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When is it too much at the beginning of 'dating'?


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So a few months back, a barista randomly began flirting with me. She's really smart, really sweet, and really attractive. She recognized me from the class before her.

 

Since that moment we've had occasional run ins... but my self-esteem was rocked by a bad breakup at the time... I still put up a "fake level of confidence" to show her I wasn't hurting. She'd always be really happy to see me... finally I asked her out. She was 'dating' someone, but we went out anyways. it was a good night, but nothing really came of it... other than I thought I friendzoned myself. Oh well.

 

I still saw her occasionally... she was always happy to see me.

 

finally.. we began texting occasionally... and we both thought we should hang out again soon. Finally I said **** it. I called her. it's history from there. she invited me over to make dinner together... ended up fooling around till 330am... the next night i called her she invited me out to drinks. I took her to one of my favorite places and we talked more. She brought up exclusivity with me. I was (inside) so happy. I said that was a given... since I laid eyes on her. She let me know she wanted me from the moment she saw me. And we just kissed until 1am under the stars... it was perfect =)

 

....should I call her tonight? I'm djing a party.. thought I'd invite her.

 

it sucks now. I can't go to the place she works.... even though i ALWAYS go there (before I was intimate with her)

 

****.

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....should I call her tonight? I'm djing a party.. thought I'd invite her.

 

it sucks now. I can't go to the place she works.... even though i ALWAYS go there (before I was intimate with her)

 

****.

 

1. Sure why not?

2 Why cant you go where she works anymore? It's just a coffee house right? I dont see the problem w/that

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Doesn't sound like you have too much of an issue here. As long as she doesn't have a boyfriend (you said she was "dating" someone else...not sure how deep that is going with her and the other person) it shouldn't get too messy. Seems like the sky is the limit at this point.

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Doesn't sound like you have too much of an issue here. As long as she doesn't have a boyfriend (you said she was "dating" someone else...not sure how deep that is going with her and the other person) it shouldn't get too messy. Seems like the sky is the limit at this point.

 

 

oh... she told me she broke that off.

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Also I need/want to be more spontaneous with her, but being a grad student... my free time is limited...

 

and my thoughts/mind are preoccupied with my upcoming study. any legit ideas? heh

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Happy for you B_B ( I remember your past threads; glad you're over the ex).

 

I would go with the flow as that's least stress with wanting to " impress" your date. Try to find a balance between dating and school work and try not to make one a priority over the other.

 

Forego the need to see each other every single day and do the once a week dance. I would not go for spontaneity ( such as surprising her at work or anything like that) until maybe the 1 month mark. If anything, you can still be romantic by snuggling with her at night or little things like leaving chocolate on her pillow ( see that's cute).

 

Just relax. Don't stress, and be yourself.

 

PS to answer your question ( since I kind of went off topic there) CALL HER!

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Happy for you B_B ( I remember your past threads; glad you're over the ex).

 

I would go with the flow as that's least stress with wanting to " impress" your date. Try to find a balance between dating and school work and try not to make one a priority over the other.

 

Forego the need to see each other every single day and do the once a week dance. I would not go for spontaneity ( such as surprising her at work or anything like that) until maybe the 1 month mark. If anything, you can still be romantic by snuggling with her at night or little things like leaving chocolate on her pillow ( see that's cute).

 

Just relax. Don't stress, and be yourself.

 

PS to answer your question ( since I kind of went off topic there) CALL HER!

 

 

OH I DID CALL HER. AND OH... IT WAS A GOOD NIGHT!!!!! :love:

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