I used to date this guy, now he wants to give it another try...

[thats what i said]

I dated this guy (I'll call him joey) but we only dated for a couple weeks. Well, in that couple of weeks I fell for him. Hard. Suddenly he disappeared and I never heard from him again. Granted, I never exactly tried contacting him again but that was about 6 months ago. It took me about a month to get over him. I was pretty distraught to say the least, but I had some pride and so made every attempt to forget about him and move on.

 

Well, now he contacted me again and says he has his crap together and wants to know if I'd be willing to give it another try. He profusely apologized for just disappearing like that and hopes I'd be able to forgive him.

 

Well, after breaking up with my ex a few weeks ago, I'm a little bored and I know *joey* would be the perfect cure for my boredom.

 

I've also changed over the last 6 months and I'm more confident and I know quite a bit more about who I am and what I want. What I don't want, though, is to wind up pining for him all over again if he should choose to make the same a**hole disappearing act again.

 

Would I be shooting myself in the foot if I gave this another shot? Even if just for fun?

[phineas]

It depends.

Did he get sex before he disapeared?

Did he try to get sex & you shot him down & he disapeared?

 

Or did you change your ring-tone to wedding bells & he disapeared?

 

I had someone apear to have fallen hard for me once.

I didn't sleep with her because I barely knew her but it was scarey & she was talking about meeting her parents on the first date.

[thats what i said]

It depends.

Did he get sex before he disapeared?

Did he try to get sex & you shot him down & he disapeared?

 

Or did you change your ring-tone to wedding bells & he disapeared?

 

I had someone apear to have fallen hard for me once.

I didn't sleep with her because I barely knew her but it was scarey & she was talking about meeting her parents on the first date.

 

No he did not get sex before he disappeared nor did he ever ask. If anything, I was the one inviting him over and he shot me down on that invitation.

[D-Lish]

 

I've also changed over the last 6 months and I'm more confident and I know quite a bit more about who I am and what I want. What I don't want, though, is to wind up pining for him all over again if he should choose to make the same a**hole disappearing act again.

 

Would I be shooting myself in the foot if I gave this another shot? Even if just for fun?

 

A part of gaining confidence is knowing when to say "no" if something doesn't feel right.

 

This guy screwed you over and fell off the face of the earth.

A confident woman wouldn't allow a guy like that back in her life.

[thats what i said]

A part of gaining confidence is knowing when to say "no" if something doesn't feel right.

 

This guy screwed you over and fell off the face of the earth.

A confident woman wouldn't allow a guy like that back in her life.

Lol, I thought about that after I posted...

[D-Lish]

Lol, I thought about that after I posted...

 

I remember last summer, a guy I used to date a long time ago came back sniffing around wanting to meet for a drink. We had dated for a couple of months about 6 years ago and I really liked him. It didn't work out with us because he got cold feet and slowly reduced contact.

 

I was talking to a gay guy I worked with who always gave/still gives straight up advice. I asked him what he thought about meeting up for a drink with him- and I'll never forget what he said to me: "D... If you weren't good enough for him then, he doesn't deserve a second chance now". Those words struck a chord with me- and he was right.