brainygirl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Ok, so I posted the other day about accidentally hooking up with the friend of a guy I'd been casually seeing for a while. I really like the second guy and want to keep seeing him. The first guy was a completely casual thing with no exclusivity or commitment. Well, the first guy decided to freak out about the whole thing. He emailed me multiple times first telling me his friend was only interested in me as a revenge thing for something that happened between them a while back, then telling me the second guy was gonna break my heart. I told the first guy I was no longer interested in any sort of relationship. Possessivness and control are not things I am interested in, he had his chance to be in that sort of relationship with me and he choose to keep things casual. So, I contacted the second guy, told him I was still interested in seeing him. Last night he was ok with it and we had plans to hang out this evening or tomorrow. Today he texts me saying "this is so gay" and that he "decided he's out". ButI called him and he said give him a call "in a few weeks" if I wanted. So, excuse me for this, but is he interested or not? Should I pursue anything with him or have one more "cool dude who didn't want me" story to go over when I'm bummed about always being alone?
Kaplan Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 He probably wants you in some way; probably just for sex. But the messed-up-ness of the situation makes it not worth it to him. And I doubt he's worth it, either.
deux ex machina Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 ...Should I pursue anything with him or have one more "cool dude who didn't want me" story to go over when I'm bummed about always being alone? I wouldn't pursue it at all.
Feelin Frisky Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 (edited) Ok, so I posted the other day about accidentally hooking up with the friend of a guy I'd been casually seeing for a while. I really like the second guy and want to keep seeing him. The first guy was a completely casual thing with no exclusivity or commitment. Well, the first guy decided to freak out about the whole thing. He emailed me multiple times first telling me his friend was only interested in me as a revenge thing for something that happened between them a while back, then telling me the second guy was gonna break my heart. I told the first guy I was no longer interested in any sort of relationship. Possessivness and control are not things I am interested in, he had his chance to be in that sort of relationship with me and he choose to keep things casual. So, I contacted the second guy, told him I was still interested in seeing him. Last night he was ok with it and we had plans to hang out this evening or tomorrow. Today he texts me saying "this is so gay" and that he "decided he's out". ButI called him and he said give him a call "in a few weeks" if I wanted. So, excuse me for this, but is he interested or not? Should I pursue anything with him or have one more "cool dude who didn't want me" story to go over when I'm bummed about always being alone? "This is so gay" is a real tip off that there IS some deceit and weirdo dynamic going on between these two guys. Seriously, that's a dead giveaway. If I were you, I wouldn't entertain guy number two at all--I'd have to make him beg and really show me some honest respect. Don't put yourself down one bit--it just sounds like you were a victim of some dysfunctional a-holes. Keep your head high and treat him or them like door mats. If you decide you want anything from guy 2, USE him and then kick his ass to the curb. This guy needs some serious humbling and you should not let yourself be hurt by either of those 2 kunts. I don't know you but you sound like your desperate when you talk about this situation. I have a feeling you shouldn't have need to be desperate and have a lot of potential to find better and more deserving quarry. Think about it--these two sissy Marys are playing with someone else's ego with the Internet as their vehicle. Cut your losses and value yourself fairly--not by how these dweebs behave. Edited May 9, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
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