rough_diamonds Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 That when I go to my bfs house (maybe twice a week) he like stays on facebook and msn and just like chats to people while I sit there. Like he'll talk to me as well but I'm not his main focus and he'll continue to chat/browse. I don't say anything but yeah kinda annoys me...whatcha think? Same applies to his iPhone. How would you handle it?
amerikajin Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 That when I go to my bfs house (maybe twice a week) he like stays on facebook and msn and just like chats to people while I sit there. Like he'll talk to me as well but I'm not his main focus and he'll continue to chat/browse. I don't say anything but yeah kinda annoys me...whatcha think? Same applies to his iPhone. How would you handle it? If it's occasional, maybe it's not too rude, but if it's a frequent thing, then yeah, rude.
Rorschach Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I sya it's rude no matter what, that would be a complete turn off, end it right there. To me thats so rude I can't believe anybody would actually do that.
Author rough_diamonds Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Another thing - he never wants to do anything outside of his house. I know he doesn't have a lot of money at the moment but I tried to compromise. I bought a cup cake mixture over and asked him if we could make it. He said he "didn't wanna make them anymore but you can take them home and make them and give one to me". I was like okay... And then I asked if he wanted to watch a movie and he said he "didn't feel like it" so he basically crawled back into bed (granted he slept for most the day) and I was on the edge of the bed bored so I eventually just left. I'm trying but yeah I don't know if he relises he's being a bit of a jerk.
Rorschach Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Another thing - he never wants to do anything outside of his house. I know he doesn't have a lot of money at the moment but I tried to compromise. I bought a cup cake mixture over and asked him if we could make it. He said he "didn't wanna make them anymore but you can take them home and make them and give one to me". I was like okay... And then I asked if he wanted to watch a movie and he said he "didn't feel like it" so he basically crawled back into bed (granted he slept for most the day) and I was on the edge of the bed bored so I eventually just left. I'm trying but yeah I don't know if he relises he's being a bit of a jerk. Wow that guy sounds like a total ass, dump him. There are plenty of free things to do outside the house, and who doesn't want to make cupcakes with your girlfriend! God that leads to all kinda kinky batter opportunities.
lino Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I wouldn't put up with that. Another thing - he never wants to do anything outside of his house. I know he doesn't have a lot of money at the moment but I tried to compromise. I bought a cup cake mixture over and asked him if we could make it. He said he "didn't wanna make them anymore but you can take them home and make them and give one to me". I was like okay... And then I asked if he wanted to watch a movie and he said he "didn't feel like it" so he basically crawled back into bed (granted he slept for most the day) and I was on the edge of the bed bored so I eventually just left. I'm trying but yeah I don't know if he relises he's being a bit of a jerk. Sounds like a pretty boring bloke to me. What a waste of life to stay inside all the time!!
Lakeside_runner Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Now seriously, WHERE DID YOU FIND THIS GUY!?!?!?!?!
Ihavenoidea Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I dated a girl like this. Had to end it because it was so dumb. When I have a woman over my focus is all on them. Why would I be on facebook while they were over. I dont do it because I think it is rude. there are a million things to do that are FREE outside the house. Go hiking, go have a picnic in the park, some zoos are free, a lot. I'd move on if I were you.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 And people say the interent hasn't affected society for the negative! Ugg @ facebook. Keeping contact with people you never see and displaying all your lame vacation pictures, your adorable puppy and how you just went to the store to buy peanut butter!
Author rough_diamonds Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 I don't just wanna "move on" but should I bring it up somehow.. subtly?
Jersey Shortie Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Yes. Bring it up. Just tell him that when you are with him, you want to spend time with *him*. Not him and his computer. Ask him to do things outside of the house. If he doesn't like to do those things, and you do, this could be an imcompatabily issue.
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I don't just wanna "move on" but should I bring it up somehow.. subtly?How long have you been seeingthis guy? It sounds like what he has in mind for the relationship isn't the same as you.
phineas Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 And people say the interent hasn't affected society for the negative! Ugg @ facebook. Keeping contact with people you never see and displaying all your lame vacation pictures, your adorable puppy and how you just went to the store to buy peanut butter! It's not facebook & it's not the internet. Those things do not make a person use them. The person chooses to use them. The OP's boyfriend chooses to look at facebook over his GF. Facebook doesn't make him do it. He is the one making the decision to do it. I personally would be more interested in getting a chick naked than checking someone's facebook status.
Author rough_diamonds Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Seeing each other for bout 2 months, friends for a year. He's a very relaxed kinda guy and is taking things slow so maybe he doesn't realise he's actually being rude. Either that or he's taken me for granted. I'll keep you guys update - thanks for the advice.
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