gypsy_nicky Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 After having an epiphany today regarding my dentists appointment, I have come to a self actualization that I am a massive flake. I actually do this in every aspect of my life. I think this is why every time I meet a woman, there's chemistry and bam she starts playing games. Then she turns nasty, seems uninterested but still hangs around. I think I perpetuate it by being flakey. * I say something, plan something etc but don't follow through. *I take very long to reply to sms's and don't answer phone calls. *I suck at time and always arrive late when a date pushes through. at least I don't think I arrive late. *I like canceling last minute. I'm surprised I actually engage in this behavior.
fishtaco Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I think this is why every time I meet a woman, there's chemistry and bam she starts playing games. Then she turns nasty, seems uninterested but still hangs around. I think I perpetuate it by being flakey. That has nothing to do with you being flaky. That's just how dating is. That is how the average woman behaves. When you find someone that doesn't act like that, she's probably from LS, and I would say increases her chance of being a good catch. As for you being flaky, yeah, you need to cut that out, or you may lose the good catch when you do find one.
Author gypsy_nicky Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 That has nothing to do with you being flaky. That's just how dating is. That is how the average woman behaves. When you find someone that doesn't act like that, she's probably from LS, and I would say increases her chance of being a good catch. As for you being flaky, yeah, you need to cut that out, or you may lose the good catch when you do find one. so the women here are an exception? What makes them so different?
SilentVoice Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I am a flake as well.. it is just in my nature and sadly enough it has transferred over into my dating life.
smartblonde Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 You're not a flake, you're selfish. You put your needs above everyone else's. Now that you've had this epiphany, what are you gonna do about it?
tayjay2 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I think "flakiness" happens for two reasons 1) He or she is self-centered and doesn't respect other people's time. 2) That person is insecure. It's not that they don't WANT to show up or follow through, but they are afraid that they will somehow "fail" and therefore choose not to try at all. I'm guessing you fall into the second category - or else you wouldn't feel bad about it. The first step is to stop labeling yourself a "flake" because it gives you an excuse to not try in the future.
Twenty-ten Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 That has nothing to do with you being flaky. That's just how dating is. That is how the average woman behaves. When you find someone that doesn't act like that, she's probably from LS, and I would say increases her chance of being a good catch. As for you being flaky, yeah, you need to cut that out, or you may lose the good catch when you do find one. WTF!??! That is the weirdest comment I have ever read here, unless that was total sarcasm. Of course what he described makes him a flake, and NO that is not how people behave while dating others and if they are interested. I have only done the above when I am luke warm on a guy and then I bail before it drags on and someone gets hurt. Flaky people behave just as the gipsy_nicky described. gipsy do these actions happen before or after the women turns nasty with you? That was somewhat unclear.
fishtaco Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 WTF!??! That is the weirdest comment I have ever read here, unless that was total sarcasm. Every time I say something like yeah, most women out there are this way (like this flaky thing), all these LS women would jump on my back and say they're not like that. I just wanted to nip that in the butt, because I didn't want to get into a fight about it. It wasn't exactly sarcasm, but sort of joking sarcasm. Like sometimes when I'm talking to my friends about some women behavior, I'll say but of course that doesn't apply to any woman within earshot of this conversation. Sort of a preemptive strike to diffuse a potential argument opportunity.
brainygirl Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 As a female that doesn't consider herself a successful dater, please explain these "games" to me. People always say "no games" or something similar. I don't consider myself a game player, I try to be direct with people about weather or not I am interested in them, and what I want out of the time we spend together. So, what's game playing in a chick? And to the OP, if you show up late, don't answer texts, show up late or cancel dates, why would a nice person stay with you? So if the nice ones get tired of the behavior and bail, then logic says the ones left will be nuts. Also, I will admit to compulsinely texting a guy I like, is that game playing?
Author gypsy_nicky Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 WTF!??! That is the weirdest comment I have ever read here, unless that was total sarcasm. Of course what he described makes him a flake, and NO that is not how people behave while dating others and if they are interested. I have only done the above when I am luke warm on a guy and then I bail before it drags on and someone gets hurt. Flaky people behave just as the gipsy_nicky described. gipsy do these actions happen before or after the women turns nasty with you? That was somewhat unclear. before then they turn nasty
bac Posted May 12, 2010 Posted May 12, 2010 but still hangs around. I think I perpetuate it by being flakey. * I say something, plan something etc but don't follow through. *I take very long to reply to sms's and don't answer phone calls. *I suck at time and always arrive late when a date pushes through. at least I don't think I arrive late. *I like canceling last minute. I'm surprised I actually engage in this behavior. Congratulations! If girls are still dating you, it means it works out well for you. I respect a man who is not afraid to be yourself. It could be much worse, if you pretended that you were a perfect guy.
Author gypsy_nicky Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 Congratulations! If girls are still dating you, it means it works out well for you. I respect a man who is not afraid to be yourself. It could be much worse, if you pretended that you were a perfect guy. Thanks for the sarcasm. They don't continue dating me. We usually part ways. That's why I made this thread.
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