skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Fine. Same scenario: two hot women, one is quiet and reserved the other is outspoken, flirty, etc. Which one is the man naturally drawn too.. It doesn't matter. Both the hotties will end up with dates. The same thing does NOT apply to men. It is not a two way street. Be the "nice guy" and you are down the road.
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 No no no! "nice guy" = sorry, I'm not interested, there are no exceptions If that's all she says when he asks her out, then it does seem like a rejection. It's usually "nice guy but ____".
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Fine. Same scenario: two hot women, one is quiet and reserved the other is outspoken, flirty, etc. Which one is the man naturally drawn too.. Both of them.
CLC2008 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It doesn't matter. Both the hotties will end up with dates. The same thing does NOT apply to men. It is not a two way street. Be the "nice guy" and you are down the road. I call Hogwash....
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Be the "nice guy" and you are down the road. That's not always the case. Nice guys with enough other good qualities do get dates.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I call Hogwash.... But you KNOW it's true. deep down , you know it.
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I call Hogwash.... I'd say only partially. It depends on the situation. My opinion is somewhere between that of yours and skydive.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 That's not always the case. Nice guys with enough other good qualities do get dates. But almost never with the girl they want. Nice guys have to settle.
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 But almost never with the girl they want. Nice guys have to settle. It depends on their other qualities. If they have a hot body, make a big salary, have interesting hobbies, etc. I doubt they have to settle.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It depends on their other qualities. If they have a hot body, make a big salary, have interesting hobbies, etc. I doubt they have to settle. True, a nice guy w/those qualities might get the girl he wants, but she will very soon grow bored with him and either leave or cheat
BlindbyLove Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 it seems that the biggest thing i see with nice guys is the lack of confidence. I believe a woman/man can pick up on that. where as a guy who's acting like a jerk usually sends out more energy being that jerk and people around him pick up on the more dominate energy. JMO.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 it seems that the biggest thing i see with nice guys is the lack of confidence. I believe a woman/man can pick up on that. where as a guy who's acting like a jerk usually sends out more energy being that jerk and people around him pick up on the more dominate energy. JMO. Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 True, a nice guy w/those qualities might get the girl he wants, but she will very soon grow bored with him and either leave or cheat If his hobbies are fun and interesting, not necessarily.
brainygirl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Wow, wish I knew this, I've called men I was interested in nice guys. As in, "he's a nice guy, I'd like to get to know him more". Turns out I was using a code that actually meant "I'm not interested in him for unarticulated reasons" could explain my astounding lack of success with men.
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 it seems that the biggest thing i see with nice guys is the lack of confidence. I believe a woman/man can pick up on that. where as a guy who's acting like a jerk usually sends out more energy being that jerk and people around him pick up on the more dominate energy. JMO. Many nice guys do lack confidence. A nice guy without enough confidence is a person who will be alone for a very long time.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 If his hobbies are fun and interesting, not necessarily. Like skydiving perhaps?
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Wow, wish I knew this, I've called men I was interested in nice guys. As in, "he's a nice guy, I'd like to get to know him more". Turns out I was using a code that actually meant "I'm not interested in him for unarticulated reasons" could explain my astounding lack of success with men. The term "nice guy" is scary for men because it is so often used by women when rejecting us. I'm so used to the "nice guy but ____" rejection. If you use "great guy" or just about anything other than "nice guy" you won't scare us away.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 could explain my astounding lack of success with men. I bet that's not true
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Like skydiving perhaps? Perhaps for some. Some want men to have many different hobbies.
CLC2008 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I'd say only partially. It depends on the situation. My opinion is somewhere between that of yours and skydive. Me too. Though I still say, that if there are two women that are attractive, the outspoken one who is being flirty saying "hey sexy" blah blah blah versus the other one who is equally attractive, but talks about her cats or how beautiful the table linens look or something, isn't the one you're going to be drawn to first.
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Me too. Though I still say, that if there are two women that are attractive, the outspoken one who is being flirty saying "hey sexy" blah blah blah versus the other one who is equally attractive, but talks about her cats or how beautiful the table linens look or something, isn't the one you're going to be drawn to first. I'd prefer the one who talks about her cats and table linens. I do agree that most men would be drawn to the other one at first.
brainygirl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 That and being shorter than most like, curvier than most like, and little too direct . . .
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Me too. Though I still say, that if there are two women that are attractive, the outspoken one who is being flirty saying "hey sexy" blah blah blah versus the other one who is equally attractive, but talks about her cats or how beautiful the table linens look or something, isn't the one you're going to be drawn to first. It doesn't matter. they will both end up with dates. Like I said b4, "nice guy" syndrome affects men only. It cannot apply to women. It's not possible
m12 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It doesn't matter. they will both end up with dates. Like I said b4, "nice guy" syndrome affects men only. It cannot apply to women. It's not possible "nice guy" syndrome affects men much more than women. It does affect some women too. The nice woman who's sitting in the corner sometimes does not get noticed.
skydiveaddict Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 That and being shorter than most like, curvier than most like, and little too direct . . . I bet you are very attractive. Dont put yourself down like that
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