donnamaybe Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I think guys at bars get stereotyped unfairly..Is every girl who goes to a bar not marriage material and loose? Most people in their 20's and early 30's got to bars/lounges to socialize during wekends a decent amount they dont go to bingo just yet, to say all of them arent relationship material and are just looking to have sex with anyhting is unfair.. I go to bars with people in relationships most of the time im looking for one myself id hate to get labled by a women as some guy whos just looking for one nighters because i go to bars.. My girlfriend, her daughter, and a guy friend and I go out almost every Friday night for karaoke and dancing. Sometimes my guy goes with (he works on Saturdays for now). We're there for fun with friends. End of story. No one in our group is there to "hook up" with someone. I know lots of people who go to bars who also go to church every Sunday.
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 OP- I still think this is a case of trying to hit the wrong target. You seem to be going to places with the express intent of meeting a woman. The best way to meet people is through networking, not prowling. Do you have a hobby? Take a class, join a group. Meet people with the same interests as you. The right girl will come along. I wasn't even looking when I met my true love.
Green Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 as far as dating goes, the ones who are 18/19 years old seem and sometimes say they're "too young" for me, while a girl just two years old (I'm 21 right now) says she's "too old". So not only is it hard enough to date, but to have a girlfriend and a healthy sexual life is also seeming to be a big hurdle for me. Like the one previous poster said...I'm worried that in 10 years when I'm almost 32 years old, the women who desire me now will still be the ones who by then will be 45-50 years old. It's very scary. Dude 18/19 year old girls are very easy to get and I'm more then a few years older then you. You're 21 so don't worry about what you'll be like at 22 let alone 32... FOR THE LOVE OF GOD NO MORE INTERNET SEX HOOK-UPS WITH OLDER WOMEN. You do relize women are people just like men. You basicaly just need to aproach them and enjoy yourself. Sounds like you just wory and want to get a gf. Come back and post about ACTIONS... not just worries. Come with detailed stories of things you are doing.
homersheineken Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I just figured they wouldn't know what I'm thinking... Hehehe.... Women know exactly what you're thinking
Author mike1988 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Hehehe.... Women know exactly what you're thinking They're mind readers!
lino Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 While I agree with you that being called nice isn't a compliment for a man, I don't see how you were actually rejected in the following convo: "I like you, you're cute" and her response was, "Aww, thanks...you're nice!" Saying "I like you, you're cute" isn't asking her anything so there's nothing she's actually turning you down on. If she gave your comment a sarcastic smile or even worse she had said something nasty in return, they yes, in that instance it'd mean you have been flicked. However in the scenario you described, she was simply being polite back to you and being that she's a bartender, it's not surprising.
Author mike1988 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Why do nice guys get the cold shoulder while mean guys get the warm pocket full of moose meat?
donnamaybe Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Okay, Mike. That was ugly. Anyway - I don't know why guys get this idea women like a-holes. It just isn't true, at least in my case - and that of my girlfriends.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Why do nice guys get the cold shoulder while mean guys get the warm pocket full of moose meat? Yeah, all "nice guys" term women's body parts as "pocket full of moose meat". I going to tell you again, you not getting women doesn't have anything to do with you being "nice". This is a convient excuse used to make yourself feel better whlie shifting none of your relationship hardships on yourself. However, as far as dating goes, the ones who are 18/19 years old seem and sometimes say they're "too young" for me, while a girl just two years old (I'm 21 right now) says she's "too old". So not only is it hard enough to date, but to have a girlfriend and a healthy sexual life is also seeming to be a big hurdle for me. Since I've used lines like this to deter unwanted male attention, the lack of interest these girls had didn't have anything to do with your age. They just weren't interested. And it doesn't mean other 18/19/20/21/22 year old girls won't be interested. I've told older men that they were too old for me but then dated other older guys. Why? Because I wasn't interested in that particular older man.
Author mike1988 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Okay, Mike. That was ugly. Anyway - I don't know why guys get this idea women like a-holes. It just isn't true, at least in my case - and that of my girlfriends. Sorry...trying to shed a little humor in. Can I ask where you're from?
donnamaybe Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Sorry...trying to shed a little humor in. Can I ask where you're from? Minnesota - Twin Ports area. Where people are real.
Author mike1988 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Minnesota - Twin Ports area. Where people are real. From what I've come to know, it seems in the United States, Midwestern and Southern girls are easier to date and attract. IDK why...but when I traveled to Washington, Philadelphia, Atlantic City and New York...I got a lot less looks than I have in West Virginia, North Carolina, Florida and Texas.
Green Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 From what I've come to know, it seems in the United States, Midwestern and Southern girls are easier to date and attract. IDK why...but when I traveled to Washington, Philadelphia, Atlantic City and New York...I got a lot less looks than I have in West Virginia, North Carolina, Florida and Texas. You just need to be yourself. That means living where you want to live and acting like you want to act around a girl. What is with this pre ocupation of worying about girls. My luck changed with women when I learned to enjoy myself around them instead of being stressed out about if it would work out. I stopped caring, and if they rejected me they rejected me. You just have to be yourself... not some fake nice guy or some fake jerk. Be genuinely you and know that it is the greatest feeling when some one you love, loves you back for who you are... No one can really give you advice in this stuff other then get out there and live life and do the things you want and don't shy away from the girls, or place, or things you want to do in your life. Don't let fear be an excuse "I can't talk to her she is out of my league" " I can't kiss her now she might get mad" "I can't move to that place I always wanted to live things might not work out" "I can't do that for a living even though I always wanted too".... YES YOU CAN DO IT ALL... GO FOR IT!
donnamaybe Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 From what I've come to know, it seems in the United States, Midwestern and Southern girls are easier to date and attract. Well, most of us don't need X-ray vision so we can see inside your wallet before we decide we like you.
Author mike1988 Posted May 11, 2010 Author Posted May 11, 2010 Well, most of us don't need X-ray vision so we can see inside your wallet before we decide we like you. I mean, in general, I am just a fishin', guitar playin' former Military cowboy...so maybe I fit better around people more down to Earth and conservative like me. http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs461.ash1/25330_10150109025080035_809565034_11435236_3385992_n.jpg http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash1/hs445.ash1/24545_10150160587660061_503070060_12130713_7011278_n.jpg
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Okay, Mike. That was ugly. Anyway - I don't know why guys get this idea women like a-holes. It just isn't true, at least in my case - and that of my girlfriends.Me too. My Lovebug is the nicest man I know!
donnamaybe Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 I mean, in general, I am just a fishin', guitar playin' former Military cowboy...so maybe I fit better around people more down to Earth and conservative like me. There are lots of guys like that around here. And I know lots of gals who like 'em JUST that way. I know I do.
sagetalk Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 Well, most of us don't need X-ray vision so we can see inside your wallet before we decide we like you. There are so many northern girls that deserve that, thank you .
Author mike1988 Posted May 12, 2010 Author Posted May 12, 2010 There are lots of guys like that around here. And I know lots of gals who like 'em JUST that way. I know I do. Really? Hmmm maybe I just am in the wrong area
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