Is she really not 'ready' or things just moving too fast?

[JL2010]

I'll try to keep this brief. Basically I had met this chic that recently moved in, exchanges numbers and basically she texted me all the time (still does) just asking how my day was or very random things. We went out on a few occasions, ended with making out a few times. Recently, she invited me out for a beer so we went out and later that night when I tried to kiss her she said she really couldn't do this right now (granted after that we still eneded up kissing). She basically said because she had just moved from LA and gotten out of a 3 year relationship. She said more than anything she needs friends right now and doesn't want to be impulsive and jump into anything. She did say she really likes that she can be herself around me and was really attracted to me. Does this seem genuine or more or less a sign to completely move on. In other words would being her friend still leave some potential or do more harm

Thanks,

JL

[In-The-Wheat]

dont be her friend or her rebound... they both suck.

[NeoGen85]

Keep your options open, and don't try to spend all your time with her. She might come to you in the end. But seriously, don't hold out.

[ADF]

It sounds like she is genuinely ambivelant. You can go ahead and be her friend if you can stand it. But if you have a serious interest in her, back off. You don't need to see her hooking up with other guys.

[Green]

If it were me I wouldn't settle for being just a friend of a girl I liked. I would kiss her any ways and say "sorry I just can't control myself around you!"

 

Fairly quickly she will either reject you by not hanging out with you anymore, or she will let you kiss her and touch her and do things that only lovers do.

[Quest]

It does sound as if she's got mixed feelings (and she's basically said as much). She likes you but really doesn't want to get into anything too deep.

It's difficult to be friends with someone you want more with and if you're around too much she won't really have to think about what she really wants.

If it was me I'd back off, although that's not always easy. If she really wants something to develop she'll let you know.

Good luck.

[phineas]

Don't be her cuddle buddy.

 

Who has paid when you guys went out?

 

Maybe it's just me, but women that will go out with a guy multiple times, make out with him multiple times then say "I don't want to jump into anything" are usually just looking to string a guy along for the attention & free food.

 

I'd just look for smeone else.

Your setting yourself up for some serious frustration.

[tayjay2]

I'd say it's 50/50. It was almost impossible for me to look at anyone in a romantic way for a good 4-6 months after my breakup. Mr. Perfect could have been standing right next to me and I wouldn't have realized it.

 

Either way, I don't think you should be her emotional crutch. I know it sounds harsh, but you have to do what is best for you. Time heals everything and if it IS her past relationship that is stopping her, she will come around eventually.