Broke up... but what were his intentions post break-up? DOUCHE?

[NYChick]

We broke up after 7 months of dating because of things post-college. A week later after our break up, a mutual friend had pictures up where my ex is wearing a shirt with a pun on being single again. I ignore that and then two weeks later, he texts me the day after my birthday, "Sorry I didn't text you yesterday, I was at a concert, but happy birthday! Hope you have a great one!" I replied "Thank you" the following day. The weekend after, I see him at the same lounge. All of his boys were nice to me, hugs and kisses, and said it was great to see me. Me and the ex made awkward eye contact where we pretended not to see each other and then he made a beeline to avoid me.

 

I've held NC throughout the whole thing minus the thank you. I just want to try and understand what the hell is his deal. He ignores my e-mail then acts chummy with a birthday text. I felt like he dumped me and was unfairly rubbing stuff in my face. It felt so immature! Was he being spiteful or just trying to get an ego boost by riling me up? I sure didn't show it even though I felt it. And why did he run away from me when he saw me? We could've been civil at the very least. Or is he just simply a DOUCHE?

Edited May 9, 2010 by NYChick

[lvixen]

Texting you then avoiding you shows just how utterly flakey this guy is. People are quite tough when they don't have to face the person face to face. Maybe he was just being nice by texting you or he knew you were healing and wanted to get to you. Hard to say. But does it really matter now? You two have broken up. Now you have to heal and move on. Avoid contact with him. If you see him just be courteous and that's it. Don't respond to his texts or his phone calls. Through anything away that reminds you of him. You need a clean slate. Hope this helped.

[NYChick]

I know you're right and I've been trying. I think secretly I just wish that he'd regret his bad behavior and get some kind of epiphany to just apologize for everything. I've been adhering to NC, but I get the weak moments where I just wanna call or text him and ask why he's so mean for no reason (he's done plenty of other things post-breakup). I guess I should make my own closure, huh?

[redmelon]

sounds like a douche to me. they are a dime a dozen.