LoveLace Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 So I met a cute and nice guy while out last night; within 2 hours he was on the phone with his buddies telling them he was with "the new girl he's dating"...which was cute and funny...but also made me feel a small extent of pressure. Later I met up with him where he was hanging with these buddies, they were all staring and sizing me up, etc..but very nice and introducing themselves..I guess it was a little overwhelming for me being the same night I met the guy, lol. So I'm surrounded by cute guys at this point and thinking, hey...he's cute...and he's cute...I wonder if he's single?...etc...it was distracting me from giving this guy who liked me so much, the attention that he probably deserved. Makes me wonder...am I capable of picking just one and sticking to that? I'm quite adapted to being non-attached because I haven't been in a LTR for many years, over 10 years actually. Makes me wonder if I"m happier being single than I have realized. I feel sad often because of lonliness, but when it comes down to opportunity to be obligated to 1 person only, I guess I am a little uncomfortable about it. As though I easily "freak out" or feel smothered. I think of other opportunities with other men I could be missing out on...how do you get past that? Or was I simply just not very into the guy? Because if I was, would I have been letting my eyes wander with him right next to me? Is he just moving a little too fast for me? Perhaps I should just tell him that I have to move along very slowly so that I can remain open to other things? I just met the guy yesterday, I for sure don't feel ready to say I'm dating him and only him...but somehow I think that's what he's expecting...I'm confused..help, what's wrong with me?!
road Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Why can't you date on guy at a time? He did not ask you to get married, just date.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 what's wrong with me?! my guess is you are younger than 18 because "cute" seems to rule for you. so I'd say you are, at this point, incapable of committement. You are too young and fickle. just enjoy life and don't commit and play with someone's heart until you are mature enough.
ICouldSayTheSame Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 my guess is you are younger than 18 because "cute" seems to rule for you. so I'd say you are, at this point, incapable of committement. You are too young and fickle. just enjoy life and don't commit and play with someone's heart until you are mature enough. Lol, I doubt she's younger than 18 as she stated she hadn't been in a long term relationship for over 10 years. Sounds to me that you're just not interested in him. There's no harm in that. Let him know before it gets too late so you can both move on quickly.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 Lol, I doubt she's younger than 18 as she stated she hadn't been in a long term relationship for over 10 years. well that part I glossed over. So if she is over 18 and "cute" is what she is about, then she is simply immature and needs to stay away from committment until she doesn't get tempted by every "cute" guy she sees. And if "cute" is what rules for her, then she isn't going to have very good luck with guys...not in the fidelity arena anyway.
Green Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 well that part I glossed over. So if she is over 18 and "cute" is what she is about, then she is simply immature and needs to stay away from committment until she doesn't get tempted by every "cute" guy she sees. And if "cute" is what rules for her, then she isn't going to have very good luck with guys...not in the fidelity arena anyway. The cute thing did make her sound young. You can't take the 10 years thing to mean she is that old though. She might only be 25... or she could have been exagerating when she through out 10 years.
Dexter Morgan Posted May 13, 2010 Posted May 13, 2010 The cute thing did make her sound young. You can't take the 10 years thing to mean she is that old though. She might only be 25... i would hope that a "woman" who is 25 has moved past the "like, oh my gawd, he is sooooo cute" thing. Must be from the valley.
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