VelveteenBunny Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 I have known of a lot of people playing the OW or OM, and out of the vast majority of those situations, it seemed to me, to have nothing to do with money. It was about companionship, friendship, loneliness, love, sex, and in some cases, excitement or drama. And I guess for some it might be seen as some sort of esteem booster. I only know of one case where money was involved and that OW did the same thing with single men she dated- she simply expected a man to spend cash on her. And even she seemed to have feelings for one MM, but she also had a thing about wanting men she couldn't have. As for wanting hard to get guys, I don't know if it was an ego-booster for her or a game, or if some instinctive part of her thought hard to get meant better genes or what. I can't say if she had feelings for him because he was unavailable and some people want what they can't have, or if she really cared for him.
pureinheart Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 There are quite a few women on this very form who have posted about the expensive things the mm has bought for them. are those really the important details when your on a relationship advice website? nope. but to them..that measures/equals love for them...very shallow but true. BEJ (((((((hugs))))))) long time no see... I agree, very few....
Lizzie60 Posted June 20, 2010 Posted June 20, 2010 OK Owl.. here I am.. I've been extremely busy these past weeks.. I am not in love with any of my MMs.. it is more 'friendship' on my end... but some of them use the L word.. all the time.. I just ignore them.. I know, for a fact, that they love me a lot more than I love them.. For most of my MMs.. they better have a thick wallet.. or else.. a few have noooo idea that I have a 'second' life.. and I can't divulge anything.. cause one of them I work with. Like I said before.. I have a very good, well-paid day job.. and very lucrative evening job.. so I don't need my MMs money... I can pay my own bills.. right now I own 3 properties.. no debts.. a car... I'm a shopholic (compulsive buyer) so I need lot$$$$$ of money. Call me a whore.. a mistress... anything you want.. I'm laughing when I go to the bank.. :p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:laugh:
her_halo_slipped Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 When everyone on this forum talks about dating a married man, is it purely because you accidently fell in love with them and never because of a sugar daddy arrangement? I'm just curious to know if there's financial support involved with most married men, or if OW are in it strictly for the love of the MM? I accidentally felt an attraction to him. Not love, not necessarily lust either mind you and definately NOT a sugar daddy arrangement. He was way too much of a stinge for that :eek:and besides I would not feel comfortable taking his money anyway. But that's just me. There is a whole thread dedicated to letting the OM give financial support.It's interesting reading. as always so many different viewpoints.
JustJoe Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 OK Owl.. here I am.. I've been extremely busy these past weeks.. I am not in love with any of my MMs.. it is more 'friendship' on my end... but some of them use the L word.. all the time.. I just ignore them.. I know, for a fact, that they love me a lot more than I love them.. For most of my MMs.. they better have a thick wallet.. or else.. a few have noooo idea that I have a 'second' life.. and I can't divulge anything.. cause one of them I work with. Like I said before.. I have a very good, well-paid day job.. and very lucrative evening job.. so I don't need my MMs money... I can pay my own bills.. right now I own 3 properties.. no debts.. a car... I'm a shopholic (compulsive buyer) so I need lot$$$$$ of money. Call me a whore.. a mistress... anything you want.. I'm laughing when I go to the bank.. :p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:laugh:I truly don't believe any of this. Liz, if you were truly that mercenary, you would own a lot more than 3 properties, and would not have any job at all, except that whole sex business thing. Sorry but with all due respect , I 'm not convinced about you at all.
CrayonAngel Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 I truly don't believe any of this. Liz, if you were truly that mercenary, you would own a lot more than 3 properties, and would not have any job at all, except that whole sex business thing. Sorry but with all due respect , I 'm not convinced about you at all. Something I've been thinking all along Joe. Good to know I'm not the only one with suspisions..
TinaniT Posted June 21, 2010 Posted June 21, 2010 No,no,no. We both were clear that we did not want that. Once we were in love, he did give me some financial help, because he didn't want me to feel trapped by financial reasons in any relationship as I had... and because he considered his money to be my money (I took far less than offered). I don't consider that sugar daddy because I am not there for the money, and I didn't take anything at first; I am there because I love him and would love him penniless, too.
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