redmelon Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 I wasn't sure if this was the right place to put this, I don't know. Anyway, last night I ran into my ex-fiance at a music club seeing a show. I was there with a friend and at one point we were walking outside through the crowd, and my ex came up to him and said, "who is that hot girl you are with" after he grabbed him in the man region. I kept going and was not part of the conversation and didn't even see my ex at that point. My friend, who knows him, was dumbfounded and didn't say anything. He came outside and told me what happened, and I said I thought it sounded like he was messing with him. But I don't know, maybe he is just THAT stupid. Later, he came up and was standing right next to me at the show, and I said HELLOOO> he said, "Oh, it's you". Then he said he didn't recognize me and that I look different. I said, "maybe you should get your glasses checked.: He said, "thanks for your insight" and turned his back and walked away. Then, a few minutes later I see him looking in my direction while fondling the shoulder of another girl. My gut reaction to this was EWWWW. I feel like he was purposely trying to upset me with all of these behaviors. What's your take on this encounter? It's left me feeling quite confused, really...
Author redmelon Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 also, this and one other run-in have been our only communication in almost a year...any advice is greatly appreciated.
spiderowl Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Your ex sounds creepy and his behaviour aggressive. Your friend must have found it threatening and unpleasant. Your ex is obviously trying to assert some status in this situation and intimidate your friend. I feel 99% certain your ex recognised you. It's up to you what you do about your ex's territorial assertion, but he sounds an unpleasant character to me. My view is you'd be wise to steer clear of him.
Author redmelon Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 I was leaning toward him trying to screw with my head, but I wasn't sure. I guess it's possible that he didn't recognize me, though it seems rather hard to believe. I have the same color hair, same size, same style. I don't know, I can't decide what I think...
sphx26 Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Messing with you and playing games. If you're into playing games then by all means, play along, otherwise, just stay out of it.
Author redmelon Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Yea, perhaps you are correct. I wasn't planning to "do" anything about it, just wanted to be a bit more clear in my thinking about the encounter. His behavior was a big turn off, regardless of the intention behind it...
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