Snugglepuss Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 How can I help but think that every guy will just end up cheating on me? I have never met a guy that I really wanted from the very beginning. I just have never been so attracted to anyone to the point where I wanted them bad. Of all my relationships/dates I'm usually never that interested in the other person. I usually just kind of fall for someone after awhile maybe because of proximity or maybe they are just so persistent. And I usually will hold off for months because I do not want to be in a relationship with that other person. But after sometime, I will fall in love when that person has grow on me. For example, with my last ex, I did not want to be with him initially..for several months and then I finally caved. 5 years later and I'm so in love with him yet he betrayed me and I disappeared on him. I have come to realize that it seems almost inevitable that my boyfriends will always cheat on me or leave me for another girl. How can I ever marry someone knowing that they may just do that to me? I am ****ed. I feel like a MAJORITY of men need newness and variety. They think with their penises and all that usual stereotype. I mean, it is a scientifically proven fact that men as far back as Neanderthals are programmed to sow their seeds in as many women as possible. It is also a fact that Neanderthals stay with their mates for a period of about a year just long enough to produce a child and then he moves on.
cmichael16 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Well, I cant speak for every man out there, but I am one of those who mates for life, unfortunately I hav enow had 2 great relationships crumble because I was so devoted, one being my marriage and one being a 2.5 year relationship.
Fouts Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Well ya, most men would prefer to have a harem at their disposal from the onset of puberty. But in the end, alot of them stick around for the kids and family life. So you've got a sporting chance
cmichael16 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Well ya, most men would prefer to have a harem at their disposal from the onset of puberty. But in the end, alot of them stick around for the kids and family life. So you've got a sporting chance Honestly, for me, if I love someone I couldnt harm them by cheating, the only woman I will open my pants for is the woman I love or am falling in love with. guess that makes me crazy. I am 27 and the thought of cheating makes me sick
Author Snugglepuss Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 Rationally, I know there are good men out there but I don't think I will ever meet The One. I am just a hopeless romantic. Sigh.
Eeyore79 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Lol, men were never Neanderthals. We are Homo sapiens, not Homo neanderthalensis. Neanderthals were an entirely different species to us
octopus Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Modern man could not have changed from WHEN they were Neanderthals because modern man were NEVER Neanderthals to begin with. Neanderthals were a completely different species of hominid that coexisted with Homo sapiens. Due to our superior intelligence we out competed the Neanderthals and they eventually died out. I have never cheated on a partner of mine and I will never cheat on any future partner I may have. Cheating is disgusting.
ADF Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Try this: grow up. You want an iron-clad guarantee that no man will ever cheat on you or dump you? Ha! Hold old are you, 10? Forget get about it. Such guarantees do not exist in this world. Not for women, and not for men. There is no such thing as a risk-free relationship. Don't be one of these foolish people who is so determined never to get hurt that they never get happy, either. If every guy you ever dated ended up cheating on you, the common denominator is YOU. Has it occured to you that you are making some pretty poor choices in men? Instead of just letting random guys drift into your life and having them grow on you, try dating someone you actually like. Someone you feel you can trust. And please forget the sociobiology nonsense. It doesn't even make sense. We are homo sapiens, not neanderthals.
Woggle Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 There are plenty of men who are faithful and if you look at this board you will see that plenty of women cheat as well.
Author Snugglepuss Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 Lol. I guess you're all right. I am just a jilted ex-female homo sapien sapien. If I date someone I actually like, I will probably be waiting until I'm 50. I must be so shallow. Lol.
USMCHokie Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 There are plenty of men who are faithful and if you look at this board you will see that plenty of women cheat as well. Agreed. Cheating does not discriminate based on gender...women are just as apt and likely to cheat as the guys...so maybe you should pick better guys...?
carhill Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 For example, with my last ex, I did not want to be with him initially..for several months and then I finally caved. Great example. A good man with options will accept your rejection and not pursue you for 'several months'. He will move on to a woman who does want him and build a monogamous life with her. Perhaps, the next time, try building a relationship with someone you do want to be with. If you never meet anyone you want to be with, then it's time to hold a mirror up and examine why. Those answers lie within yourself. The good news is that, regardless of your perspective about relationships, men will still show you romantic interest and approach you, so you will repeatedly have opportunities to enjoy other potential paths. Imagine having that perspective (never meeting anyone you want to be with) as a man. Romantic wasteland.....
GrayClouds Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 How can I help but think that every guy will just end up cheating on me? I have never met a guy that I really wanted from the very beginning. I just have never been so attracted to anyone to the point where I wanted them bad. Of all my relationships/dates I'm usually never that interested in the other person. I usually just kind of fall for someone after awhile maybe because of proximity or maybe they are just so persistent. And I usually will hold off for months because I do not want to be in a relationship with that other person. But after sometime, I will fall in love when that person has grow on me. For example, with my last ex, I did not want to be with him initially..for several months and then I finally caved. 5 years later and I'm so in love with him yet he betrayed me and I disappeared on him. I have come to realize that it seems almost inevitable that my boyfriends will always cheat on me or leave me for another girl. How can I ever marry someone knowing that they may just do that to me? I am ****ed. I feel like a MAJORITY of men need newness and variety. They think with their penises and all that usual stereotype. I mean, it is a scientifically proven fact that men as far back as Neanderthals are programmed to sow their seeds in as many women as possible. It is also a fact that Neanderthals stay with their mates for a period of about a year just long enough to produce a child and then he moves on. Cheaters are sad excuses for human beings but if this is true with every guy you dated, then the one constant in the equation is YOU. So maybe stop blaming men an look at your own behavior starting with your statement in bold. You get what you put out, as your avatar suggest, you may be projecting a message that your not intending to communicate. If your not interested in someone yet persue relationships with them anyway, do you think your attract men who are serious about you or maybe just the trill of the chase? And do not blame it on some pre-programed genes. The human genome has over 30,000 genes with no one affection behavior greater then another. So it is silly to blame it on that. It is just another rationalization for YOU making bad choice about then men you date and not looking at yourself and how you are creating a self fulfilling prophecy based on your own issues. It may be time for you to focus on become a better you, if you do you will attract a better them.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 I'm a man, and I think the same thing about women. On my darker days, I think this about men. For the record, I've never cheated. If it's not working, you work on it and/or end the relationship. But you never cheat.
shadowofman Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Sorry. I'm really into Paleoantropology. Homo Neanderthals are a different species that evolved in Europe from Homo Erectus. Men evolved from Erectus independently in Africa. But other than that, your right.
Author Snugglepuss Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 Yes, sorry about the mix up when I say "Man" or "Men". But what I mean is that men like Neanderthals have a tendency to sleep around and it is encoded in their DNA. They were a promiscuous bunch. Besides, there is still the notion that there may have been some inter-species breeding among modern humans and Neanderthals. I don't mean to get the men riled up on here. I just needed to vent about my frustrations. When I say every boyfriend has cheated on me, I only mean two. I've only had two boyfriends ever and it's because I'm the type of person who always works so hard to maintain the relationship and for years, I guess I am the one who gets left in the dust in the end.
shadowofman Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 I know what you meant. I was just being a smart ass. Betrayal is universally human, male and female. But you are right. Us men like the lot of you ladies.
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