kis Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Question: Is it ever acceptable for a married man to be alone with a woman at his house?
SavannahSmiles Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 That depends on who the woman is. I've been alone with my neighbor before because he was repairing my laptop. I have no attraction to him whatsoever. If you are alone with a woman that you have feelings for and she has feelings for you, then duh, I guess it's not a good idea. Did you really have to ask that?
Green Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Question: Is it ever acceptable for a married man to be alone with a woman at his house? Depends on the situation... if its just alone for the sake of being alone ... or they are watching a movie or having a private dinner that is inapropriate. If they are alone because they are waiting for the wife to get home or he is fixing something... or its work related then that might be ok but still something could be up.
You Go Girl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 People know when they are attracted to each other whether they ever speak of it or not. They also know well in advance if the chemistry between them is going in the direction of an affair, long before anything happens, and even if they've only been talking shop. Slowly, some little remark is said that is an innuendo, or can be taken two different ways. It's testing the waters to see if they're warm from the other side. I don't believe people end up in situations that lead to romance blindly. I think it's usually been in the works a long time. However I've been at friend's houses without the wife there. Sometimes I've known the man years longer than the wife, and there's nothing amiss whatsoever.
FarmGirl Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 I have 2 thoughts on this: My XH used to hang out at my XBFFs house while waiting for her hubby to come home. At first I was ok with it, then it started to make me uncomfy & I asked him not to do it anymore. He continued with the behavior and ended up cheating on me with her. 2 broken marriages with 5 kids between the 2 marriages later...I'd still tell you that's not a good idea... Secondly: I've recently asked my male neighbor (who has been hovering around me for ages & hinting around & asking for *more*, holding my hand, hugging me, etc ETC ETC!!!) not to come over unless my fiance is home. Mainly I did it because I didn't want him to get the wrong idea (any more). I am in a bad relationship and actually toyed with something more with this guy...BUT...it's not healthy for me, not fair to the fiance no matter what he's done to me...not to mention somewhat annoying having a hormonal aging man chasing after me So in closing I would say NO men & women who are not married to each other probably shouldn't be alone together for long periods of time. This keeps spouses from being uncomfy and neighbors from being nosy. Call me old fashioned
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