asrgal Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 It is so easy to find all negative stuff in a LDR. It is hard not to see yyour loved one :-( I wonder what some of you make it endure your LDR? What are the positive qualities of your partner? The positive between you guys that makes you live in a LDR? What keeps you going?
Els Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 The answer for me is simple: I've never found a guy like him before in 23 years.
Itsnotme Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 We've only been LDR for two and half months but we have come together again after being apart for 25 yrs. For me, I know he's my soulmate. I love his consistency in keeping in contact with me and the way he makes me feel alive. Even though its early days I love the fact that we had 'the talk' and both want the same things. He's kind, funny, considerate and just all round lovely. Yes, I hate the distance but I know he's the man for me.
pandagirl Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 It is so easy to find all negative stuff in a LDR. It is hard not to see yyour loved one :-( I wonder what some of you make it endure your LDR? What are the positive qualities of your partner? The positive between you guys that makes you live in a LDR? What keeps you going? For me, to endure the "apart" time, there needs to be good communication and trust. What made me want to do a LDR was I knew I would never find someone else like him, so why would I give him up? When we're apart, and I miss him, I just think about how wonderful our time is together, and it gets me through those times. Why give up something good, because it's a little hard?
madjac74 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I'd rather be with her once every 4 months than anyone else everyday. No ones ever made me laugh and smile so much and just a phone conversation with her makes me giddy all day. We actually split up for two weeks and didnt speak at all and thats when we both realized what we missed about each other and that the distance really didnt change that.
carvidep Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 here's a short list of things that 'keep me going': -the happy memories -snuggling with my body pillow at night after telling him that I plan to pretend to snuggle with him. he gets the cutest smile on his face when ever I say that (via skype). -talking to him at least 5 days a week, whether it be via skype, phone, e-mail, facebook, or text. -girl talk with my friends who all support me. -knowing that my parents adore him and can't wait to meet him when he visits. -knowing that I will be back in his country for at least 3 months, and possibly even a year if I get into a teaching assistant program which sounds very likely. -pics, videos, and little souveniers from our times together. -reading the very first love e-mail he sent me a year and a half ago. -knowing that he cares about me as much as I care about him. -not having definite expectations for our relationship, just going with the flow and growing stronger every day. sorry, got a little carried away with that. there's lots more little things that help every day, like certain songs on the radio, random things that remind me of moments we've spent together, keeping in touch with his friends, etc. but mostly it's knowing that I'll see him again in about 4 months that helps the most.
hoping2heal Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I'm a better person for knowing him. I really am. With every bf in the past I have to say I didn't like who I became during the course of our relationship; for one reason or another. Since this man has been a part of my life (17 wonderful months) I have grown and excelled as a person and I keep pushing towards my personal best. He inspires me so much all of the time. He makes me feel understood and loved and adored. I have never felt completed or had the pleasure of trully loving someone (although I felt plenty of intense "in love feelings" in the past - I know now that is not the same thing) Oh and did I mention I've never seen anyone so sexy When my pichu smiles there is not a man alive who can compete with him.
Pyro Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 What keeps me going? -Plain and simple: she is worth it. -The fact that her and I are so much alike and click perfectly. -She is absolutely breathtaking and sexy. -The most important thing: the LD aspect will only be temporary. We are going to do what it takes for us to be together.
Romance Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 The only thing is that he is a great guy and I don' t think I'd find anyone better. Other than that, I can barely handle this.
onemorecupofcoffee Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 This is just the post I need. This last year just flew by with my SO, even though we've been distance the entire time. I think it's really because we are such a great match, and it shows in every conversation we've had. I love his kind and gentle nature, such a great complement to my more impulsive and sometimes intense personality. But best of all, I love looking at our future together, and how confidently we both know we can make each other happy. That's what makes this wait worth it - that it is going to pay off very soon (in 1 year to be exact
Citizen Erased Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 We are in contact every single day. This is so important to me, I don't understand how people in an LDR can go without it. He makes me laugh without fail, we have a lot of fun. What I'm not getting in the physical sense is more than made up in every other way. No matter how sad I am without him, I would be far more upset if I didn't have him. That connection. How we are together, the way he looks at me, that everything felt so natural when we first met. He always makes sure I know he's thinking of me. He's patient, strong, kind, generous and playful. And sexy as hell. If I kept going I'd crash the server. There are a million reasons, in short if he isn't the person for me, I doubt anybody is. He makes everything worth being able to say he's mine.
WhitforBrit Posted May 14, 2010 Posted May 14, 2010 Ah, same here. But I've only met him once! But I just know. I get to see him for the second time (it's been a year) in 27 days! I'm freakin out!
Swederica Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 (edited) So are we. It is vital to both of us. We skype on a daily basis, the days that we don't are very rare. And if we don't get a chance to talk on the computer we are still in communication via phone and texting. We are not only in love but are also best friends, so being in communication is important to us. And same here. My girlfriend and i have become best friends and i need to talk to her everyday. Otherwise my survival are limited. Even tho she have to go away for an entire week and we won't be able to talk at all and i rly fear that day. I'm so scared. What keeps me going is that i know she's the one for me. I felt it the moment we met and felt it ever since. She keeps on going about how we are a "match made in heaven" and i can't do anything else but to agree with her. She's perfect. We are both young but we have the same plan for the future and want the same thing. We have like planned out our entire future and it feels just so natural. Like i've been married to her for 20 years or something. And knowing that our LDR will end in 2.5 months with me moving to her is very helping too. Edited May 15, 2010 by Swederica
Ashbash11 Posted May 15, 2010 Posted May 15, 2010 I will admit, after almost 2 years of long distance, it's hard to keep going.. BUT.. I have never met a guy who makes me feel so loved, and so special. He brightens up every aspect of my life. When he came to visit, my roommate said, "WOW! You lit up when he walked in the door!" Enough said.
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