rough_diamonds Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It's "convenient" for him. Like when he's done hanging out with his friend or done with the family or when he has nothing else on. Like he wont message me all day cause he hanging out with other people but ill get a text at like 12am when everyone is in bed and he's up by himself. Kinda pisses me off really. I'm hopeless and always go at his command and it annoys me that I'm kinda down on his list. Maybe I should make myself a little less available? Am I overreacting? We've been dating for bout 10 weeks (been friends for a while) and see each other bout 2 times a week.
Engadget Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It's "convient" for him. Like when he's done hanging out with his friend or done with the family or when he has nothing else on. Like he wont message me all day cause he hanging out with other people but ill get a text at like 12am when everyone is in bed and he's up by himself. Kinda pisses me off really. I'm hopeless and always go at his command and it annoys me that I'm kinda down on his list. Maybe I should make myself a little less available? Am I overreacting? We've been dating for bout 10 weeks (been friends for a while) and see each other bout 2 times a week. Make yourself a lot less available to him.
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Make yourself a lot less available to him. yeah, like completely unavailable. If he really liked you, you wouldn't be so far down on the list- you'd be right at the top. Sorry, dear, but you're his backup plan for when he has nothing better to do. I don't say this to be hurtful. I say this so you will realize that you deserve to be treated better. Don't wait around for this loser's texts. Find someone that will show you some respect.
D-Lish Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Teach people how to treat you. Damn right I would become less available. I hope you DON'T meet up with him when he calls you after exhausting all of his options!!!
sagetalk Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 It's "convenient" for him. Like when he's done hanging out with his friend or done with the family or when he has nothing else on. Like he wont message me all day cause he hanging out with other people but ill get a text at like 12am when everyone is in bed and he's up by himself. Kinda pisses me off really. I'm hopeless and always go at his command and it annoys me that I'm kinda down on his list. Maybe I should make myself a little less available? Am I overreacting? We've been dating for bout 10 weeks (been friends for a while) and see each other bout 2 times a week. And yet it's working. He's treating you badly, but you don't want to dump him? I have no idea why doing what he is doing works, but it works well. Should you make yourself more unavailable, yes. Don't get too excited about this guy, just because someone blows you off does not mean they are a great catch. It could just mean they are a jerk.
Author rough_diamonds Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 He said the other day when we were hanging out that "he finds it hard to fit all these people in his life" and joked about crossing names off a diary when he hung out with them. Kinda made me feel like I was more of a thing he had to hang out with rather than wanting to.
D-Lish Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 He said the other day when we were hanging out that "he finds it hard to fit all these people in his life" and joked about crossing names off a diary when he hung out with them. Kinda made me feel like I was more of a thing he had to hang out with rather than wanting to. Of course it would make you feel that way- it was designed to make you feel that way, so don't buy into it. Don't be an option- be the prize. Be busy, be happy- be a girl that has options and you will become much more attractive to him.
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 He said the other day when we were hanging out that "he finds it hard to fit all these people in his life" and joked about crossing names off a diary when he hung out with them. Kinda made me feel like I was more of a thing he had to hang out with rather than wanting to.Puh-leeze. He's not Paris Freaking Hilton! Unfortunately, it sounds to me like you may be one of the ones on the cross off list.
Green Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 You should tell him what you want in a relationship, see if you can come to an understanding. If not you can always leave him
Butterflying Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Yes you should definately be less "available" for him. The problem is, by doing that, the relationship is over becasue you'll never talk to each other or spend time together. I don't like games. I'm learning slowly that when you have to strategically plan a simple thing like making or answering his call, he's not that into you. So move on. It's not worth it. Love is a natural thing. He should call you when he "feels" like calling you. And if he loves you, you will be the first thing on his mind, not the last. And if you love him, you will want to hear from him. You wouldn't purposely avoid his call just to teach him how to love you. Even when the relationship is new and you're not in love yet, this is still true.
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