Eeyore79 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Is there anyway for a guy who is on the shorter side to be atleast comparably as physically attractive to women as a tall guy? Not comparably physically attractive, unless the woman in question happens to like shorter guys (some do!). But you can be comparably attractive all round by demonstrating value in other areas. If I'm attracted to a guy mainly for his looks, he's probably tall and blue eyed. But I am often attracted to guys for reasons other than their looks, and in those cases the guy in question is probably confident, fun, a little cheeky, talkative, and he creates attraction more through his behaviour and conversation than through his looks. In other words, if he's a cool and desirable guy then his height is irrelevant. Quite often the tall handsome guys have no game whatsoever, and they rely on their height and looks to pull girls. A shorter or less physically attractive guy who is confident and on top of his game can easily blow the other guys out of the water.
Explorer Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Ladies, what height do I need to go for? The height that can put up with your personality
Yamaha Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 If you're shorter then you're not getting the plus points for being tall, so you have to make up for that by being great in other ways. So a tall guy has to do nothing but be tall. Your entitled to whatever makes you attracted but why would a guy waste his time with a women with this attitude? I would be on to the next and wish you well.
somedude81 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 God gave me great genes so I'm a 5'6 white guy My dating life has been absolutely horrible. Has being short negatively affected my attractiveness to women? I can only assume, yes. I really have no doubt that if I were 5'10 and nothing else about me changed, I would have had much more success with women. I have a huge handicap that I'm struggling to overcome with no success to speak of. Short + average looks + some speaking disfluencies ≠ attractive to women.
alphamale Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 So yeah, I don't get it. Do I need to go for women 4'10 and under? I looked at wikipedia and 4'10 is technically dwarfism (even for a woman). Does this mean because I am 5'7 that I am restricted to dating dwarfs? Serious question. no you don't have to date dwarfs (aka "little people"). you can date chicks up to 5'5" and there are a lot of them around.
SummerLady Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I am find that most women who wants a guy that is taller than them... thats why I usually go for women who are 5'2 and under (I am 5'7). But I am really at a loss when I see things like this: So yeah, I don't get it. Do I need to go for women 4'10 and under? I looked at wikipedia and 4'10 is technically dwarfism (even for a woman). Does this mean because I am 5'7 that I am restricted to dating dwarfs? Serious question. Oh God I laughed my azz off when I read -she posted her pics and yeah she is fat...Oh I needed that laugh tonight, thanks:)
Eeyore79 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 So a tall guy has to do nothing but be tall. Your entitled to whatever makes you attracted but why would a guy waste his time with a women with this attitude? I would be on to the next and wish you well. No, that isn't the case at all. A tall jerk is still a jerk. But I might see a tall or handsome guy and be attracted to him up front; he immediately has my interest without having to do anything. A shorter or less attractive guy wouldn't immediately get my interest without doing anything; he would have to create attraction in other ways, by being charming and confident and fun.
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 (edited) Women worship height believe me im 6 foot 3 and women have told me how amazing it is how tall iam, i dont let them know that being a few more more inches off the ground isnt some magical thing,its good for me that they believe it though:D Most my girflriends detested short guys for what reason i dont know,it wasnt just they werent attracted but they it seemd like they were actually annoyed at Men being on the short side,women are just goofy creatures This doesnt mean short guys cant get women but youll never be their first choice and youll be the settle guy not their ideal Man they fantasized about Edited May 13, 2010 by SteveC80
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 This is 100% truth. I like your posts SteveC you have a very accurate view of women. Were you an 'ugly duckling'? You sound like you've been on both sides of the fence. Some guys out there have this unrealistic high opinion of women and themselves because they themselves are very tall and good looking so they do not know what it is to be on the other side of the fence. I understand if women don't want to date a guy whose short, but what I never got is the hostility I feel sometimes from them just for existing. Let me tell you it's worse than racism, because it's considered acceptable. I've already accepted that I won't ever be a woman's first choice, but hey, that's what silver and bronze are for I was never an ugly duckling i always got girls and its kinda soured me on women from the things ive been through because even though Men get a bad rap women i think are more shallow then guys these days The things i got away with beause im i guess really good looking is astonishing,the times where women were standing there with their Man and left their Man and approached me and told me how much hotter iam then their boyfriends and asked to go out with me has left me not trusting women I know all women arent untrustworthy but way too many are these days
Green Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Just go after women you like no matter what height they are... And even if a woman says she wants a man over 5'7 make her reject you.
