tigressA Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Women: Do you prefer to be approached by a man, or approach a man yourself? Why? Men: Do you prefer to approach a woman, or have a woman approach you? Why?
mike1988 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Women: Do you prefer to be approached by a man, or approach a man yourself? Why? Men: Do you prefer to approach a woman, or have a woman approach you? Why? I prefer when a woman approaches me...which has only happened once in my life. It shows me they're interested.
Aulie Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I prefer to be approached by a man, but if I see someone I'm interested in I'll make the first move if they don't.
Stockalone Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Men: Do you prefer to approach a woman, or have a woman approach you? Why? Being approached is a lot easier in my experience. Even when I had to reject a woman, it still was flattering that she had noticed me. When I approach a woman and get rejected, there is nothing positive about it.
brainygirl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I like both. Its flattering to have a guy notice something about you and introduce themselves, but I will also approach someone I like and let them know I am interested. Rejection sucks, but not as much as wondering what might have happened if I'd had more guts.
Rorschach Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I want to be approached, I've never been approached in my life. But because of that I don't see it as an option so I have to do the approaching, sucks, but it's life.
alphamale Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Men: Do you prefer to approach a woman, or have a woman approach you? Why? both are fine with me as long as i get the digits
Author tigressA Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 This is pretty interesting so far. The guys here have all expressed a desire to be approached by women. See ladies, it goes both ways--we aren't the only ones who want to know someone's interested. Let's have some more input...
alphamale Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Let's have some more input... when a woman approaches me it almost always ends in some type of sexual encounter
Kaplan Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 If a girl really likes me, then it's sort of flattering to have her ask me out. It's sort of scary asking some one out, and I imagine it's harder for a woman since it's less common, so it's nice to think she was interested in me enough to go through that.
alphamale Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It's sort of scary asking some one out, and I imagine it's harder for a woman since it's less common, some females can get quite aggressive after downing 3 or 4 drinks
brainygirl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I've texted guys I liked and asked them on dates, I've also approached guys I was attracted to in bars. I've been rejected far more than not, but I think that's pretty normal in dating unless you look like a super model. (which I don't) But if someone is going to reject me for superficial reasons like size and build, then why should I be broken up about it? Their loss, my missed bullet. But if you don't approach, how will you know?
Eeyore79 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I prefer to approach men. I'm reasonably nice looking, so typically the nice guys are too nervous to approach me, and the guys who are confident enough to approach me are the cocky players and jerks. I've figured out that the only way for me to get the nice guys is for me to approach them and be obviously flirtatious.
D-Lish Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I'd never approach a man. I might make eye contact and let him know I am checking him out and leave the rest up to him- but ask him out? Never!
sumdude Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 It's interesting , some think there's more value in being the chooser and some think there's more value in being chosen. I'm fine with it either way, as long as in the end you're both choosing each other for the right reasons.
sagetalk Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I've found if the girl approaches me, there is a greater chance of success since our first conversation was her idea. It makes her more likely to forgive mistakes, and it seems it's much harder for her to break it off if she approached me first. I like approaching first, but I think I'm clueless on which girls like me and which don't.
homersheineken Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I like both. I agree with Alphamale: when a woman approaches me it almost always ends in some type of sexual encounter
Chicago_Guy Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I like it when a woman does something to signal her interest. It makes it a lot easier to approach a woman and I feel more confident that she finds me attractive.
AngryTroll Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I like it when a woman does something to signal her interest. It makes it a lot easier to approach a woman and I feel more confident that she finds me attractive. Like how? I've wanted to approached many guys in the past, but for fear because of my looks (hides in shame) Sometimes I'll see a guy, and smile or say hi to him, but I wouldn't approach because who knows if I'm his type?
Rorschach Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Like how? I've wanted to approached many guys in the past, but for fear because of my looks (hides in shame) Sometimes I'll see a guy, and smile or say hi to him, but I wouldn't approach because who knows if I'm his type? Welcome to a man's world, we have to do this all the time, approach people when we have no idea if we're going to get rejected or not.
AngryTroll Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Welcome to a man's world, we have to do this all the time, approach people when we have no idea if we're going to get rejected or not. This made me laugh out loud. Your point is well taken. I need to suck it up, I guess
Author tigressA Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 I prefer to approach men. I'm reasonably nice looking, so typically the nice guys are too nervous to approach me, and the guys who are confident enough to approach me are the cocky players and jerks. I've figured out that the only way for me to get the nice guys is for me to approach them and be obviously flirtatious. This is basically how I think. Additionally, I wasn't able to get a date or even a second look from a guy until I started college (long story), so I was used to being rejected time and time again when I let a guy know I was interested. I find it kind of weird, even 5 years out of high school, to be approached by a guy, and I'm immediately suspicious of their intentions. I feel infinitely more comfortable when I'm doing the approaching.
espec10001 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Emm I think the whole term "approach" is kind of creepy. I mean there has to be some commonality or shared interest or compliment to break the ice so the ball can get rolling. Calling it an "approach" sounds like your hunting for a meal
marsle85 Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I like both. I agree with Alphamale: when a woman approaches me it almost always ends in some type of sexual encounter Where have you been Homer!
lino Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I like both. I have to say that all the relationships I've ever had began with the girl approaching me with the exception of 2 where I did the approaching in those instances. when a woman approaches me it almost always ends in some type of sexual encounter Same here although I'd replace almost always with usually.
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