Conflict With My Ex , He Obviously Still Has Feelings...But What Now?

[TooMuchPride]

:\...Sooo...hey guys! lol

 

kind of an update.

 

since the texting my ex and I have stayed friends we dont talk alot but about a night ago we had some what of an argument. we began to speak and i acted like i had to go , i didnt but i didnt want to seem too happy...but surprisingly he pulled a little stunt that made me stay , he sent <3 heart thing n threw a little tantrum when i didnt send it back , it was a joke but it lead to a conversation about us.

 

i ended up saying "we were never going to get back together so you might aswell tell me" , honestly i did say it to sting him a bit cause i knew if he said it to me it would have hurt me , but i didn't expect him to react , he did though he got a little upset , then he said " i cant believe u said that" and that his heart dropped when i did , he said "wow i cant believe im carrying feelings about this wow what wrong with me , gotta go" ...i was pleasantly surprised , but we talked for like 20 minutes longer because i said did u honestly believe we would with all the lies you told , he started telling me how insecure i was and started saying things to upset me and i did the same... he said something about a girl that really upset me and said that he knows deep down inside i feel like he does and that time well tell , i told him time helps you move on , i also said i think its best we both let go , thats when he got real heated and said he was done pleading and then he left..

 

 

the thing is he never pleaded..he never asked to get back..nothing , so i dont know what he was goin on about...it shows he still cares but maybe its more an ego thing because i kno he is talking to other girls..

 

since that night we havent really spoken... where does this leave me...

[ADF]

Your story is a good example of why trying to stay friends with an ex is almost always a bad idea. Almost always.

 

I infer from what you said that you initiated the break up. Well, as the dumper, you have certain responsibilities. The main one is not to give your ex false hope. If your ex is like most men, he is probably interpreting your willingness to continue talking to him as a sign that you are open to reconciliation. If you're not, break off all contact. It may seem cruel, but it is the only thing that will enable him to move on. Maybe, in a year or so, when you're both seeing other people, you can try to be friends. Maybe.

[LucreziaBorgia]

where does this leave me...

 

Honestly? In the same place you were. Words change nothing. All this has done is managed to confuse you more and will hurt you more in the end.

[TooMuchPride]

Your story is a good example of why trying to stay friends with an ex is almost always a bad idea. Almost always.

 

I infer from what you said that you initiated the break up. Well, as the dumper, you have certain responsibilities. The main one is not to give your ex false hope. If your ex is like most men, he is probably interpreting your willingness to continue talking to him as a sign that you are open to reconciliation. If you're not, break off all contact. It may seem cruel, but it is the only thing that will enable him to move on. Maybe, in a year or so, when you're both seeing other people, you can try to be friends. Maybe.

 

 

it wouldnt be false because i do want to fix it... its him...you bascially say i broke up with him so he couldnt...being his friend i can HONESTLY say is helping me..i think about it less...i see him flirtin with many girls kinda makes me want him less but the feeling is still there