Lakeside_runner Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Here's a story: I'm a member of a running group and am a regular to a couple of runs every week. We are all on facebook etc. We talked a couple of times so we kinda have known each other for a while. She posted at some point on her facebook that she's expecting a package from USPS that she's really excited about, I made a comment etc. and the bottom line is: I said that I bet her coffee that it'll get here next week. Well, the package got here before that so she posted that I owe her a latte. Next time we saw each other (Monday, a week ago) I asked her how she wants to claim it and we made some non definite plans. We both know that I'm gonna be moving in 3 months. This past Saturday (was actually my birthday) both of us met at a moving party (we helped another running group member to move) and we hadn't had a chance to talk and confirm the plans. As I got back home she texted me if I want to meet up for that coffee. We ended up having a 2h meeting. Nice conversation etc. At the end she said 'thanks for the coffee' and so on, then we said 'see ya on Wednesday' (one of the weekly runs). I said something similar along these lines - I thought, yeah let's be friends. An hour later she texted me that she thanks for the coffee again and that she had a good time talking to me. We exchanged a couple of general texts - I know she went camping that night. Next day I get a text midday, short text exchange, in the evening a get a text again, she says following up one of prior texts that she's getting a take out dinner and then she'll watch a movie. I texted back that I haven't watched it and she should let me know if it's any good. Well, she texted me that I am welcome to come over and watch it with her. Long story short - I grabbed a bottle of wine and we had a nice evening. So, I've decided to ask her if she want's to grab dinner on Friday. She didn't give a definite 'yes' but the hesitation was rather due to trying figure out the schedule (I think). I know she's a yoga class (part of the running group again) Fridays and she said we can do dinner after that. When I was leaving she got her dog and they walked me out one block. We talked for a couple of minutes and then she initiated a hug as a form of good-bye. So, I'm just kind of confused - what's going on etc. I've decided just to treat it as an experiment. I mean part of me says - "well, she's just being nice and friendly" and part of me says "this is not how friends behave"... Opinions? Comments? Remarks?
Ihavenoidea Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I'd say run with it. She either considers you a friend that she runs with and occasionally hangs out with or she might be genuinely interested. I can never really tell the difference initially. But just keep doing what you are doing and it will develope into something
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