britintokyo Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 Recap : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t230518/ Quick version: Boy meets stripper, boy likes stripper, stripper likes boy. Ex gets the hump and turns up but not too bad, stripper gets anonymous call at work saying bf is still sleeping with ex..stripper runs off... So quick opinion: Since that night, we met last night and talked A LOT! Because of all this crazy gossip she said she is confused, scared and doesn't know what to believe. We talked for hours, I was at her work and she sat with me on and off, then we went out together. She softened a bit but didn't want to kiss me and kept saying she is complicated and difficult...She kept asking me questions about jealousy and how would I handle a certain situation. She seemed to be trying to test me and saying she wasn't sure if she still liked her ex! So I wasn't expecting her to call today but she did, met up before work, then I was supposed to meet her after work but she called before and said she needed to go out with the girls and some customers. Again a test I think as we had this exact scenario in our conversation last night. She also said customers had seen her with me last week which obviously can affect her business, which is fine. So I met her later, I saw her in the bar, kept my distance until she had finished then we went off to a club. It was pretty good, she has softened since last night and dancing, hugging and some light kissing on the lips but nothing as passionate as before... I am 100% sure she likes me and still does even after this sh&t because she could have blown me off tonight but didn't and was asking her friends what they thought... So the question for you guys and especially gals, is do you think she will soften with me again and we'll get that passion back? It's great to be with her but it's hurting a bit to see her shy or scared to kiss me when before she was all over me!
bananalaffytaffy Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 Waaaaaaaaay to much bulls*it. Most of the people on the other thread to you to dump both the stripper and the ex-gf. These new developments don't change that. If anything, they prove that opinion. I dunno, maybe you really LIKE the drama.
Samari Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 If this girl is going to lose it over a rumor about you then you may need to forget it. Let's say you guys are in a relationship and this happens again, then what? I mean is she really that gullible? Just seems like you're doing way too much work. And tell your ex-girlfriend to stay out of your personal life. What kind of friend would do what she has done to you? This situation really isn't that complex.
Lizzie60 Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 Listen.. this girl has customers.. she doesn't want her customers to know about you... because she would lose business. She might like you a lot.. but trust me.. I very much doubt she is 'in love' with you.. if she was.. she would drop everything.. She is addicted to sex and money.. but not in the sense of a true addiction... she just doesn't love you enough to drop her lifestyle.. it's that simple.. trust me on this one.. She will eventually drop you.. mark my words.. maybe you should move on.. Oh.. I should add.. she's not just a stripper..
D-Lish Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Stripper's make their money knowing how to work their customers. Don't doubt that you are anything more than a customer. Of course she pays attention to you at work- you make it worth her time! If she hangs out with other customers after work- and she hangs out with you after work- what is the difference between you and them besides the time slot?
Author britintokyo Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 Ok You're probably all right I know that.... She just wasn't behaving like a dancer when she was with me, never asked me to pay for anything, didn't ask me for tips the one night I was in the club. Was really into me and wanted to spend every night with me... Maybe it is too much drama and has no chance, but I really loved the way she obviously liked me and kissed and held me, it was nice after a long time without that. I just wanted an opinion that if this was a normal girl and not a stripper, which she is, it's just her job, then should I call it a day when a woman says she's confused and doesn't know what she wants or should I persevere, that's all... We were great and then the bitchy-ex almost certainly called her up and it's like it broke that initial illusion we all have with someone new. She's still calling me and making time to see me, but is colder with me and doesn't know what she wants... Anyway....
sally4sara Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Ah but the rumor isn't so much a rumor. You have stated in other threads about this that you still dug the ex, but she was in a relationship. While she is in that relationship, still leading you on and being possessive. Even if you were not sleeping with the ex - you wanted to be with her. Stripper girl or no, I think that would bother someone new in your life. However, I've never met a legit stripper (meaning the only danced; nothing else) that fraternized with clients outside of work. Those were the ones hooking on the side. And you've found she has been in legal trouble with clients in the past - by way of rumor no less. I believe you can do better than these sort of people you've been dating. Why don't you?
Ruby Slippers Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Why do you keep starting new threads for the same issue? You seem to be as desperate for attention as the stripper.
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