Funf Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 There's a guy that works at the same place that I do that I have a crush on. I really want to go up and talk to him, but I'm still working on getting the nerve to do so. However, I'm getting a little concerned. I was looking at some friends and some friends of friends' photo albums on Facebook and there are a couple of pictures of him that make me wonder if he's gay. For instance, he was in a picture with a couple of guys that looked feminine. Don't get me wrong, I don't have anything against gay guys; I have some wonderful friends that are gay. I just don't want to be wasting time and hope on this guy if he doesn't like girls in the first place. I looked at his friends on Facebook and I know a couple of them are gay (I know them personally) but that doesn't necessarily mean anything. I have lesbian friends and I'm not a lesbian. I've asked a couple of my friends if they know if this guy is gay but they don't know him well enough. I was thinking about adding him on Facebook just so I could find out, but I dunno if I should do that. Advice?
Engadget Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 From what you've said that's really not enough evidence to tell. I've got a goofy picture with a friend of mine where I have my arm around him and he has his hand on my leg, not gay though. You need more info to know for sure. I actually have some old pictures with this girl I was seeing and some with her friend who was gay too.
Author Funf Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Yeah, you're totally right about the pictures, but I still don't know what to do. I don't know how to get more information.
Engadget Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Yeah, you're totally right about the pictures, but I still don't know what to do. I don't know how to get more information. It doesn't say it on his profile right? Hmm, anyone you know that knows him that you might be able to ask straight out?
Author Funf Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Oh sorry, I didn't make it clear on my original post. I'm not friends with him on Facebook because I thought it would be weird to add him since he doesn't really know me. I kinda want to add him just so I can see if it does say on his profile. I don't know anyone that I would be able to ask straight out.
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Why can't you just talk to him? Why have a crush on someone you can't even talk to? You may not even like him once you have an actual conversation. OTOH, if he's gay but a nice guy, you might have a great friend. I just don't get why people can't talk to one another anymore. What in the world did people do before freakin Facebook?
SomewhatExperienced Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I've heard this, but I don't know if it's true. Maybe if a gay man reads this he can comment. But I've heard there's a kinda secret line that gay men will say to other men to find out if they're gay and it's "Go west young man". Apparently it's a reference to the Village People song where "west" referred to San Francisco which was a haven for the gay community at the time. I guess if he's gay you get some sort of response. I'd be interested if any gay men on this forum have heard of this.
Mme. Chaucer Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Sheesh. Just get to know him a little bit. If he is gay you'll find out soon enough without having to ask point blank. If you have a crush on him, you'll probably not be "wasting your time" by socializing some even if he does turn out to be a mo.
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