collegemommy Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 collegemom: there are better times ahead for you, dont worry thank you... I know you're right
skydiveaddict Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 I'm afraid that I'll never have sex again... Don't worry devil dog, I'm sure you'll find a way for that to happen
Egychick Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I worry that he hates me. Or is disgusted by me. I also worry that he is celebrating his new found freedom and going around flirting and doing God knows what with other women. I worry that I didn't mean much to him...that i was just fun for him. I worry that he will forget all the good things about me, and only focus on the 1 big mistake I made, and that will overshadow everything...even the terrible things he's done for me. I still get those knots in my stomach that don't allow me to eat or sleep well. It sucks sooo bad....sure, he's not spending a moment thinking about me. If he does...it's probably negative thoughts....
BiAxident Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 What worried me the most was that I would have to make a choice about getting back together if she offered me the chance. That I would get dumped while in lawschool and sacrifice the potential to be able to support myself and my father, and that I would have wasted more of her time. What worries me the most is that my indecision has cost me the chance to get back together with the only GF I've ever had, and the only person I can picture myself with. That, and global economic collapse brought about by hyperflation and severe energy shortages.
heavensmesenger Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I worry that I'll never find the love what we had ever again. I worry that she's thinking she's glad to get rid of me and I was never good enough. The biggest thing I worry about? What if this happens again with the next person? What if they cheat on me as well after investing so much time and emotion?
hurt and devastated Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 I worry that my wife won't believe the changes I made were genuine and permanent. I worry that even after being apart and having time to work on her own problems that she won't want me back. I worry that I won't be able to handle seeing my daughter and stepson only once a week. I worry that she is seeing other people instead of working on herself like she said she was. I worry that if we end up getting divorced that I won't be able to move on. I worry she is already over me and is moving on. I worry that the pain and lonliness I'm feeling will never go away. Most of all for my kids' sake I worry that I'm not going to make it. I know that's a lot of worries but this just happened less than a week ago and I'm all over the place mentally and emotionally.
r6060 Posted June 22, 2010 Posted June 22, 2010 1) She hurt me worse than anyone ever could. I don't know how to be mad at her. I know I never will. I know I need to if I am gonna get past where I am. I'm very worried I will never move past where I am. 2) I feel very very broken as a person. I'm mad at myself for letting someone have the power to break me this badly. She is the only one I have ever given that much power to. I did because I have been best friends with her for 25 years and she is the only one in 44 years of life that had never ever let me down and I knew never would or ever could. The bond, trust and respect that she and I carried between us our whole lives even when we were in other relationships, even when we weren't in contact, married to other people and in other countries, it was just more. How will I ever be able to let anyone in again even close to this? I never will. I will never let another person in that close. I think I'm broken permanently. I'm worried I won't ever be not broken. 3) I want her to be happy more than anything, I truly love her and she deserves to smile every day like she used to make me smile. I know she want's the same thing for me - I really do. But some days I really wish she hurt so much she just stood in the shower forever and cried like I do. I'm afraid about what wishing she felt as miserable, lost and incomplete as I do says about me as a person. She doesn't wish how I feel on me, I'm worried that makes her not only happier than me but a better person than me too. 4) She tells me that she still loves me as much as she always has and has since she was 16, she still thinks about me all the time, and that if we are meant to be together she trusts someday we will and that she knows it will be perfect and forever if it happens. I know in my heart that it's true. It's been 9 months and still feels like it was yesterday. I'm very worried I will never really let go, she will never end the path she just started and I will be alone, hurting badly forever waiting while she is living her life.
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