kogasu Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. A few days after our breakup my grandfather died and we did end up talking a week or so after that and I gave him some of his things back. That was about 2 1/2 weeks ago, and we hadn't talked since. On Friday I was driving and I ended up behind him at a stop light and I didn't try to call him. Then yesterday my friend, her guy friend, and I went to a bar and he ended up being there. We saw eachother but didn't talk. At one point I caught his eye and smiled. And that was it. It was awkward, but I didn't really know what to do. Now I wish I had just said hi or something. So, to drive her friend back to his car she took the long way and drove pass my ex's house then on the way back drove pass it again. The second time I was sure he saw us. Then we went to her house and when I was getting ready to sleep she took my phone and called him from it. He didn't answer so she called from her phone and left a message that went along the lines of her being worried about me because I'm going through a lot with school and my grandfather, and now my mom having cancer; and that he's the only one that I'd talk to so he should call me. To this I say WTF! I feel like now he is going to think I'm some crazy lunatic that stalks him. Not to mention to call from my phone and then hers sets it up to look like I asked her to call. I asked her why she did this and she just said because she knows he's the only one I'll really talk to. I still say it's none of her business. And now I'm in a very awkward position because yes, I was planning on calling to talk to him. I still have to give back some of his things and get mine from him and some stuff his brother borrowed as well. And I also was going to talk to him about the whole situation at the bar and say it's silly for us to be like that because we will end up running into eachother a lot, living so close. And I was going to tell him about my mom, because I'm terrified and I don't have family or reliable friends to fall back on right now. And I was going to try to work things out with him(Not because I need him for emotional support, but because I love him and hope it would work and spending this time apart has made me realize that. However, at the same time if he's happier without me then I know I must love him to let him go). I just feel like now everything has been shot to hell and I look horrible in this situation, thanks to my friend taking matters into her own hands in the worst possible way. Does anyone have advice on how to deal with this????
DenverBachelor Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Does anyone have advice on how to deal with this???? You are really making a mountain out of a molehill. Calm down and stop freaking out. Tell your friend to stop touching your **** and stay in NC with your ex. Who cares what he thinks -- the whole point of this is that you need to move on with your life and not give two ****s about his.
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