bruisedbutnotbroken Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Hello world. I was recently dumped (almost 2 months now). I cried the first night we broke up, but ever since I've tried to block any emotion for him out of my mind and my heart. It's complete torture because I think about him everyday. My family and friends say that not grieving is unhealthy, but I am not going to just sit around and cry over him. That takes time and energy and I'm just not willing to give him that. I can't do it. I'm afraid that once I start to cry, the floodgates will open and the dam won't be able to plug it back up. I don't want to feel vulnerable and open to him. Why does he still have this hold on me? I don't want to open myself up to the world of pain that crying will introduce. Is there anyway around this? Someone, anyone, please...I need advice and honest feedback on what to do. I need to move on, but I can't cry...
stayingstrong12 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 There's nothing wrong with letting out a good cry. He doesn't have to know your crying yah know? You should just let it all come out and you will feel 10 times better. I learned you can't keep your emotions inside because one day your just gonna explode. Keep your head up. Do you guys still talk?
sugarmomma Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 A good cry is healing for your heart and soul. Let it flow. Its okay!
USMCHokie Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 I'm going to agree with the above posters...I'm a guy, and when my ex left me, there were some nights where I just had to let it out...and I let it happen every time until the tears stopped flowing and I just couldn't cry anymore...and that's when I knew that things would get better...and that I would get better... Attempting to "be strong" and hold in your emotions will just force them to fester inside you until one day you just break and it might get bad for you...there's no shame in crying and letting your emotions out...until you allow yourself to do this, he will have that hold on you...
D-Lish Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 What's the worst thing that can happen if you cry? Think of it that way. You won't die, you won't explode, you won't melt... Crying is a good release- and it's called a release because you let a bit of the hard part go. The more you let it go, the more you can be open to healing. I say let yourself cry.
Author bruisedbutnotbroken Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 There's nothing wrong with letting out a good cry. He doesn't have to know your crying yah know? You should just let it all come out and you will feel 10 times better. I learned you can't keep your emotions inside because one day your just gonna explode. Keep your head up. Do you guys still talk? He texts me once a week to "check on me." He says he still cares, misses me, and still wants to be friends, but I still love him, so I'm trying my hardest to keep my distance from him and limiting contact. It's really hard tho.
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