The happy marriage thread

[Woggle]

I fully admit I am starting this thread to cheer me up after some of the things I have read on here. I was about to spew some more misogynist crap but I decided to focus on the positive instead so here I go.

 

Despite the fact that it is a daily struggle to not mistrust the opposite sex I have truly opened up and stopped doubting my wife and it really is great to have a woman in my life who truly does know how to love a man. What we have is not based on some chemical high but a true connection that hopefully will get stronger with age like fine wine. She stuck by me even after all the drama with the ex and she is everything a man can dream of in a woman.

[crazycatlady]

Woggle - beautiful post.

 

Right now I'm miffed as heck at my husband. Miffed. He irritated me this weekend very much and I'm struggling to let it go.

 

So I'm going to follow your example and try to bring to mind something good.

 

Last week we had gone out to dinner and when I went to the bathroom he sent me a text message asking me where I got my jeans and I should go by three more pairs of them. He followed that message with another one saying because they made me butt look divine and gave him a slight umm problem lol. Or something to that affect - had to change the language he was a little raw.

 

Its always nice to hear you turn off your love.

 

CCL

[xxoo]

Aw, Woggle, good to see you start this thread!

 

My H pampered me on mother's day. It was lovely. But the best part was when our oldest announced at the dinner table that we should go around and say what we love about Mommy (H is not mushy, and hates this stuff), and H sincerely volunteered "Mommy is my best friend". I know we are best friends, but he rarely says the words. Hearing him describe our relationship to our children that way was all the more sweet

 

Fine wine, baby, fine wine

[quankanne]

we don't spend a lot of time together even if we're physically in the same location, and from time to time it really bugs me. Tonight, while I was transplanting some purslane into pots, he came out of his smoking room (LOL, the garage) to come talk to me, which I really enjoyed. Because to me, the gift of self, freely offered, is the best gift someone can give

 

ooh, and he showed me this really cool trick using salt on slugs!

[quankanne]

What we have is not based on some chemical high but a true connection that hopefully will get stronger with age like fine wine. She stuck by me even after all the drama with the ex and she is everything a man can dream of in a woman.

 

you'll be amazed when you wake up one morning and realize you've been married to this person 10-12-15 years. And realize that while you've had your ups and downs and moments of drama, you wouldn't trade it for the world. And that's priceless ...

[Samantha0905]

I fully admit I am starting this thread to cheer me up after some of the things I have read on here. I was about to spew some more misogynist crap but I decided to focus on the positive instead so here I go.

 

Despite the fact that it is a daily struggle to not mistrust the opposite sex I have truly opened up and stopped doubting my wife and it really is great to have a woman in my life who truly does know how to love a man. What we have is not based on some chemical high but a true connection that hopefully will get stronger with age like fine wine. She stuck by me even after all the drama with the ex and she is everything a man can dream of in a woman.

 

I had 26 years of those years. And I will have some more.

 

Do you know I did not know there is an opposite to misogynist? Misandry. It goes both ways. Hatred sucks period Woggle. That's why it took me 48 years to figure out there is an opposite to the hatred of women. Why focus on it?

 

There are women in this world -- including me -- who know how to love a man just like your wife. Talk to me in 27 years. I don't like negative focus. Hell, I hope you and your current love interest run around in 27 years holding hands and feeling there could be no happier of a feeling than being together.

 

I'm happy you are happy. I hope you hope for happiness for others. Including people here who think couldn't possibly be like your wife. Or those you think are like your ex-wife. I hope she is okay too.

[locamia]

I love so many things about my husband of 9 years I dont even know where to start. He is the most selfless, content, and low-maintenence person I have ever met- NEVER complains, never wants much, never asks for anything and would do anything for his family. His job is killing him physically- he's only 29 but in constant pain, bad knees, etc- but he works his ass off even sucks up all the OT he can get so I can continue to stay home will our 3 young kids- never complains about it. Really if he had to choose 1 thing he wants he would probably say more sex BUT because I dont always want it he never initiates and never asks. Never makes me feel guilty either... He is very determined, always strives for more, and can easily handle any situation that is handed to him- truly a step up to the plate kind of guy. He is confident and good at everything he does but never needs reassurance and never wants praise... He is not afraid to say what he means or of what others think of him. Some dont like this kind of brutal honesty but I envy it. Being fairly insecure myself I am always afraid to say what I mean and very aware of how I look and how I come across. He could care less. No bull****. No games. Theres no guessing with him... He is a total goofball and I love it- keeps me laughing all day which is what I need, I tend to get too caught up in the things that stress me out... He is so strong and so unbelievably gorgeous and sexy! I am so grateful for him every day I honestly believe I never couldve found a better man

[seren]

I am happily married because (in no particular order)

 