SilentVoice Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Those are the Bar Graphs that always stand out...makes you say what the hell??? Still holds true in both cases. Haha I just got that ... lol I seen a couple today the girl had to be like 4'11 and he was 6'4 ..Wow
DadofTwoGirls Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 a woman who is close to 6'...I'm 5'11" so 5'1" to 6'1" is my range...who cares if they're taller..if she doesn't mind then you know she isn't shallow.
Yamaha Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I might see a tall or handsome guy and be attracted to him up front; he immediately has my interest without having to do anything. A shorter or less attractive guy wouldn't immediately get my interest without doing anything; he would have to create attraction in other ways, by being charming and confident and fun. Just stick with the tall guys and save the charming, fun guys for women who find that physically attractive.
Yamaha Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I meet a girl I like, who seems to like me, is compatible with me and has a lot in common with me, and we have amazing chemistry...yet the tall guy with blue eyes who is slightly better looking but has nothing in common with her gets her every time. Don't worry about women like this; she isn't looking for a relationship, only relations. If your a good guy you will find the gal that appreciates you.
electricity Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Women worship height believe me im 6 foot 3 and women have told me how amazing it is how tall iam, i dont let them know that being a few more more inches off the ground isnt some magical thing,its good for me that they believe it though:D Most my girflriends detested short guys for what reason i dont know,it wasnt just they werent attracted but they it seemd like they were actually annoyed at Men being on the short side,women are just goofy creatures This doesnt mean short guys cant get women but youll never be their first choice and youll be the settle guy not their ideal Man they fantasized about Do I think tall guys are pretty to look at? Sure. I also think various actors are pretty to look at. It doesn't mean I'm interested in dating them. In fact, all else equal, my first choice in guys wouldn't be someone a whole foot taller than me - I can't see how the physical aspects of the relationship would work. So no, you don't need to be super tall to get girls. We may like looking at the tall dudes - doesn't mean we're only willing to date tall men.
USMCHokie Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Just go after women you like no matter what height they are... And even if a woman says she wants a man over 5'7 make her reject you. Quoted for truth.
bac Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I am find that most women who wants a guy that is taller than them... thats why I usually go for women who are 5'2 and under (I am 5'7). But I am really at a loss when I see things like this: So yeah, I don't get it. Do I need to go for women 4'10 and under? I looked at wikipedia and 4'10 is technically dwarfism (even for a woman). Does this mean because I am 5'7 that I am restricted to dating dwarfs? Serious question. It depends on how much money you make. My friend, 5,8, fat, bald, but he makes lots of money. So, he went for a girl who was 6'4 and they got married.
somedude81 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 But I might see a tall or handsome guy and be attracted to him up front; he immediately has my interest without having to do anything. A shorter or less attractive guy wouldn't immediately get my interest without doing anything; he would have to create attraction in other ways, by being charming and confident and fun. Do you have any idea how much it hurts to read this post? What you are saying, is that a short guy is the equivalent of a heavy girl. Both of us are at a handicap simply based on how we look. Unfortunately the heavy actually has an advantage because she can lose the weight. A short guy can never get taller. Also some men prefer bigger girls, I doubt any women prefer men under 5'8. Lastly simply by being a woman and having a vagina, she is guaranteed to have men after her as long as she is not a total slob. Wow, so while tall or average height guys can get women interested in them without doing anything, I need to work extra hard to have a f-ing chance.
