StoptheDrama Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 xMM has outdone himself this time during a brief work related phone conversation this afternoon. It went well; he was professional and did not try for more than a polite "How is your day" at the outset of the conversation until the very end. Me: "I'm glad we worked that out. I have to run" Him: "OK, me too...by the way, want to come over for dinner some night this week? You'd like my wife, you two should hang out and then maybe you and I could have some fun." I hung up. I was speechless, could not believe that he had just said that. Yes, he is an ass but this is incredible...I am still sitting here, shaking my head in disbelief...what kind of a person does that... Just when you think you've seen the depths of one's depravity, they take it to a whole new level...unbelievable
califnan Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Is he a tongue in cheek humorous person .... was he serious ?
ladydesigner Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Yeah I know!!! Do they all go to the same school or what. Mine also told me that me and his girlfriend are a lot a like and that I should meet her, that she thinks I'm HOT:eek: WTF! I swear they do not stop which is why I finally went NC. My XOM until I went NC still remained flirty in his emails to the point of saying "Oh yeah by the way I still get dirty thoughts about you." I'm sorry you had to hear that. I swear these men *dizzy*
ladydesigner Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Is he a tongue in cheek humorous person .... was he serious ? Yeah but why? Why do that? I no longer found my XOM to be humorous after he ended things on such a cowardly and immature note.
Author StoptheDrama Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Is he a tongue in cheek humorous person .... was he serious ? califnan - given our history, I believe he was completely serious. I ended the A several months ago and have limited contact to strictly work only and only when absolutely necessary. That has not stopped or even deterred his fishing expeditions but this one floored me
jj33 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Oh Stop. Im so sorry. That is SO inconsiderate and so insulting. You had feelings for him and he degrades it into something so trivial. I suspect hes just trying to get a rise out of you. But you did well not to respond.
califnan Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 califnan - given our history, I believe he was completely serious. I ended the A several months ago and have limited contact to strictly work only and only when absolutely necessary. That has not stopped or even deterred his fishing expeditions but this one floored me ------------------- Maybe he's trying another approach with you then .. He knew you wouldn't go for dinner.. He is trying to get his foot back in the door - even if it means shocking you to do it ..
califnan Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 On the Infidility thread: "Can women and men be friends?" .. I have also posted over there. I am convinced that much of this is done to add excitement to the marriage while Using the other woman .. sick ..
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 WOW. Just. Wow. Good for you for hanging up. I probably would have said, "sure, I'd love to meet your wife, and tell her in person what a cheating, lying, POS you are."
Fieldsofgold Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 On the Infidility thread: "Can women and men be friends?" .. I have also posted over there. I am convinced that much of this is done to add excitement to the marriage while Using the other woman .. sick .. I have wondered that, too.
Fieldsofgold Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 WOW. Just. Wow. Good for you for hanging up. I probably would have said, "sure, I'd love to meet your wife, and tell her in person what a cheating, lying, POS you are." What a total jerk this guy is! I really like banana's possible response!
GreenBamboo Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Tell him: invite your mother too then we can have a foursome.
lilagirl Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Tell him: invite your mother too then we can have a foursome. OMG. LOL. Perfect response
MizzBlue72 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 What an insensitive asswad!!! Wow .... Glad you hung up.
Owl Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Smurf that. I say call him back...tell him that you LOVED the idea. Heck...call his wife directly...setup dinner with the three of you. AND BUST HIS BUTT IN FRONT OF HER!!!!!! Let her get the chance to know the truth, and watch this scumbag get drop kicked directly in his ego. But hey...I've been called vindictive before...
joey66 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I have to believe he knew how you would react and he did it on purpose. Nobody can be that clueless. At least I hope not. Did it end badly? Maybe he was just trying to piss you off.
secretlady76 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Sounds like he wanted a reaction....well he got one, you reacted on here....!!! Better here than at him......
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 When someone shows/tells you who they are, believe them. I don't understand why some people are so reluctant to see the bad in people, especially when they've shown the side again and again. What a peach !
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Sounds like he wanted a reaction....well he got one, you reacted on here....!!! Better here than at him......Yeah, but what sick muther phukker says THAT for a reaction? The OP at one time, really cared about this man. His statement was meant to be cruel, IMO. Well, one positive thing could have come out of his comment- any feelings the OP had for this jerkface are hopefully dead and gone. He's shown his a$$ as a true creepshow unworthy of the OP's time.
whichwayisup Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Him: "OK, me too...by the way, want to come over for dinner some night this week? You'd like my wife, you two should hang out and then maybe you and I could have some fun." He has no respect for you. He's playing you on purpose, was waiting for a big reaction. Good for you for not giving him one. Time to put him out of your head forever. He's a sh.it and not worthy of another moments thought, or tear.
2sure Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 A MM that tells OW he wants her to meet his wife, she will love her, she thinks your hot, et etc Is fishing for the ultimate scenario: The three of you with HIM the center of all attention. After all the promises, all the heartbreak, all the crap...thats what he is fishing for. Just in case. And in his mind, if he can manipulate you both to get that far, its just a stone's throw to a threesome. He just doesnt get it.
piscis Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 It is insulting!!! What a nerve. Please hang the phone as soon as you realize he is the one calling you.
califnan Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I still don't think he had intention of getting you and his wife together..(too outlandish) .. My only thought was that he didn't like the business-like atmosphere and his (deserved) silent treatment - so he was trying to get to you.
MizzBlue72 Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 Is he by any chance on LS also? hmm .... my stbdmm is .... Just telling ya - watch out what ya post
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