torranceshipman Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 quit relying on your Daddy for everything. you say you earn money - so act like a responsible adult and leave your Dad out of it. get a basic phone and plan = minimal money. IMMEDIATELY! unless, of course, you like this drama... ! That is a bit harsh! She is only 17 - I like the fact that her parents help her out. It is fine that her dad helps her and there is a limit to how independent a 17 yr old can be, seriously. And you know, this poster is still a kid (I mean that in a nice way) with very little life experience, i.e. easy target for a douche bag such as this MM, and is dealing with the fact that some almost-40 married douche bag has given her herpes after being her first, breaking her heart - and is now harassing her...and is, on top of all that, feeling the need to hide it from her parents. The MM is an absolute POS. He is just lucky that she hasn't told her dad, as if she had, the guy would have no workable arms or legs to play polo with by now
Author alg24 Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 Keep venting. Anytime you feel like it. About your phone, I understand your dad is away and can't change the number right now, but you can turn it off and not use it. Borrow someone else's phone, or use a pay phone if you need to make a call. Though I still think you should "accidently lose it" aka SMASH IT, and (in this case it's OK) do a little white lie to your dad and say you lost it or it was stolen. I doubt very much he's going to get angry, or think you're irresponsible. You're 21, far from being a young teen. Yes and I will do that. I use the phone bare min. right now (mostly to call mom etc.) But if I smash it and my dad replaces it unless I say hey we need to talk, I need a new number... I will get the old number... Its not an excuse. But my number is in the process of being changed.
Author alg24 Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 That is a bit harsh! She is only 17 - I like the fact that her parents help her out. It is fine that her dad helps her and there is a limit to how independent a 17 yr old can be, seriously. And you know, this poster is still a kid (I mean that in a nice way) with very little life experience, i.e. easy target for a douche bag such as this MM, and is dealing with the fact that some almost-40 married douche bag has given her herpes after being her first, breaking her heart - and is now harassing her...and is, on top of all that, feeling the need to hide it from her parents. The MM is an absolute POS. He is just lucky that she hasn't told her dad, as if she had, the guy would have no workable arms or legs to play polo with by now Thanks.. I am 21 now... Not looking for sympathy etc. Buts its very hard... I never thought I would "fall in love" (this is not love) with MM and I never felt anything like this before... The pain... Its VERY hard... And I do not make an excuse but he was my first... In MANY ways... And I take my blame but he knew full well... I really did give him my heart, body, and soul... My fault... When I first met him I was very guarded... And slowly I let little barriers down at a time. I completely exposed myself to him... As I said I do not ask for sympathy but I do not come here to just vent and then a couple weeks later take him back NO. But he sure as hell knew how to play me... THIS IS DONE FOR ME!
Author alg24 Posted May 14, 2010 Author Posted May 14, 2010 Honey, as a parent of a 22 year old daughter, whose cell phone we still pay, what I would want IS TO KNOW IF SHE WERE IN A BAD SITUATION SO THAT I COULD HELP HER. As parents of young adults we are able to handle crisis. I know you want to protect your MM, but your parents should know what you are going through. I don't expect my daughter to worry about upsetting us if she is in a situation where she could use our support. Hi, and very true... I am not trying to protect my MM.. Honestly, look what he did to me! (Especially the police the last couple days) But the end of last year and this year in November I told my parents a lot of stuff. I could see the look on their faces.... The stress. They knew it was more of a bad situation... I blame myself for going back... I truly do not want my parents worrying. I am moving home in a week and a half... I can tell my dad then that I want a new cell phone number. YES, changing my cell phone will help BUTTT I need to change as well. I need to NOT call MM. I need to NOT answer numbers I do not know. Hey, getting a new number I could just as easily call MM (I would NOT do that.. But just saying) So RIGHT NOW I am hardly using my phone. The house phone is disconnected! And for a temp. solution that is what I am doing. Some can look at this an excuse (me waiting for MM to call me etc.) NO NO NO. But I know my reasonings for this... And I love my parents, and yes they are parents BUT I put myself in this mess MANY times and I am not going to stress them out. Right now I do not think I am in any danger. And I just need to keep away from the phone!
Mimolicious Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Anyone heard about "Caller ID Spoofer", "Text.com" and "Trapped Call"??? Those messages, calls, etc can be from even your own relatives that may not like the situation! Anyone can buy a caller ID spoofer and display your number. Change your number, NC and keep it moving. They say that behind every crime there is a woman. People love to play with each other's emotions not knowing that one day someone may snap. People end up dead for stupidity like this! You can end up arrested too! so dont believe the hype that you are the "victim" here. You go in front of a judge against a BS and you are not so much going to look like the "Nice girl". It takes a lot of prove but why go through the motions?!
jthorne Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 (edited) Alg, I know you have said that you don't want to worry your parents about both xIdiot and the phone. I have never been a parent, but I am almost old enough to be your mother. All I can say is that if you were my daughter, it would hurt me far more that you felt you couldn't come to me than any of what you have gone through. If I were your mother and knew something was going on, I would do everything in my power to help you. I don't know what your relationship is with your parents, but I do know they gave you birth, and most likely love you more than everyone else ever will. I know you are an adult and a big girl capable of taking care of yourself. It's not just xIdiot. It's you. This has broken you, and leaving him isn't going to fix it completely. You're doing great by getting rid of him finally, and I hope you will continue to post here. You can heal, and I know you can do it. I believe in you. But I really feel like you need more help than what an anonomous Internet forum can provide. Edited May 15, 2010 by jthorne
whichwayisup Posted June 2, 2010 Posted June 2, 2010 Hey, A! You've been really quiet..Too quiet. Hope things are okay.. Do an update soon.
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