gister Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 Some background: My ex-gf and I were together for about a year and a month (LDR cause of school and state difference) Things seemed to be going great (still were having fun and enjoying talking to each other and stuff it). Anyways she broke up with me around a month ago, yeah I did all the weak stuff like contact her and stuff. Apparantly she broke up with me [second time she did] for abunch of reasons: couldn't stand me, wanted to be single, just not now, made her "completely numb" towards me and a few other common "nice ways" to break up with someone... then we went LC to see how friends would play out. Then in the convo that happens before I went total NC, she told me, really why she broke up with me (started to flirt and like a guy alot [even had a date planned while we were still together]). That's when I went strictly NC (about two weeks ago) becaus I still have strong feelings for her even after all of that. Anyways, today is my birthday and I've been ignoring all of her random hello texts and surprisingly enough this morning I notice she texted me "happy birthday!" at around 12:40am. TLDR: been NC for two weeks, today's my birthday my ex wished me happy birthday at about 12:40am. So here's my questions, is she trying to reach out? is she just trying to be nice/friendly, if I have basically dropped off of the planet? Why would she wish me happy birthday at that time, if she's been going out and stuff? I'm just really thrown off by this and really confused P.S. Sorry if there's any mistakes doing this from my iPod (comp. Is being extra weird)
sphx26 Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Happy birthday! It looks like she's just messin' with you. She's saying "Happy Birthday" just to be nice and so she won't look like a total b*tch. lol Remember, she's already dating someone else. Well, continue with your NC, and don't talk to her until your mind is clear and you don't interpret every little thing she does, you'll just tire yourself out. If she wants you back, then she would've told you that already. Stay strong, move forward, keep up with your NC and don't look back.
DenverBachelor Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 Some background: My ex-gf and I were together for about a year and a month (LDR cause of school and state difference) Things seemed to be going great (still were having fun and enjoying talking to each other and stuff it). Anyways she broke up with me around a month ago, yeah I did all the weak stuff like contact her and stuff. Apparantly she broke up with me [second time she did] for abunch of reasons: couldn't stand me, wanted to be single, just not now, made her "completely numb" towards me and a few other common "nice ways" to break up with someone... then we went LC to see how friends would play out. Then in the convo that happens before I went total NC, she told me, really why she broke up with me (started to flirt and like a guy alot [even had a date planned while we were still together]). That's when I went strictly NC (about two weeks ago) becaus I still have strong feelings for her even after all of that. Anyways, today is my birthday and I've been ignoring all of her random hello texts and surprisingly enough this morning I notice she texted me "happy birthday!" at around 12:40am. TLDR: been NC for two weeks, today's my birthday my ex wished me happy birthday at about 12:40am. So here's my questions, is she trying to reach out? is she just trying to be nice/friendly, if I have basically dropped off of the planet? Why would she wish me happy birthday at that time, if she's been going out and stuff? I'm just really thrown off by this and really confused P.S. Sorry if there's any mistakes doing this from my iPod (comp. Is being extra weird) You guys are in the really early stages of the break-up. She's reaching out probably for a number of different reasons: a) She feels guilty and wants to alleviate that guilt. b) She's testing you to make sure you are still around and trying to put you in a position where you guys can remain amicable towards one another in case her new fling doesn't pan out. c) She's trying to save face a bit with you by not coming across as a total bitch. d) She misses you. Don't take D as a sign that she wants to get back together again. You're in the early stages and I'm sorry you have to go through it. However, keep yourself busy and get through the long days with friends and activities. In a few months, a lot of what you are feeling will subside and you won't care what she is doing or who she is doing. Good luck!
Author gister Posted May 10, 2010 Author Posted May 10, 2010 Cool and thanks . Sorry I couldn't reply but I've been busy with my birthday and mothers day. And happy mothers day to any mothers out there ? Yeah I figured as much, from looking at some other stories on here. made a mistake by replying thanks last night (just to be nice[i think]) and ignored her other texts... Then me being a dumbass saw one of the texts (accidently opened one instead of delete prior >.<) that said she went out with this one guy to the movies... And yes I already deleted her number and stuff but apparantly she doesn't want to delete my number or something... Probably shouldve remembered to drown out the want to reply with some "Best of You" or "Times Like These" by Foo Fighters or music in general... oh well got to take everydy one at a time I guess... Anyways on the bright side... I've been trying to keep myself busy (playing more games with my friends and brother), plan on finally gettig around to learning how to play the guitar , and preparing myself for the next year of school and stuff. Thanks again for the support and stuff . Now back to "day1" of NC and hopefully this one will last until I forget her or don't care about what/who she's doing
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