herenow Posted May 17, 2010 Posted May 17, 2010 I think there's a big diff between wanting to gain understanding or POV and a clearly myopic view post. Some BW/BH just want to attack, some OW/OM post seeking advice but will continue on regardless of the warnings. It takes a dose of maturity to step out of your role and be open to hearing an alternative POV. I also think that it depends on how close a person is to the pain. A BW/BH or OW/OM who comes here close to a d-day or break up might not have the "thick skin" that a person who has had more time to deal with their emotions may have. Talk about a run on sentence, I hope that made sense,
GreenEyedLady Posted May 19, 2010 Posted May 19, 2010 Yup, and that is why she hasn't returned. I was thinking back yesterday. I think you may have been one of the first people I met over on infidelity. I remember you lightening up the thread. I was in a very confused and painful place then and you made me feel welcome. I was a BW and you an OW. We have had our disagreements, but (as far as I can remember), we have always been civil, if not kind to each other. I know this is a TJ, but I just wanted to say that I believe we are an example of how a BW and (former) OW can disagree, but still get along. I remember when you started posting. You've always been fair and tactful with your opinions and provided a much needed diverse view. And I think we are a good example. This is a place for learning from each other. And I've learned alot from you, NID, Romeo Must Die, MovinOn, POM and many others. Alot of friendships are made here... GEL
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