alphamale Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Two of the guys thought I was weird and ridiculous for this. Am I? no, not really. when you date someone you also date their family, friends, and pets
Kaplan Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Ferrets, I admit, would probably be pretty good pets if you removed the stink glands. I'll look into the cichlids.
Author furbaby Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 Did you dump this guy because he doesn't like animals or because he doesn't love animals? I dumped this guy because he seemed perpetually irritated by/completely uninterested in my pets. When he did touch them, he was sometimes rough with them and never particularly caring. I later found out from his housemate that he has kicked her dog, which is ****ed up and inexcusable in my book. I do love my pets. They're not humans, and I don't love them more than humans, but I love them for what they are. They are loyal, affectionate, and they make me happy. In their own ways, they are amazing, complex creatures. If it really came down to it, I would not put them above the people I love, but I do require that the people in my life treat them with respect and kindness.
Kaplan Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I dumped this guy because he seemed perpetually irritated by/completely uninterested in my pets. When he did touch them, he was sometimes rough with them and never particularly caring. I later found out from his housemate that he has kicked her dog, which is ****ed up and inexcusable in my book. See that seems very reasonable. Especially with the dog-kicking, it's obvious he is a completely different person from you. Even as someone who isn't into animals as much as you, I would think someone who kicks a dog is probably not a really nice person.
D-Lish Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I wouldn't be compatible with someone who didn't love or respect animals. I have broken up with guys that enjoy hunting because I find such an activity reprehensible. I dated a guy for a few months and he always pretended to enjoy my dogs. One evening I was making dinner and I walked into my living room just as he roughly shoved one of my dogs off the couch as she was trying to snuggle with him. I asked him to leave immediately and never spoke to him again.
Eeyore79 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I don't think a pet can be compared to a hobby such as stamps or games; owning a pet is more like having a child. Would you want to date someone who disliked your child? Nope, didn't think so! I know some people may find it ridiculous that I think of pets like children, but that is how many pet lovers feel. Pets are part of the family as much as a child is; if a man told me to put my baby out in the kitchen because he didn't like it, I'd obviously dump him, so what difference does it make if my baby is a dog? OP, I don't think you are wrong for wanting to date someone who loves animals; if you love animals like I do, then someone not liking your pet is equivalent to them not liking you. I dated one non animal lover who used to push my dog away and want to put her out of the room (and I'm sure he kicked her at least once), and I'd never do it again. I am responsible for her welfare, like a mother who is responsible for a child - and a mother wouldn't bring a man around her children if he hated them, so I won't bring a man around my dog if he hates her.
Author furbaby Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 I wouldn't be compatible with someone who didn't love or respect animals. I have broken up with guys that enjoy hunting because I find such an activity reprehensible. I dated a guy for a few months and he always pretended to enjoy my dogs. One evening I was making dinner and I walked into my living room just as he roughly shoved one of my dogs off the couch as she was trying to snuggle with him. I asked him to leave immediately and never spoke to him again. Ugh that's creepy.
janie423 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Real love is reserved for human beings that I have a deep physical and emotional connection with. Now, I don't neglect them - they're indoor-only, they're well fed, I clean the box religiously, and they get their yearly vet checkups. I'll scritch 'em behind the ears when they want it, and I'll play with them. Mostly, though, they keep to themselves, and sleep on my feet. They're animals. I'm human. One of them has already reached her lifetime maximum of vet bills from Mansquito. Any more vet estimates over 500 bucks, and it's time for the Big Sleep. Real love? There are many kinds of love. Newsflash guy - you're an animal too. I'm happy that you take care of your pets. But to put a $$$ limit on how far your care will extend - whoa, cold blooded. Next!!
Rorschach Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Real love? There are many kinds of love. Newsflash guy - you're an animal too. I'm happy that you take care of your pets. But to put a $$$ limit on how far your care will extend - whoa, cold blooded. Next!! Just to raise a point, don't you think that yelling next like an executioner passing judgment is rather cold blooded? Do you really feel like your in a position to ultimately judge someone elses value as a person due to a single comment they made on the internet?
