cartierbenjamin Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I've been dealing with a female in which I try to encourage her to do better for herself and give her advice and suprises sometimes. I was invited to meet her family a week ago, she told me her parents know about me and she would like me to walk in the dinner with her and attend graduation. A week ago she called me and she was crying in fear she wouldnt graduate and I was right there for her. Days later she called me that she was going to the emergency room, she said I didnt have to come but (why would you call me?) and I was right there. Another night we hang out and she seemed like she was going through one of her moods again. So I told her I'm going to leave if your going to start getting mad out of nowhere again. She said stay I want you here, your the man I want to be with. So I figured it wasnt nothing major, so I stay. Days later I sent her edible arrangements and a note congratulating her on graduation. I hang out with her that day and she starts to change moods. Like whenever I do something nice to her she is happy, but within hours later she gets mad. I asked her why does she always do that....She doesnt want to respond, but finally says you like me more than I like you. While reading her facebook status she wrote "I like the fact I have men in my life that I can call for ANYTHING. I get it from my dad thats why I have high standards." I've always been there for her but once again she pushes me away and says she doesnt want to deal with me. everything was fine then she went into one of her moods yet again. I asked what is wrong I asked her can she name 10 things I did wrong in the year and a half we've been. She paused and said "you keep asking me what is wrong." I told her when people care for someone they try to help them out even if they dont want to share. She said I dont want to talk to you. I told her the times when you needed help I was there I didnt have to be, but I was there. I figured that is what females want in a relationship the trust and dependence of your s/o. She said I know you care about me so I knew you would come. When Im there for her she pushes me away. She doesnt want to deal with me. Like this is the same girl that wanted me to meet her family? I'm not sure what to do?
Lakeside_runner Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I'm not sure what to do? RUN! RUN FOR THE HILLS! Find somebody who is emotionally stable...
Author cartierbenjamin Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 It seems as humans the people you care about are the ones that run away from you. However the ones that care less are the ones that are being pursued. So I guess the ones I do care about I shouldnt show the actions for it, just be nonchalant?
Lakeside_runner Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 No... all I'm saying is find someone who also cares about you. There is something wrong with this girl. As usually is the case with people like that, they have to face their demons on their own. She has to realize that she has issues and then resolve them. I've been in a relationship similar to yours for 4.5 years. Ask yourself - what are you getting out of this relationship? Are you constantly trying to make her happy? What does she do to make you happy? Is she equally supportive when you're going through rough patches? Relationships are about partnership.
Author cartierbenjamin Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 No... all I'm saying is find someone who also cares about you. There is something wrong with this girl. As usually is the case with people like that, they have to face their demons on their own. She has to realize that she has issues and then resolve them. I've been in a relationship similar to yours for 4.5 years. Ask yourself - what are you getting out of this relationship? Are you constantly trying to make her happy? What does she do to make you happy? Is she equally supportive when you're going through rough patches? Relationships are about partnership. Thanks for the advice. She knew Saturday was my brothers birthday and there was a fight party at my house. Also earlier I was in the hospital visiting one of my family members. She knew all this...So she calls and tells me she is going to the emergency room. So just leaving a hospital and missing the fight party for my brother birthday I came to check on her. I told her if she felt that way why dodnt she call her other options... Do they not care about her? Why call me?
Author cartierbenjamin Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 You said she would need to find out her own issues and realize what she had. Around the ending of January she got in one of her moods and told me to stop talking to her out of nowhere. So I was heated and said I will never talk to this girl ever in my life unless she apologizes. So three months past with no contact and then we unite. She called and apologized saying she realized what she had and she tends to push people and things away that are good for her and how she want to be with me and meet her family. Then she pulls this stunt again.
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