite sex this idea that what you look like shouldnt hold you back from getting somebody is fairytalish I have a friend great guy good personality trusthworhty but women arent physically attracted to him,i try to hook him up all the time with homely women figuring at least one of them woulld like him but no
USMCHokie Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I completely agree with Elswyth. This same concept can be applied to females. Men like looking at women with nice breasts and a nice butt. But what about the girls who don't have those attributes? Sure, some of us will get surgery, but the majority of us have to deal with it. How do we deal with it? By making up for it in other areas. Such as our personality. If you are a person that lacks what the majority of human beings believe to be 'above average' attributes, then we are left with (I shouldn't say 'left with', I should say 'blessed with') the people who are not shallow. Females get to have the man who doesn't care whether her body is a perfect 10, and men get to have the females who don't care about whether he is 6". I actually think we get the better end of the stick. Physical attributes shouldn't deter you from finding someone that wants to be with you. If you've fallen back on that excuse, then I highly suggest figuring out what it is about your personality or the way you carry yourself that's preventing you from finding someone. Erica, I'm afraid these words will fall on deaf ears...I'm not sure why I bothered writing all of this myself on like page 4...but then again, this is simply social natural selection at work...the lame 'woe-is-me-because-I'm-not-six-feet-tall' crowd will naturally eliminate themselves from the dating pool...problem solved...
Sweetie1977 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Shorter guys need to lower their standards,chacnes are slim that youll ever get a really good looking women, women with options arent gonna want you when they cna get a Tall guy but you can get a women who cant fidn a Man and cant get the hot tall guy most of us want Just lower your standards and look for the average or homely women
EricaH329 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Some people are just not attractive to the opposite sex this idea that what you look like shouldnt hold you back from getting somebody is fairytalish I have a friend great guy good personality trusthworhty but women arent physically attracted to him,i try to hook him up all the time with homely women figuring at least one of them woulld like him but no There is always someone who will find you attractive. For some, it might be more difficult to find it. But to imply that no woman would find your friend attractive is absurd. Erica, I'm afraid these words will fall on deaf ears...I'm not sure why I bothered writing all of this myself on like page 4...but then again, this is simply social natural selection at work...the lame 'woe-is-me-because-I'm-not-six-feet-tall' crowd will naturally eliminate themselves from the dating pool...problem solved... You're probably right. I just had to get my input in there
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