USMCHokie Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Ok...how about this...instead of blaming your height for your dating woes, why not accept what you were given, and improve those areas that you can control so that height becomes irrelevant in the eyes of women...? If you're having difficulty with dating, I'm willing to bet the farm that it has nothing to do with your height, but some other deficiencies in personality, character, or other physical characteristics (besides height)... Height certainly is a factor in attractiveness, but it isn't the only factor...you can easily distinguish yourself in other ways that will make you very attractive to women...it just takes some self-awareness to identify areas you could work on and the discipline and determination to actually improve those areas... By constantly belly-aching about how you're so screwed because of your height, you're just using it as a crutch that will prevent you from achieving any semblance of self-improvement, and you'll never be successful with dating... Women do see the qualities other than height when they meet a guy...and chances are that women aren't seeing those other qualities because you simply don't have them... And if you say that you're already ideal boyfriend/husband material except for your height, then I think you have bigger issues to worry about and really need to take a good hard look at yourself...not necessarily on the outside, but on the inside... EDIT: I'm "only" 5' 8".
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Do I think tall guys are pretty to look at? Sure. I also think various actors are pretty to look at. It doesn't mean I'm interested in dating them. In fact, all else equal, my first choice in guys wouldn't be someone a whole foot taller than me - I can't see how the physical aspects of the relationship would work. So no, you don't need to be super tall to get girls. We may like looking at the tall dudes - doesn't mean we're only willing to date tall men. I never said shorter Men cant get women of course they can theryes only so many tall guys to go around for women You pretty much admitted you look at and admire tall guysproves my point,tall guys are admired and lusted after in a different way then shorter guys doesnt mean shorter guys cant get women they just dont get women as worked up and animalsitically into you as they are with a tall guy
Toki Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 The subject of height as never come up, but then again now that I think about it, I've always been taller than my female counterparts. I'm on the brink of 6' so, I suppose I fit the bill as "Taller than Average". I guess in the future I'll be more mindful of that.
USMCHokie Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 You pretty much admitted you look at and admire tall guysproves my point,tall guys are admired and lusted after in a different way then shorter guys doesnt mean shorter guys cant get women they just dont get women as worked up and animalsitically into you as they are with a tall guy This is similar to guys that are in decent physical shape versus those that aren't...it's just a different factor of attraction...but neither height nor physique are the determinative factors...
electricity Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 I never said shorter Men cant get women of course they can theryes only so many tall guys to go around for women You pretty much admitted you look at and admire tall guysproves my point,tall guys are admired and lusted after in a different way then shorter guys doesnt mean shorter guys cant get women they just dont get women as worked up and animalsitically into you as they are with a tall guy No, I never said I lusted after taller guys. I admire them like I admire a pretty flower or beautiful sunset. They're pretty to look at - end statement. Lust has no factor in it. When looking for a man to date, I prefer one who's gentlemanly enough to buy me the pretty flowers, romantic enough to watch the beautiful sunsets with me, and is confident enough to take me to movies that star the pretty eyecandy.
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 This is similar to guys that are in decent physical shape versus those that aren't...it's just a different factor of attraction...but neither height nor physique are the determinative factors... They arent determnig factors for all but are for tons And it is a different factor/level of attractions,its aww hes so cute to compared to Jesus hes hot let him just take me and do what he pleases
SteveC80 Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 (edited) No, I never said I lusted after taller guys. I admire them like I admire a pretty flower or beautiful sunset. They're pretty to look at - end statement. Lust has no factor in it. When looking for a man to date, I prefer one who's gentlemanly enough to buy me the pretty flowers, romantic enough to watch the beautiful sunsets with me, and is confident enough to take me to movies that star the pretty eyecandy. Regardless of personal preference you admit being Tall is an amazingly beautiful attractive trait thats great to stare at and admire you dont stare at shortness in the same way Shrotness is not the "eyecandy" you speak of but you realize what high demand tall guys are in so you rather a short guy whos less likely to cheat on you while you admire us from afar Edited May 13, 2010 by SteveC80
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