Alienware Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 hi guys&girls..this is my 1st ever post:) Well I’ve been dating this girl for about 4 months now and I think we got a great chemistry. When we are on a date she laughs a lot and she even gave me a surprise gift on our last date. I think that we are ready to be exclusive and I gave her a note when I sent her home. In that note I wrote “Amy will you be my girlfriend?”….(I was trying to be cute, silly me) So this morning I called her and asked her what’s the answer to my question and she said “I don’t have any answer for now”. I was a bit disappointed, why can’t she just say YES/NO? So I was wondering: 1. Did she subtly reject me? 2. Ok let’s assume that she is still thinking about it, when should I ask her again? 3. Should I still go out with her?
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Welcome to LS! Had she rejected you, she would have said no. Back off, give her a little time. May I ask, why did you give her a note as opposed to asking her in person? No offense, but it reminds me of passing notes in Jr. High.
sagetalk Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 I admit it's strange for her to delay her answer. Has she expressed wanting to be your girlfriend? When you get ahead of a women in a relationship, you are in big trouble. Pull the reigns back some and let her make the emotional decisions. When she's asking, "When are you gonna make me your girlfriend" or "Am I your girlfriend?" then make the move. If you just come out and do it, it doesn't seem to work. I'm not saying this makes sense (hey it's dating), but it seems to be true more often then not.
Author Alienware Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 i just don't wanna rush her to give the answer at that moment. So i thought a note was better.
Author Alienware Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 I admit it's strange for her to delay her answer. Has she expressed wanting to be your girlfriend? When you get ahead of a women in a relationship, you are in big trouble. Pull the reigns back some and let her make the emotional decisions. When she's asking, "When are you gonna make me your girlfriend" or "Am I your girlfriend?" then make the move. If you just come out and do it, it doesn't seem to work. I'm not saying this makes sense (hey it's dating), but it seems to be true more often then not. she didn't say anything specific but by the way she acted i got a feeling that she wanted me to pop the question. That's why i'm surprised when she couldn't give the answer. I think i'm gonna ask her again in a week's time. Is it a bad idea?
BobSacamento Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Could it possibly be that she already thought she was your GF?
Author Alienware Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 Could it possibly be that she already thought she was your GF? huh, why would she think that?....but if that was the case then she should have no problem saying YES right?
BobSacamento Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 IDK, if I thought I was someone's BF and the out of the blue one day they hand me a note asking me to be their BF, frankly I'd be a little insulted.
Green Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 The note was a bad move in my opinion. Are you a teenager? Life favors the men who overestimate a womens interest... because you only lose out if underestimate a girls interest. Look if you guys are kissing and going out and she is not dating other guys that should be good enough for now. Just refer to her as your gf if you want and don't get hung up on the labels.
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