Kaplan Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Just to raise a point, don't you think that yelling next like an executioner passing judgment is rather cold blooded? Do you really feel like your in a position to ultimately judge someone elses value as a person due to a single comment they made on the internet? Yeah, also, if he wanted to save the lives of animals, his money could be invested much more efficiently in other areas. What I mean to say is that the ten thousand dollars he doesn't spend trying to save the sick, old cat could save the lives of more than one animal if given to a charity organization that helps animals. Or he could donate to an organization that helps people and do a lot of good for our species. Either way, I think it makes sense to put a price on the life of a pet.
janie423 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Just to raise a point, don't you think that yelling next like an executioner passing judgment is rather cold blooded? Do you really feel like your in a position to ultimately judge someone elses value as a person due to a single comment they made on the internet? Executioner? My "next" referred to rejecting a person with this mentality as a potential suitor. And the effect of my "passing judgement" is far less cold blooded than judging another living being unfit to live (and thereby denying it an opportunity to live) because of a prescribed dollar amount.
Rorschach Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Executioner? My "next" referred to rejecting a person with this mentality as a potential suitor. And the effect of my "passing judgement" is far less cold blooded than judging another living being unfit to live (and thereby denying it an opportunity to live) because of a prescribed dollar amount. Could you perhaps quote me the difference between deeming somebody unfit for you, and deeming them unfit for the world? Because functionally I see no difference. You're saying just because this person has a single opinion which differs from yours, without even knowing his full reasoning, your saying that he is not good enough for you, ergo you are in fact better than him/ he is worse than you. Very cold blooded. Put yourself in his shoes, some person comes up to you on the street, reads your shirt which says, oh I don't know, 'save the whales' and just rolls their eyes, says 'next' and keeps going, does that make you feel like a whole and viable person? Or just like so much meat that just got judged unfit? A little more humanity on the internet is something I'd strive to see.
janie423 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Yeah, also, if he wanted to save the lives of animals, his money could be invested much more efficiently in other areas. What I mean to say is that the ten thousand dollars he doesn't spend trying to save the sick, old cat could save the lives of more than one animal if given to a charity organization that helps animals. Or he could donate to an organization that helps people and do a lot of good for our species. Either way, I think it makes sense to put a price on the life of a pet. Depends how sick the cat is, and whether or not spending such amounts would actually cause more pain for the cat. You stated $10,000, the other poster stated $500. There is a point when we must euthanize animals, but let us hope we set a higher dollar limit than a concrete $500. I would spend $500 on a stray, as would most of my friends.
janie423 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Could you perhaps quote me the difference between deeming somebody unfit for you, and deeming them unfit for the world? Because functionally I see no difference. You're saying just because this person has a single opinion which differs from yours, without even knowing his full reasoning, your saying that he is not good enough for you, ergo you are in fact better than him/ he is worse than you. Very cold blooded. Put yourself in his shoes, some person comes up to you on the street, reads your shirt which says, oh I don't know, 'save the whales' and just rolls their eyes, says 'next' and keeps going, does that make you feel like a whole and viable person? Or just like so much meat that just got judged unfit? A little more humanity on the internet is something I'd strive to see. Not saying he is not good enough for me, that is what you are saying. I am saying that his heart is not big enough for me, and I just don't know how else to put it. If someone rejects me because of my beliefs about animals I have no issue with that at all.
Eeyore79 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I don't have a dollar limit for how much I would spend on a pet; it does seem a little cold blooded. I would try to keep my pet alive as long as it wasn't suffering and had a decent quality of life, no matter how much it cost. If I euthanase a pet, it's because it's in the pet's best interests, and has nothing to do with money.
fishtaco Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 It's perfectly fine. Some like blonds and some like brunettes. You like pet lovers. Sounds like a personal preference to me. I don't see a problem with this.
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