Roy_4u Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Hey all, So i'm interested in this very lovely girl and I think she likes me too. Unfortunately we live 200 miles away from each other. We've met a few times, gone on dates and like each other ..but due to the long distance most of our communication happens over the phone. The problem is that I am not that talkitive but she LOVES to talk. Often on our daily hour long conversations, I run out of ideas on things to talk about and therefore shut up. This irritates her and makes her feel that I am not communicative and I think she is even having doubts if I am a good match for her. Now I am not shy ...it's just that after a few minutes I run out of things to talk about and my brain goes dead. Can any of you women out there give me any tips on how I can keep a conversation going for an hour with her and make her feel that I am involved and interested in her? because I really am. Please note that we're still friends officialy ..not lovers. So the conversation needs to be general everday, funny etc. I don't think we both are ready to discuss feelings yet ..and I don't want to hurry into that. Thanks! Roy
alphamale Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 you shouldn't talk with her on the phone for that long - it turns you into one of her girlfriends
Rorschach Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I was in a long distance relationship for a good 15 months before we moved in together (which turned out to be a mistake, but thats neither here nor there) we would talk on the phone for hours at a time. For me the conversation always flowed very naturally but there were days when I felt there just wasn't that much to talk about, those days I mostly just resorted to asking questions about her day, if I couldn't think of anything to talk about I'd just get her to talk haha. Questions=conversation power.
carhill Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 OP, insightful questions are the easiest solution and I agree with Alpha that phone time should be limited. Keep in touch, since it's LDR, but don't talk for hours, unless and until you're regularly sexually active. Then, such talk is merely an extension of, and a prelude to, bedroom talk Also, during that 'hour' (or less), be sure to flirt, talk dirty, use innuendo and double-entendre. Leave no doubt that you're a man and she's a woman and you do have a penis. Good luck
Romance Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 When I click with someone, we just automatically have things to talk about--like my bf for example. she sounds like she puts no effort in. its a two way street.
sagetalk Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Long phone conversations are generally a bad idea unless you're well into the relationship. She will make you a friend, and not the kind you want to be.
USMCHokie Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Long phone conversations are generally a bad idea unless you're well into the relationship. She will make you a friend, and not the kind you want to be. I agree, but I feel that long phone conversations are a bad idea all the time...I'd rather just see the person face-to-face...and I avoid LDR's...
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