PDPullmn612 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 (edited) Hey all, I'm falling for a good friend who also happens to have a boyfriend that she's been dating for about 3 months. Doesn't it suck when something like this happens? I have mixed feelings because while its nice to have feeling for someone I also don't wanna keep falling for someone who I may never be able to date. She knows that I like her, but she doesn't know about my stronger feelings that I'm developing. What do you guys think? Edited May 9, 2010 by PDPullmn612
Ellezz Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 important question is whether she feels the same way about you:bunny:
somedude81 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I suggest spending very little time with her till you can get over her or find somebody else. Unless you think you can steal her from her boyfriend there is no point in liking somebody who is already taken. Seeing her will only make it worse and you do not want to go through that pain.
Author PDPullmn612 Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 (edited) Ok, well here is the deal with me and her. I probably should have posted some more information. Her and I have hooked up a few times. We just kissed nothing serious. one of those times was over our spring break while she still had a boyfriend. After the time we kissed over spring break there have been small talks about us dating. She has told me that since her birthday (back in December) she has had thoughts about us dating and what not. That night while on spring break she was even talking about how she wasn't ready to date me yet and what not. According to my room mate she had told him that I am the kinda guy that she would have a serious relationship with and that she wasn't looking for that right now. Since then nothing has happened because she has a boyfriend. However, we flirt like crazy whenever we see each other or hang out. She knows that I like her and all, but we haven't really talked about it too much. It's been kinda weird because anyone and everyone we know always says that they can't understand why me and her aren't dating. People have continually asked about her and I. Its kinda of annoying, but oh well! Well anyway, there is some background info that may help. Edited May 10, 2010 by PDPullmn612
phineas Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 So, she says she really likes you to the point where she consider's you relationship material but wants to just date random guys? And she made out with you while she had a boyfriend? And is still with him? C'mon. Do you really want a chick that will convince herself that it's ok to make out with a guy friend while she has a BF?
Left in a Lurch Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 So, she says she really likes you to the point where she consider's you relationship material but wants to just date random guys? And she made out with you while she had a boyfriend? And is still with him? C'mon. Do you really want a chick that will convince herself that it's ok to make out with a guy friend while she has a BF? Agreed. I think anyone that says that you are so perfect for them and that is the reason they cannot be with you is full of it. Have you ever met a woman and thought, she is beautiful, smart, cares about me, makes me laugh, turns me on, really likes me so I must go bone a bunch of other chicks and not date her, but date every other chick that crosses my path?
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 You created all this drama in your life. This thread needs to be re-titled from "falling for a good friend" to "I'm flirting with drama." You define the relationships you are a part of. Why would you ever continue to persue a girl who is openly dating another guy even after you have kissed her? Forget this girl and go after a girl who is willing to like you for who you are instead of use you for the silly way you are currently acting.
Author PDPullmn612 Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 You guys should know that I'm not worrying about this too much. I'm just leaving it the way it is now. I'm not pursuing her and I'm leaving the situation alone since its not worth getting worked up over it. We are pretty good friends too and I plan on continuing to talk to her until either 1) it becomes too hard or 2) something else happens. As of right now things are fine between us so there is no use in changing anything. The other night she called me upset telling me that her boyfriend told her that me and her were meant to be together and that the only things stopping us was him. Not that it makes a difference, but I just kind of found it amusing that he would even say something like that to her lol.
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 You guys should know that I'm not worrying about this too much. I'm just leaving it the way it is now. I'm not pursuing her and I'm leaving the situation alone since its not worth getting worked up over it. We are pretty good friends too and I plan on continuing to talk to her until either 1) it becomes too hard or 2) something else happens. As of right now things are fine between us so there is no use in changing anything. The other night she called me upset telling me that her boyfriend told her that me and her were meant to be together and that the only things stopping us was him. Not that it makes a difference, but I just kind of found it amusing that he would even say something like that to her lol. Does it give you an ego boost to be friends with her? Seriously you would be better off just persuing girls who like you enough to date you. If you start dating some one who is not this girl would you still remain "good friends" with her? If so, then I don't think you future relationships will go to well.
Author PDPullmn612 Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Does it give you an ego boost to be friends with her? Seriously you would be better off just persuing girls who like you enough to date you. No, it does not give me an ego boost to be friends with her. The situation is kind of hard to explain clearly as some of you may have seen. I just didn't want to waste your time by making you all read a really long post. I just wanted to see if anyone had any input. As of now, I'm not even really worrying about it. And, I won't until I have to worry about it (if something changes).
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