mlh5046 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I have been dating a girl for a few months or so. Everything has been great. However I just noticed something the other day that kind of turned me off around her lower extremeties. The predicament I am in is, I know she shaves regularly and this is a spot she just cannot see. I do not want to bring it up to her directly because I know it would just cause her be self conscious and what not. I dont want her to think I am judging her. It is just something that really turns me off sexually. Otherwise she is gorgeous. How do I go about this???? Any indirect ways?
MrNate Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Just tell her bud. Especially if you think it'll affect you when you're doing the deed.
Rorschach Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Just be adult about it and tell her, an alternative is to pull it out with your teeth when your down there.
Pfiend101 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 sounds like theres a little patch of hair she is missing when shaving.
mikarla Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 sounds like theres a little patch of hair she is missing when shaving. What a biatch! How dare she?!?!?!?!?! Seriously OP, if that's all you have to whinge about in your relationship you're pretty lucky. But if it is a major turn off for you, talk to her about it, say it in a jokey way so she doesn't feel self conscious about it.
mike1988 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 What a biatch! How dare she?!?!?!?!?! Seriously OP, if that's all you have to whinge about in your relationship you're pretty lucky. But if it is a major turn off for you, talk to her about it, say it in a jokey way so she doesn't feel self conscious about it. That's what I'd do. Then again, of any girls I've ever "done the deed" to, I haven't had to worry about her not being completely shaven.
carhill Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I would say a close inspection of your nuts and bung hole is in order, because you know women can be quite particular about extraneous hairs too. I'd smile, eat at the Y as often as possible and enjoy the company of a good woman, and keep my mouth shut. When you get older, it will become that simple. Now, it's unshaven patches which blow the virginal girl fantasy. You can always close your eyes and imagine it. Good luck
Enema Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I got the impression that because she shaves regularly, there's an unattractive part of her anatomy that's visible to him now, but not so much to her. Skin tag on her sphincter or something I guess. Pretty useless thread without more info.
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Ahhh thats awkward and I don't envy you. Its really horrible if something puts you off. I once went out with a guy whose genitalia were REALLY offputting BUT I didn't say a word about it. If it really bothers you, you should bring it up, BUT its called bumping uglies for a reason. Really, once you're uh, getting stuck in, you wont notice it.
SarahRose Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 You do realize that women normally have hair down there? It is normal. Shaving isn't natural. I don't know what the deal is with all these weak wussy boys these days who have a cow over pubic hair. Bring back the good old days of the muff and beaver. Men just loved it. Notice I said men.
Trimmer Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Just be adult about it and tell her, an alternative is to pull it out with your teeth when your down there. How about just be an adult and tell us about it; it's a little hard to give an opinion about "something" without knowing what it is. What does 'noticed something' mean?
collegemommy Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Personally, I would want to be told if there were something that was turning my man off especially if it were something that I could do to fix it. With that said, have you tried taking your "activities" to the shower or bathtub? You could always ask her if you can shave her...
Ihavenoidea Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Ask to shave her. You would be really surprised how much this has worked. Trust me, just ask if you can shave her. If she asks why just make something up like you think its hot or soemthing
ADF Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Am I understanding this right? You--a straight man--are turned off by female pubic hair? LOL. You're lucky you weren't born 20 years earlier.
Ronni_W Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 If it's that she's missing a spot, offer to become her 'barber' -- and make it a fun and sexy activity that you both will enjoy. If it's that you'd prefer her to not shave a specific spot...same as above. If it's not either of above, there's nothing wrong/immature with trying to be sensitive and tactful. Perhaps use some version of, "What do you think about trying <whatever will remedy your perceived problem>? I'd like to find out if that'll be as much of a turn-on as I'm imagining." If she's not into your "remedy" or, if it's something that she'll need surgery to correct (that is, if she doesn't really have normal-natural control over your "problem"), you're just gonna have to close your eyes...or dump her.
Trimmer Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 I'm still not sure what it is he is finding a sexual turn-off. Some are assuming it's just an unshaved spot, but it's not clear from his OP that this is actually the case: I have been dating a girl for a few months or so. Everything has been great. However I just noticed something the other day that kind of turned me off around her lower extremeties. The predicament I am in is, I know she shaves regularly and this is a spot she just cannot see. He didn't explicitly say it's a spot she isn't getting shaved; he said he "noticed something" in a spot she can't see. Maybe it's an unshaved spot, but that's not completely clear from his syntax. I can't help wondering what it is?
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