asrgal Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I am in a 3 1/2 year relationship, and my bf moved 3 hours away for a job last December. We have only seen each other once a month, because of his high time demanding job he is hardly off. I have been truly suffering with this LD stuff. We talk daily, but just shortly and he doesn't write at all. Well the time we do see each other he is always very busy with taking care of hiis stuff as well, which I understand has to be done, but it doesn't feel good that in the end we just had time together for a few hours. So many times he says he'll be off 3 days, than all of a sudden things change and he is working again and only has time for one or two days, which the majority out of that time he is busy doing his things. I try to be supportive and upbeat, but it feels impossible at times. He said I am always unhappy, well I don't know what I am. I am so excited to see him when he comes, but at the same time so sad as well. What can I do to not show that? It is as I have to learn to just expect nothing. I want him to have a good time with me being around and see me being happy to see him, but it is hard not to be sad. Any advice? How do you guys deal with those emotions?
Romance Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I try to think "well i am with him now, this is what i'm always sad about..so why be sad when i'm with him?" but i often am because i know he will be gone soon and once again I will be all alone. Its hard to sort the feelings out, I kind of get this feeling of resentment, I would like to get of it.
skydiveaddict Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 arsgal: try to find new and exciting things to do. It sounds to me like you need your bf to make your life complete. That will never work. learn to be happy with yourself first. That will make him more attracted to you because he will lose that sense of security that you need him to be happy and therefore will put up with his poor behavior.
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