So how did this "date" go?

[kdark]

So let me give you a brief history of us before I tell you how our date went...

 

This girl messaged me online, said that she was into the same things that I am. She's vegetarian, into working out, etc. We message back and forth, and then agree to met up.

 

Our first date I take her to a lot of great places in town, and we both have a really great time. She lives in a really small town without much to do in it, so I show her around where I live and take her to some nice places I know. Lots of fun.

 

Our second date. She is a huge hockey fan, so I take her to bw3s where her favorite team was on tv playing in the playoffs. I didn't get to know her much more from this date since she was really into the game and I know jack about hockey and she was chatting hockey all night, but it seemed like she had a good time, and I did too. We agree to meet up sooner than we did last time.

 

So now our third "date" last night. She lives about an hour away in a small town, and this time she brought three of her friends from home that she knows to hang out. I'm thinking she's really into me because she convinced three of her friends to come hang out with me from where she's from. Her friends drove about two hours to come visit her, and then an additional hour to come hang out with me.

 

But when I got meet up with them, she ended inviting another couple and another guy along with her. This guy and her obviously had a history, since she was leaning on him and hanging on him the entire night. I didn't really talk to her much of the night since they were flirting the entire time. I made the most of the night by talking to the other couple most of the time, and getting to know a lot of the bar patrons who were around. But I was pretty much a fifth wheel the entire time.

 

But, why would you drive an hour, bringing three of your friends, one of which you have a history with, to meet someone you met on a dating website who is interested in you? I've heard girls do some crazy things, but the lack regard for my feelings and the blatant disrespect showed towards me was so much so that I almost walked out and just drove home, which I have never come close to doing in my life.

 

Is this normal? Anyone else have similar stories?

[Austen]

Run away from her as fast as you can. Don't try to reason away her behavior--she was a b**** for treating you that way! It doesn't matter how good the other dates were. This cancels those out completely. Move on and find someone who doesn't make you second guess yourself and feel like crap!

I'm a woman and if I was really into a guy, I would never pull something like that EVER.

[DollWelch]

It's either one of 2 things.

 

One: After 2 dates, she became bored with you. So she decided to invite friends along, to entertain herself. And possibly you too. The end result, she forgot that she had (you) date there with her, I think her emotions took over and perhaps wished she was with said other man (ex, maybe?).

 

Or

 

Two: She brought along some friends to test out whether or not you'd get along with them. You know what they say, 'if he meshes with her friends, he's in!'. Right?

 

Either way, she was definitely inconsiderate of you. I'd question her motives, and her character. Talk to her about it. The worst that could happen, you'd move on.

[mikarla]

Ugh what a wench. I can understand her bringing along the friends to see how you mesh with them, but ignoring you, her supposed date, and flirting with an ex right in front of you is inexcusable. I'd move on.

[kdark]

It's either one of 2 things.

 

One: After 2 dates, she became bored with you. So she decided to invite friends along, to entertain herself. And possibly you too. The end result, she forgot that she had (you) date there with her, I think her emotions took over and perhaps wished she was with said other man (ex, maybe?).

 

But why drive as far down to see me as she did? With her friends? None of them had ever been to the city I am from, where we hung out. I had to play tour guide for them showing them all the fun places to go. They could have easily gone 45 minutes north to the city where two of them went to college, and had fun up there, without me. If she was bored with me, then she went out of her way to let it be known that she was.

 

Two: She brought along some friends to test out whether or not you'd get along with them. You know what they say, 'if he meshes with her friends, he's in!'. Right?

 

Well I definitely played along and got along famously with everybody. Everybody except her. If that was her test I passed it, but she definitely failed one of mine.

 

You know, I can almost see why she did this, because on our second date, a friend of mine happened to be in the bw3s we went to. He is a huge hockey fan as well, and he spent a good majority of the time at our table, talking hockey. I knew he was going to be there for the hockey game, and told him to ignore us so her and I could have a private date, which he did. We got our tables and he happened to be sitting right next to us. I didn't even acknowledge him until she brought up "Hey, you have a friend who likes hockey, is he watching the game now?" So I laughed and told her he was actually here, and he was sitting right next to us, she just didn't know it. So then she says, "Oh, why doesn't he come sit with us and watch the game?" I hadn't planned on doing it, but since she asked, I called him over.

 

Not a perfect situation, I know. But once again, she was the one who asked for him to come over. She had to have known that my friend and I had an arrangement, since we were too close to ignore each other if we just saw each other randomly at the restaurant.

 

Key differences between what she did last night and what happened on our second date: My friend that crashed our second date talked with her about hockey half the time. And she seemed to enjoy it. The other half of the time me and my friend would joke around about inside joke stuff, but I would always take the time to explain what we were talking about to her.