He makes me laugh out loud, we have a very weird sense of humour

He paints my toe nails when my back is bad

He does a silly naked dance that just cracks me up

He squeezes my bum unexpectedly and makes me feel like a sexy woman

He likes me to sing to him when we are lying in bed on a lazy Sunday Morning

He doesn't complain when I satisfy my shoe fetish by buying expensive shoes I cannot walk in anymore

He texts me to make sure everything is OK

He tells me he adores me - he shows me he adores me

He carries my shopping from the car, opens doors

He is bloody gorgeous

I make him happy

He picks me violets

He eats my bloody awful yorkshire puddings and says their nice

I cannot imagine my world without him in it

Most of all - I love him because he loves me

[BlueeyedJonesy]

Woggle, for a while I was the exact same way you are about mistrust towards women. except I didn't trust men...period. It sucks and I am getting over it little by little. My H as usual made mother's day amazing! He had the kids make cards and he got me a card (that was sooo me) and cleaned our entire house and gave me a certificate to take ALL of the laundry to have it done..which is huge because our laundry is so hard to keep up with. He truly is an amazing man. there isn't a thing I don't love about him..he has a way of making me feel like I am the only woman in the world. I look forward to every minute I get to spend with him.

[Nikki Sahagin]

Woggle, i'm really proud that you made this thread and are choosing to be proactive for your marriage I'm not personally married but I would say, you chose this woman as your wife, so you should trust your judgement and be greatful for the good that she brings. If her behaviour causes you doubt or insecurity that is fair enough, but do not let other peoples wives, or general women or other marriages, mar your opinion of your wife.

[Woggle]

Nice job Woggle. Post some things you love about your wife, please.

 

She knows what true love is and is not out always chasing some chemical high

 

I know this is shallow but she looks damn good. I am not kidding when I say she looks half her age. She could pass for late 20s/early 30s

 

She is independent and makes good money but is not a manhating ballbuster and can appreciate gentlemenly gestures without taking advantage

 

She stuck by me after getting shot at

 

She has a genuinely good heart

[alphamale]

Despite the fact that it is a daily struggle to not mistrust the opposite sex I have truly opened up and stopped doubting my wife and it really is great to have a woman in my life who truly does know how to love a man. What we have is not based on some chemical high but a true connection that hopefully will get stronger with age like fine wine. She stuck by me even after all the drama with the ex and she is everything a man can dream of in a woman.

thats great Woggle

[crazycatlady]

She knows what true love is and is not out always chasing some chemical high

 

I know this is shallow but she looks damn good. I am not kidding when I say she looks half her age. She could pass for late 20s/early 30s

 

She is independent and makes good money but is not a manhating ballbuster and can appreciate gentlemenly gestures without taking advantage

 

She stuck by me after getting shot at

 

She has a genuinely good heart

 

She sounds like a wonderful woman, Woggle.

[mem11363]

Woggle,

You the man. You really do have a great woman.

 

My wife:

- Patiently and painstakingly sandblasted the rough edges off the 27 year old version of me she met

- Tenaciously loves me through thick and thin, good and bad

- Is independent and fiery, cuddly and warm

- Is fun and fun loving and playful and adventurous

 

Is hands down, without question, nothing else even comes close to coming close: The best thing that ever ever happened to me

 

And when I hear that song "Drops of Jupiter" I always think of her and picture us skating across the milky way hand in hand after we finish our stint here on Earth.....

 

Now that she's back in the atmosphere

With drops of Jupiter in her hair, hey

She acts like summer and walks like rain

Reminds me that there's a time to change, hey

Since the return from her stay on the moon

She listens like spring and she talks like June, hey, hey

 

But tell me, did you sail across the sun?

Did you make it to the Milky Way

To see the lights all faded

And that heaven is overrated?

 

Tell me, did you fall for a shooting star?

One without a permanent scar

And then you missed me

While you were looking for yourself out there?

 

Now that she's back from that soul vacation

Tracing her way through the constellation, hey

She checks out Mozart while she does Tae-Bo

Reminds me that there's room to grow, hey

 

Now that she's back in the atmosphere

I'm afraid that she might think of me as

Plain ol' Jane told a story about a man

Who was too afraid to fly so he never did land

 

But tell me, did the wind sweep you off your feet?

Did you finally get the chance

To dance along the light of day

And head back to the Milky Way?

 

And tell me, did Venus blow your mind?

Was it everything you wanted to find?

And then you missed me

While you were looking for yourself out there

 

Can you imagine no love, pride, deep-fried chicken

Your best friend always sticking up for you

Even when I know you're wrong?

 

Can you imagine no first dance, freeze-dried romance

Five-hour phone conversation

The best soy latte that you ever had, and me?

 

But tell me, did the wind sweep you off your feet?

Did you finally get the chance

To dance along the light of day

And head back toward the Milky Way?

 

But tell me, did you sail across the sun?

