Capt. Archer Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 I am very shy, and there is a guy in my class. For the record, I'm in high school, not too young. Anyway, I really like him. We go to a small private school. So, we do talk a lot. We are in every class together, and we both play the violin. (which is not gay for a guy, I might add) He runs track, and I've gone to every meet. I would join the team...but that isn't an option. I had an accident a few years ago and I'm paraplegic (paralyzed from the waist down) So I go and say that I enjoy watching them run, when it actually makes me pretty depressed. But that isn't the point. I've never dated, and he never has, at least as far as I know. PLEASE help, I have no clue what to do! He is so kind, and laughs a lot, and isn't rude or perverted or anything, and I like him so much. He is the best runner on the time, and plays fiddle music so well. I'm not particularly hot or pretty or ugly, and neither is he. We're average. I majorly like his personality. I need help, oh please oh please!
starwolf242 Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 Even though you're shy, you're going to have to ask him to meet with you outside of school. Do you know if he likes you in the same way? Being shy myself I would be much more confident if I knew he liked me before I asked him out.
Author Capt. Archer Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 Even though you're shy, you're going to have to ask him to meet with you outside of school. Do you know if he likes you in the same way? Being shy myself I would be much more confident if I knew he liked me before I asked him out. I have no idea if he likes me or not. Right now, we're not really friends, more of an acquaintance. But I don't know if he would want to go out...it takes a really special guy to be seen with a disabled girlfriend. A guy I have yet to find. But I think I will ask him out anyway...I don't know!
SincereOnlineGuy Posted May 10, 2010 Posted May 10, 2010 Hey, I just wanted to assure you that the interactions you'll have with people in your adult years will be far more in-depth and sincere than are most of those you have in high school. I'm sure it is very difficult to will yourself through all of the feelings and longings of today while trying to resist writing-off any social future just because of your disability. You probably need to figure out that your friendships and relationships in the future will be based far more on emotional/intellectual interaction than are similar relationships that happen between high school students of today. When adulthood finally arrives you will find many new doors opening to let you express yourself to much greater depths. From that expression will come the connections that motivate you and inspire you through life. Prior to that, I sure hope that your self confidence doesn't endure too many hurtful experiences so that when it comes time to DO that adult expressing of yourself, you won't be fearful of taking the chance to do it. Good luck to you.
TouchedByViolet Posted May 11, 2010 Posted May 11, 2010 You should dress your best, maximize your hotness and talk to him. If he shows some level of interest or you think he may be interested ask him out. You don't want to look back on this and think I should have made a move. Good luck!
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