 

On this last date, I was left to fend for myself with all four of them talking about s**t I had no idea they were talking about, with no one explaining anything to me. Luckily I was able to force my way into some of the conversations, but it was still rude as hell. At least I made her feel comfortable when my friend and I were talking. Not even mentioning the flirting she was doing with the other guy the whole time. At one point they were walking arm in arm. I mean seriously, who does that? And then she has the gall to give me a hug at the end of the night after ignoring me the whole time...

 

 

 

Either way, she was definitely inconsiderate of you. I'd question her motives, and her character. Talk to her about it. The worst that could happen, you'd move on.

 

I don't think it's worth talking about. It was too much. If she contacts me, I'll let her know, but other than that I'm done with her. It would take a lot of begging and an apology for me to go out with her again.

[BobSacamento]

Worlds are colliding...

[janie423]

kdark,

 

you were right to use quotes for "date." Your third "date" was obviously not a real date, you had been friend-zoned, this wasn't a real date, it was group outing.

 

 

Game over. Forget her, move on, don't waste any more time.

 

Look, the other guy she was slobbering over was probably being manipulated by her as well, you were there to make him jealous, he was there to make you jealous, the other people were there to be the "audience," the girl is a psycho, be glad you didn't waste more time and money on her.

 

agree with this . . . just when I thought I heard it all. Stay away from her, you dodged a bullet.

[Kaplan]

I don't know. I wasn't there so I didn't see it for myself, but if she was so obviously affectionate with this guy maybe it was a type of affection that wasn't sexual. I mean maybe they're really good friends. Some friends are like that. It's just that you would think a girl who wanted to flirt with another guy while she was on a date would make it less obvious.

 

If she really is attracted to this guy or wants him or whatever than she's pretty much the biggest bitch in the world!

[kdark]

I don't know. I wasn't there so I didn't see it for myself, but if she was so obviously affectionate with this guy maybe it was a type of affection that wasn't sexual. I mean maybe they're really good friends. Some friends are like that. It's just that you would think a girl who wanted to flirt with another guy while she was on a date would make it less obvious.

 

If she really is attracted to this guy or wants him or whatever than she's pretty much the biggest bitch in the world!

 

I don't think it really matter if the affection was platonic or romantic. How was I supposed to know? I just met them all, I can't know the history of each of their friendship.

 

If it was platonic, it just shows even more disregard for me, since she didn't take into consideration the fact that I wouldn't know, and would assume it was romantic.

 

I don't expect to hear from her again.

[Engadget]

Wow yeah. The fact that she brought along friends that quickly would have been the first sign. If she was really into you she would have wanted to spend time with you. The exception to that is if you go to a party, but she should be focused on you even with other people around.

 

Something similar happened to me. I went out with two girls my friend's girlfriend invited because I was newly single. After all of us hanging out a couple times, I invited her over and we were going to go to a concert with a small group. We did and immediately she was all over another guy there, and I saw it right off the bat in how she was acting.

 

Then things went south with them, and the guy (who I hang out with fairly often now) was kicked to the curb by her after she acted like she LOVED him.

 

Now she wants to hang out with me again, and the only reason I'd consider it is for sex. She seems a bit...nuts, so I dunno.

[kdark]

Wow yeah. The fact that she brought along friends that quickly would have been the first sign. If she was really into you she would have wanted to spend time with you. The exception to that is if you go to a party, but she should be focused on you even with other people around.

 

Something similar happened to me. I went out with two girls my friend's girlfriend invited because I was newly single. After all of us hanging out a couple times, I invited her over and we were going to go to a concert with a small group. We did and immediately she was all over another guy there, and I saw it right off the bat in how she was acting.

 

Then things went south with them, and the guy (who I hang out with fairly often now) was kicked to the curb by her after she acted like she LOVED him.

 

Now she wants to hang out with me again, and the only reason I'd consider it is for sex. She seems a bit...nuts, so I dunno.

 

The only way I could see myself having sex with this girl is if she drove to my house, brought the condoms, and let me perform the most degrading sex acts known to man on her, and then she would drive home. Preferably in tears.

 

But then again I'm pretty heated, so maybe I should just not talk to her ever again...

[Engadget]

The only way I could see myself having sex with this girl is if she drove to my house, brought the condoms, and let me perform the most degrading sex acts known to man on her, and then she would drive home. Preferably in tears.

 

But then again I'm pretty heated, so maybe I should just not talk to her ever again...

 

Hahaha, you sound like me. That's pretty awesome.

[Sprig]

Women are crazy, there's no figuring them. When you begin to understand this grasshopper you will gain enlightenment. She sounds like someone to avoid at all costs. She's not worth it, anyone with a gram of decency wouldn't pull this on a date.