Did you make it to the Milky Way

To see the lights all faded

And that heaven is overrated?

 

And tell me, did you fall for a shooting star?

One without a permanent scar

And then you missed me

While you were looking for yourself?

 

And did you finally get the chance

To dance along the light of day?

And did you fall for a shooting star?

Fall for a shooting star?

And now you're lonely looking for yourself out there

 

 

 

 

She knows what true love is and is not out always chasing some chemical high

 

I know this is shallow but she looks damn good. I am not kidding when I say she looks half her age. She could pass for late 20s/early 30s

 

She is independent and makes good money but is not a manhating ballbuster and can appreciate gentlemenly gestures without taking advantage

 

She stuck by me after getting shot at

 

She has a genuinely good heart

[OWoman]

My H...

 

moved mountains so we could be together, and thanks me every day that we are. He wakes me each morning with a kiss and a cup of tea, which cools as we make wild and passionate love. He lets me shower first so I get enough hot water, even if it means he has to shave with cold He dresses for me, asking my advice on his outfit, and complimenting me on mine. When he makes breakfast (we take it in turns) he always gives me something special, and he always clears up, even when it's my turn. If he's going in to the office that day, he'll part passionately, stopping to text me on the way in to remind me he loves me. He will email me as soon as he arrives to remind me again, and send me several more texts, emails or calls throughout the day, however busy he is.

 

When he returns, he will be overjoyed to see me enjoying / wearing whatever treat he had delivered for me while he was away, and we will reconnect with wild passionate love before making dinner. If he is cooking, he will light candles, put on soft music, and infuse romance. If I am cooking, he will ply me with cocktails, help out with other chores and set the mood. After dinner we will take a stroll, arm in arm, to enjoy the crisp evening air, or sit in the garden and watch the sun set, or pop in to friends to say hi. Then we'll light a fire, lie in each other's arms on the couch in the lounge reading the day's papers and chatting, or watch the evening news in the TV room, or listen to music together while playing chess or scrabble. We'll go up to bed, make slow and gentle love, and read each other poetry and remind each other why we love them, before falling asleep in each other's arms.

[TaraMaiden]

My partner is opinionated, egotistic, selfish and hot-headed.

He's argumentative, quick to temper, but just as quick to laugh.

He's challenging, lazy, demanding, obsessed and irritable.

He has diabetes type II, some skin problems, severe wrist-joint problems and frequent digestive problems, also compounded by headaches.

He's a 100% dedicated to his legal studies right now, and nothing can sway or distract him.

He's frustrating and he's self-centred and he drives me insane.

 

But he's stimulating, interesting, articulate, affectionate, incredibly intelligent, determined; he's charming, tactile, passionate, ambitious and driven.

 

He has told me himself he doesn't treat me the way he should, and that he's not been the ideal partner.

I know without a shadow of a doubt that he adores me, needs me and would never love again, if I ever walked away.

I know I support him, underpin his reason for going on, and light up his world.

These are the kind of texts we exchange.....

 

*Me* - "What do you want to eat tonight?"

*Him* - I haven't thought about it, but I miss you, and want you home."

 

*me* - "Could you pop out and buy some potatoes?"

*Him* - "Yes, ok. I love you baby. I need a hug".

 

I absolutely love him to pieces, would die for him and can't imagine life without him.

This sums it up for me:

 

I'd like to run away from you,

but if you never found me I would die

I'd like to break the chains you put around me,

but I know I never will

 

You stay away and all I do is

wonder why the hell I wait for you

But when did common sense prevail

for lovers when we know it never will

 

Impossible to live with you,

but I know, I could never live without you

For whatever you do

I never, never, never want to be in love with anyone but you

 

You never treat me like you should, so what's the good of loving as I do?

Although you always laugh at love,

nothing else would be good enough for you

 

Impossible to live with you,

but I know, I could never live without you

For whatever you do

I never, never, never want to be in love with anyone but you

 

You make me laugh, you make me cry,

you make me live, you make me die, for you

You make me sing, you make me sad,

you make me glad, you make me mad, for you

 

I love you, hate you, love you, hate you

But I'll want you till the world stops turning

For whatever you do

I never, never, never want to be in love with anyone but you...

 

Shirley Bassey.

[xxoo]

Ooh! Songs!

 

We love this song--Angel by Jack Johnson. When it is playing in the car, H can't sing the bolded without squeezing my hand.

 

I've got an angel

She doesn't wear any wings

She wears a heart that can melt my own

She wears a smile that can make me wanna sing

She gives me presents

With her presence alone

She gives me everything I could wish for

She gives me kisses on the lips just for coming home

 

She could make angels

I've seen it with my own eyes

You gotta be careful when you've got good love

Cause the angels will just keep on multiplying

But you're so busy changing the world

Just one smile can change all of mine

We share the same soul

Oh oh oh oh oh ohhh

We Share the same soul

[Eve]

 

What a lovely positive thread Woggle.. Your special Lady does sounds very genuine indeed. I am so happy that you have love in your life after all you have seen.

