asrgal Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 My bf and I have been together for 4 years, and since 6 month in a LDR. I didn't want a LDR, but he took a job for a year somewhere else and I had to suuport him. I truly feel he is the one I want to be with forever. We talk daily for a few minutes on the phone. I have become really unhappy though. I miss him a lot and get to see him maybe every 4-6 weeks for a day or two. Well he still has an apartment here in town, and the lease is about to run out, I have talked to him several times to move in with me (his stuff), so at least I feel this is his home and he comes home when he visit's. I actually have been ready for some commitment for a while, too - but I thought that would be a good next step for us and see how it will work out. Well, he said what do you need my stuff for? I'll be there when I visit what does my stuff matter. He has a little studio, all furnished at his job, now he is looking to find another place and actually move all his things. I guess I am scared that he will be all gone. I don't know. Am I so wrong in asking to move in with me. I feel just devestated. Not sure what the right way to handle this is? Am I over reacting?
Itsnotme Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 If he's not ready to move in with you then he's not ready! However after four years I'd have to question why not? I personally wouldn't push the issue and even if he did move all his things into your place its no guarantee that you'd keep him anyway. If the relationship is good in all other departments then focus on the positives of it. I know that you miss him terribly but thats part and parcel of an LDR. It goes with the territory. I'm only going to be seeing my bf every four weeks or so too and this is probably the hardest thing I've ever done but the positives far outweigh the negatives. Try very hard to concentrate on whats good about your relationship. Keep your own life interesting in the meantime as it really does help to pass the time until you see eachother again. Good luck.
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