Guy at barbeque!

[cutieh]

I was at a barbeque.

 

This guy came up to me and kept offering me to pour me a glass of pop. I said no thanks because i didn't like that kind of pop. Then later after we ate he offered to throw away my plate. I said sure and thank you. I thought he was going to talk to me some more after that but he started talking to this girl that was sitting next to me.

 

I was attracted to him and I thought he was nice. So why did he offer to pour my cup and throw away my plate if he wasnt going to talk with me?

[MrNate]

I was at a barbeque.

 

This guy came up to me and kept offering me to pour me a glass of pop. I said no thanks because i didn't like that kind of pop. Then later after we ate he offered to throw away my plate. I said sure and thank you. I thought he was going to talk to me some more after that but he started talking to this girl that was sitting next to me.

 

I was attracted to him and I thought he was nice. So why did he offer to pour my cup and throw away my plate if he wasnt going to talk with me?

 

Well, he can be nice to you without being attracted to you after all. I think the lesson here is that chivalry isn't dead.

[cutieh]

also i was talking to my female friend and he interrupted us and started talking to her. i just walked away cause i didnt understand why he did that

[MrNate]

also i was talking to my female friend and he interrupted us and started talking to her. i just walked away cause i didnt understand why he did that

 

Maybe he is just interested in that girl? You may be looking too much into this, no?

[Rorschach]

Chivalry is definitely not dead, I consider myself a very chivalrous person, I hold the door open for complete strangers, I'll offer to take care of trash/pour drinks for people. So it definitely could have just been that.

 

Or could have been that for whatever reason he wasn't picking up your 'interested' signs and figured you weren't interested in him so he moved on, that could happen to me too

[cutieh]

i didnt give him any idea that i wasnt interested he asked me if i wanted this type of pop and i said no thank you. then he asked if he could throw away my plate i said yes thank you. i thought he was going to come back and talk to me but he started talking to this girl next to me. and then he interrupted me and my friend and started to talk to her. I was thinking that he was trying to make me jealous so i would be interested in him. but i was already attracted to him, but i guess he didnt know i dont know.

[Eeyore79]

Maybe he was interested, but was shy and didn't know how to start a conversation with you.

[SomewhatExperienced]

i didnt give him any idea that i wasnt interested he asked me if i wanted this type of pop and i said no thank you. then he asked if he could throw away my plate i said yes thank you. i thought he was going to come back and talk to me but he started talking to this girl next to me. and then he interrupted me and my friend and started to talk to her. I was thinking that he was trying to make me jealous so i would be interested in him. but i was already attracted to him, but i guess he didnt know i dont know.

 

Fail on your part. Sounds like the guy was probably probing to see if you'd spark conversation or give some sort of sign you're interested. Eye contact, a smile, maybe ask him a question to start a conversation. If you just said "thank you" and went on your way, then why would he waste time?

 

Some guys are actually pretty good at picking up the subtle signs women give. If you didn't give him ANYTHING, he probably figured he'd be wasting his time. Maybe that other girl flashed him a smile and made eye contact and that was enough to get the rest of it going.

[cutieh]

Fail on your part. Sounds like the guy was probably probing to see if you'd spark conversation or give some sort of sign you're interested. Eye contact, a smile, maybe ask him a question to start a conversation. If you just said "thank you" and went on your way, then why would he waste time?

 

Some guys are actually pretty good at picking up the subtle signs women give. If you didn't give him ANYTHING, he probably figured he'd be wasting his time. Maybe that other girl flashed him a smile and made eye contact and that was enough to get the rest of it going.

 

that was not true i smiled at hm when he said can i take your plate. he had to walk over to the trash to throw the plate away. so i couldnt strike up conversation. i thought he was going to come back and say something but he talked to this girl that was sitting next to me she did nothing and when my friend and i was talking he just interrupted us she was looking at me and he came from behind her and was facing me so i could see him

[MrNate]

that was not true i smiled at hm when he said can i take your plate. he had to walk over to the trash to throw the plate away. so i couldnt strike up conversation. i thought he was going to come back and say something but he talked to this girl that was sitting next to me she did nothing and when my friend and i was talking he just interrupted us she was looking at me and he came from behind her and was facing me so i could see him

 

 

Well here's a better idea, just talk to the guy. He's not going to know you are attracted to him just because you smiled.

[Ihavenoidea]

lol, he probably did all that to you to impress the other girl. I know lots of guys who will act nice towards people hoping some onlooker will notice, in this case the "other" girl.

[Lakeside_runner]

Haha, you guys would have made an awesome couple Here's your first conversation:

 

Him: "Can I pour you a cup of (whatever soda)?"

You: "No, thank you."

Chirp, chirp... cricket, cricket...

 

Another example:

 

Him: "Can I throw your plate away?"

You: "Yes, thank you."

Chirp, chirp... cricket, cricket...

 

Gosh, if you don't like Coke for instance, why not say it! It would be then like:

 

Him: "Can I pour you a cup of (whatever soda)?"

You: "No, thank you, I don't like Coke. I prefer Sprite."

Him: "OK, would you like some Sprite then?"

You: "Yes, please! I really crave some pop now, all that food made me thirsty!"

 

and so it flows...

[mike1988]

I was at a barbeque.

 

This guy came up to me and kept offering me to pour me a glass of pop. I said no thanks because i didn't like that kind of pop. Then later after we ate he offered to throw away my plate. I said sure and thank you. I thought he was going to talk to me some more after that but he started talking to this girl that was sitting next to me.

 

I was attracted to him and I thought he was nice. So why did he offer to pour my cup and throw away my plate if he wasnt going to talk with me?

 

Did you indicate you were attracted to him? Smile and act friendly...generally keep staring at him during the event? Make sure he saw you staring then seductively smile?

 

Unless you did that, I'd figure you weren't interested in me.

[cutieh]

lol, he probably did all that to you to impress the other girl. I know lots of guys who will act nice towards people hoping some onlooker will notice, in this case the "other" girl.

 

but he did it twice with two different girls and they werent that attractive, but maybe they were to him and i know looks arent everything, but it was like he was trying to make me mad or jealouse. you dont keep doing that.

[tkgirl]

but he did it twice with two different girls and they werent that attractive, but maybe they were to him and i know looks arent everything, but it was like he was trying to make me mad or jealouse. you dont keep doing that.

 

oh cutieh.. what are we going to do with you?

was it his BBQ? either that or he was just "working the room".. let it go and stop reading so much into it...

[Ihavenoidea]

Doesn't sound like hes interested. Sounds like he was just being nice. Some guys are like that. If i am at a BBQ I will offer to do those things without having any interest in the women. its just being nice.

 

id forget about it