romer Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Met super nice guy a couple of weeks ago, long story short - he seemed to be into me, although he told me he is super busy, two jobs, two kids...we were supposed to get together tonight after not seeing each other in over a week, now he's got deadlines...I told him never mind, and good luck. He said he understands, that its not fair to ask someone to be in that kind of relationship...the thing that boggles my mind is that I met him online, and he stated on his profile he is looking for a serious relationship. WHY do people LIE when they know they can't commit????
Ihavenoidea Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 He probably didn't Lie, keep in mind he has two jobs and two kids. HE is probably wanting something serious but he wants it with someone who is willing to be flexible. From what I read you aren't being flexible.This could be really bad timing for him at the moment. Whats wrong with being patient and rescheduling the date? A serious relationship takes time, he might need some more time. I will agree dating sucks and I have a tendacy to rush into things because I want a serious relationship and they want to date me for 3 months before deciding. I hate it too
Author romer Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 I just ran out of patience. I am busy too, with two jobs, and I have two kids, one of which lives at home with me, but I rearranged my schedule for this date tonight, had my daughter situated with her father, and I guess I thought he would do the same for me. I am so disappointed. I told him I do not deserve to be anyone's option. He agreed. Like I said, he is nice. But he just never set aside time for ME.
Ihavenoidea Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I think you hit the nail on the head there. If he was really interested in you he would make time for you or atleast put some effort into it. I think you did the right thing in letting him go but it sucks because you wasted all the time and now you are back to square one trying to find someone serious. I can relate a bit.
bac Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I just ran out of patience. I am busy too, with two jobs, and I have two kids, one of which lives at home with me, but I rearranged my schedule for this date tonight, had my daughter situated with her father, and I guess I thought he would do the same for me. I am so disappointed. I told him I do not deserve to be anyone's option. He agreed. Like I said, he is nice. But he just never set aside time for ME. Most men lie online especially men in late 30s and older. In my experience, I would say 99.9% men lie online looking for multiple sex/casual short-term sex.
Fouts Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 It was just an easy excuse. Even though it seemed that way, he wasn't in to you. Like Ihavenoidea pointed out, we make time when we want to be with someone. Even though it sucks, be patient. It takes time to find a good match.
phineas Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Yeah, for the right girl I would find someone in my family to take my kids overnight ASAP on a friday or sat night. But I havn't met anybody lately I would do that for. Their stuck getting me mid-week or sunday night for a date. And, that sunday night is only after golfing with the guys.
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