s22n33 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I met a guy through a lot of mutual friends. He asked me to lunch and we started hanging out a lot. He was always very interested in what I was doing, always asking how my day was going etc. When together he was very in tune to me, paying for gas always asking if i needed anything. If the topic of relationship ever came up he was very standoffish saying he has had bad experiences. We hung out for about two solid months where we talked every day, sex was very minimal too. I slept at his house one night after I had been out of town. When I left in the morning there was nothing weird about it. I then noticed he laid off some OUT OF NOWHERE. I askd him what was up..he said he wanted space, I asked if we were done..he said no! He continued to tell people we were hanging out when we weren't. since then that was about a month ago he hasn't tried to talk really. We have talked a little but nothing too much. I really liked him I thought we really clicked I want to give somthing a shot but idk how to go about it!?
TaraMaiden Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 There is no relationship here. But he seems happy to have you on the scene as a FWB. He won't admit this to other people... that he has you hanging as a FWB... that would be.... well, wrong.....so he's telling everyone you hang out together. I suggest you tell everybody quite clearly that no, you do not hang out together, and if he thinks he can have you as a FWB, he's just burnt the last bridge back to "youseville".....
Author s22n33 Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 well i'm sure he dosn't tell people we are now it's been about a month. I feel like he's afraid of relationships and got the idea that I wanted one when I was fine with how things were...and what is FWB haha??
Author s22n33 Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 oh okay friend with benefits, well I wasn't looking for anything serious but i think he may have got that vibe and it scared him how do I get him back?
TaraMaiden Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 You go No Contact. Completely and utterly. If he's interested, he'll come looking for you, then you can tell him exactly where you stand, what you want, what you stand for and what you won't stand for. He'll either take it - or leave it. That will give you your answer. if he doesn't come looking - you'll never get him, because he's not interested in you enough to find out what's going on. That will give you your answer.
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