 

Personally I am glad that within my relationship with my Hubby making love is not just an act. It starts from the moment we wake up. Dont know if anyone else understand this. Before it was an act, now its the summation of probably a day or two of loving gestures

 

I am especially loved up at the mo because Hubby moved all of our bedroom furniture and tidied up after himself last night. I only mentioned this at the weekend.

 

I wouldnt swop him for the world.. with his cute face and gorgeous legs and ever so open heart... :love: :love:

 

Take care,

Eve xx

[Woggle]

Neither my wife or I are into sappy love songs. No offense to anybody's taste but artists like Train and Jack Johnson just bore me.

 

I finally realize that I am lucky in my love life but it is really hard to believe it is real when it is the first healthy relationship you have ever had. Also let's face it there are a lot of women out there who are the complete opposite of her and when you read about what they inflict on guys it is hard not to let it color your view.

[mem11363]

At a battered woman's shelter. For all the emotional trauma the women inflict on their men - the men inflict a lot more physical trauma on the women.

 

 

 

Neither my wife or I are into sappy love songs. No offense to anybody's taste but artists like Train and Jack Johnson just bore me.

 

I finally realize that I am lucky in my love life but it is really hard to believe it is real when it is the first healthy relationship you have ever had. Also let's face it there are a lot of women out there who are the complete opposite of her and when you read about what they inflict on guys it is hard not to let it color your view.

[xxoo]

Also let's face it there are a lot of women out there who are the complete opposite of her and when you read about what they inflict on guys it is hard not to let it color your view.

 

Switch out the pronouns, and I could say exactly the same thing about my relationship. LS isn't the most emotionally peaceful place to spend time if you are susceptible to insecurity.

[crazycatlady]

Sometimes it seems that every day I'm given a reason why people as a whole suck. And then I'm reminded why there are some people out there who are simply amazing and make life worth living.

 

So I cut out the ones who just aren't worth my time and bring closer the ones who are amazing.

 

I married an amazing one. A flawed one too. But amazing none-the-less. Sure I was irritated, but not anymore. It never lasts long. It doesn't take much to bring me back from irritation. Just a hand on my face and a gentle tender kiss. Hmmmmm. Still makes me tingle.

 

CCL

[motogirl]

Millions of reasons to love my hubby...

 

He always treats me with respect. He loves to hold hands and cuddle on the couch. He is a tough guy but is so sweet with me. He tells me he loves me when he's talking to me on the phone in the breakroom at his work and it's full of male co-workers. He is fabulous with my sons from my first marriage. I can see how much he loves me when I look in his eyes. He is always excited to see me when I come home from work. He is gorgeous! He is just...fun...and he makes the most mundane things we do fun. He and I share a kind of warped sense of humor and we laugh and laugh together sometimes over seemingly nothing. He stuck by me when my ex was being a butthole after our divorce. Things got really nasty and the ex was following me around, standing at our sons' ball games and yelling at me...just being obnoxious in general. I really thought my then new boyfriend would make a fast get away but he stuck by me and he's still putting up with the crap from my ex. He always asks about my day...and listens to my answer. He gives the best shoulder/neck rubs. Did I mention he's gorgeous? He always reaches out for me when he's asleep...just to touch my hair or put his hand over mine. He always makes me feel like we are connected even though we work different shifts and he's gone 12 - 14 hours a day. He calls just to say "hi" or texts me just to say "Baby I love you and can't wait for you to get home". He's a very easy man to love.

[Stung]

He's a very easy man to love.

 

 

Ditto my husband. He has flaws, sure, as do I, but overall my husband is the perfect match for me. He's a sweet, intelligent, stubborn, funny man with a strong sex drive and a lot of dedication to our family. Our strengths and weaknesses complement each other and shore up a strong partnership...even our flaws, which definitely can be annoying, seem to fit together pretty well. Simply put, we are best friends, we respect each other, and we are in love. We're slogging through the trenches of co-parenting and step-parenting and so far so good

 

 

I think Mem's idea of Woggle volunteering at a battered women's shelter is a very interesting one; however I think it's something Woggle should discuss with his therapist first.

[sally4sara]

Neither my wife or I are into sappy love songs. No offense to anybody's taste but artists like Train and Jack Johnson just bore me.

 

I finally realize that I am lucky in my love life but it is really hard to believe it is real when it is the first healthy relationship you have ever had. Also let's face it there are a lot of women out there who are the complete opposite of her and when you read about what they inflict on guys it is hard not to let it color your view.

 

I'm not exactly a Beyonce fan, but I can't NOT think of my husband when I hear that "Halo" song she has.