Bellaveev Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 (edited) This is so cliché, but I dont know where else to go for help. I cant talk to people in my life because it would just circle back to me. Ill try to keep it short. Im 22, the guy Im smitten over Is 29 and my best friend is 28. Im single right now. Both him, and my best friend broke up with their respective partners in the last few months. His ex was my age. She was horrible and I saw first hand how she treated him. She would demand he buy her things in front of people, she was bisexual and hit on me at a party once, etc. Since then, hes started to show interest in my friend. My friend on the other hand, is thoroughly enjoying casually dating lots of guys and is plain grossed out that he hits on her. On more than one occasion she has said to me that 'girls like us' dont go for 'guys like him', and 'why would he even try hitting on her'. He has no clue and im friends with both of them. So I just sit and watch this play out. The guy I cant hardly hold myself up in front of hits on my best friend who could care less and neither clarify anything. I'm confused. I cant tell her because shes convinced were both out of his 'league'. So, while I cant tell her because she would lambaste me, I also can't tell him because he has a new aversion to females my age. It just sucks. This guy is the most amazing, special guy you could hope to meet. My friend complains that guys are stupid, yet glosses over him, yet he's burned by my age group from one encounter, and passes me up to go straight to my friend who's his age. Life is so strange Should I tell him? Should I not care what my friend thinks? But, hes not interested in me right, so should I bother? These are the questions that go through my head! I like this guy so much, I just want to take care of him. I wanted to even when he was in his other relationship, and now hes single and I still cant. Just wondering if I should try or do nothing... Edited May 9, 2010 by Bellaveev
Kaplan Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I don't really understand why your best friend makes you not want to go after this guy. I mean she doesn't want him so she won't be jealous or anything. I don't see how she fits into the equation. Who cares what she thinks? I say, ask him out.
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