LoveLace Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 So I met a cute and nice guy while out last night; within 2 hours he was on the phone with his buddies telling them he was with "the new girl he's dating"...which was cute and funny...but also made me feel a small extent of pressure. Later I met up with him where he was hanging with these buddies, they were all staring and sizing me up, etc..but very nice and introducing themselves..I guess it was a little overwhelming for me being the same night I met the guy, lol. So I'm surrounded by cute guys at this point and thinking, hey...he's cute...and he's cute...I wonder if he's single?...etc...it was distracting me from giving this guy who liked me so much, the attention that he probably deserved. Makes me wonder...am I capable of picking just one and sticking to that? I'm quite adapted to being non-attached because I haven't been in a LTR for many years, over 10 years actually. Makes me wonder if I"m happier being single than I have realized. I feel sad often because of lonliness, but when it comes down to opportunity to be obligated to 1 person only, I guess I am a little uncomfortable about it. As though I easily "freak out" or feel smothered. I think of other opportunities with other men I could be missing out on...how do you get past that? Or was I simply just not very into the guy? Because if I was, would I have been letting my eyes wander with him right next to me? Is he just moving a little too fast for me? Perhaps I should just tell him that I have to move along very slowly so that I can remain open to other things? I just met the guy yesterday, I for sure don't feel ready to say I'm dating him and only him...but somehow I think that's what he's expecting...I'm confused..help, what's wrong with me?!
Author LoveLace Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 Ha, see he's already asked to have me over for a movie tonight. I declined because I don't feel well today, but its already feeling like he's ready to use all the spare time I have...is it ok that I feel this is too much too soon? Or am I not very into him? If I felt better,I'm not sure if id go for the movie or not...I do like him I guess maybe not that much yet? Ugh, why am I so confused?
Odyssey Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I see nothing wrong there... just talk to him and say how you feel. If he was talking about bf/gf and acting like you two are exclusive, at such an early stage, then that's another thing entirely. Hope it works out.
Odyssey Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Ha, see he's already asked to have me over for a movie tonight. I declined because I don't feel well today, but its already feeling like he's ready to use all the spare time I have...is it ok that I feel this is too much too soon? Or am I not very into him? If I felt better,I'm not sure if id go for the movie or not...I do like him I guess maybe not that much yet? Ugh, why am I so confused?sound like you think he's going too fast. Just talk to him about it...easy. No good trying to avoid him.
Author LoveLace Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 Ok, I'll just tell him I can't just jump into a routine relationship and I have to move along slowly...thanks.
Recommended Posts