cutieh Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 I met this guy last year on a dating site. We have been talking since then and he keeps saying when can we meet. I say you just let me know. Finally we decided to meet this weekend. But then all of a sudden he texted me and says that he does not know if he would be working next weekend. I just said ok, but did not understand why he did that. He told me earlier that we could go and that he gets of earlier on the weekend and that he would not be tired because he really wants to go out with me. Why did he do this?
Author cutieh Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 Sorry i left out some words from earlier. He said that he had to work and would not know if we could to out.
brainygirl Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 If its a dating website you should meet up or rule him out and move along after exchanging only a few emails. He's either married or a coward, and you don't need either.
Ellezz Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 He is probably having second thought, or just too nervous, since you have been talking for so long, there must be some anticipations...Or he is really busy, you can suggest some other time maybe?
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 At RubberPig: This is actually pushing me away, not wanting me to talk to him.
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 At RubberPig Actually your right I was beginning to like him. But i"m posting because I don't understand him or men. It seems like all the men want the lieing, cheating, rude, mean women and not the good women like myself. I'm not saying i'm perfect. Yeah he told me that he was seeing someone else while we were talking and I was too. But I dont see that as cheating cause we are not a couple and wont be now. We havent even gone on a date yet. So I"m wondering why he was seeing this other woman instead of asking me out? I was going on dates because he never would ask me out.
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 At RubberPig Uh i dont think he has high standards. He told me he had sex with this girl in december. I didnt judge him because that was six months ago. but apparently it wasnt his girlfriend. And i think of myself as a high standard chic. I take care of myself, have my own place, own car, own career. So this i dont understand and he sits and talks about his ex with no job. who he says should get a job, but still talks about her.
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 my object of affection is none of these? Im am writing and saying i want a nice guy, lol. for the life of god
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 saying saying I don't listen to what women say. I respond to their actions and by your actions you want Mr. unavailable. You're not alone among women. No women want nice guys. I know this because every nice guy I work with is single wishing and hoping to find a woman. It ain't happening. These stupid guys think they aren't nice enough. HAHA. If you wanted a nice guy you'd have the pick of the littler provided you are not butt ugly and even if you are you'd have lots of choices. So funny how women have so much power yet they rarely use it. Thats not true even my male friend from highschool who i talk to about everything says I have bad Karma. He said you actually do want a nice guy. Look I leave the guy if he does me wrong. I've been hooded up by my girlfriends husband friends etcc. And they still are mean to me. I just don't get it. I am starting to wonder if I just have a look that says be mean to me, lol.
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 i have been hooked up by my ex girlfriend husband friend, her male friend, etc... you would think they would be nice to me cause they know my girl or her husband or you would think they would be nice then.
Author cutieh Posted May 8, 2010 Author Posted May 8, 2010 Women don't get basic logic. This bad karma argument is utter bullcrap. You made the choice to wait around for a guy for months and are ready to wait longer. Your choice. Knowing women, it's been a pattern pf yours for a long time. He's no nice guy. He cancels dates and puts you off. He's a desirable guy to most women and that intrigues most women. Do you want a nice guy? It's as easy as pie to get one, in theory. All you have to do is reject a bunch of bad guys quickly and before you know it the nice guy will come along. You'll know him because you'll be his fist date in a year and he'll stumble and bumble his words. In theory becuase woman are intriged by bad guys and can't let them go. That's why I choose to be anything but nice. Actually, not trying to be smart but you need to read all of my post. I did not wait for him. I was going on dates with other men. That these dates just didnt work out. I was keeping him on back burner. He only canceled one date and Im not going to talk to him anymore. And that's a silly reason to not be a nice guy. You should still be a nice guy no matter what. If that is the true you. I know what I want a nice man.
BlindbyLove Posted May 8, 2010 Posted May 8, 2010 Actually, not trying to be smart but you need to read all of my post. I did not wait for him. I was going on dates with other men. That these dates just didnt work out. I was keeping him on back burner. He only canceled one date and Im not going to talk to him anymore. And that's a silly reason to not be a nice guy. You should still be a nice guy no matter what. If that is the true you. I know what I want a nice man.If you don't mind me asking, what is your definition of a nice guy? you don't seem like you would truely find happiness in a nice guy.
Author cutieh Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 If you don't mind me asking, what is your definition of a nice guy? you don't seem like you would truely find happiness in a nice guy.[/QUOI I was actually responding to a someone who replied to my thread, but he deleted his responses. A nice guy is someone who wont cheat, lie, belittle you, call you names, hit you, find time to be with you. wont force you into doing things you want to do. I dont know what you mean by i wont find happiness in a nice guy.
Rorschach Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 If you don't mind me asking, what is your definition of a nice guy? you don't seem like you would truely find happiness in a nice guy. I was actually responding to a someone who replied to my thread, but he deleted his responses. A nice guy is someone who wont cheat, lie, belittle you, call you names, hit you, find time to be with you. wont force you into doing things you want to do. I dont know what you mean by i wont find happiness in a nice guy. You can't delete posts on this forum, they were deleted because he was probably banned. Here is a trick I learned after a while on the internet, I'm consider myself a guy who is nice, but when the internet says 'nice guy' it means something different, so here is a quick definition Nice Guy- Noun- A guy who is so milquetoast and weak willed that he lets women step all over him in an effort to get them to like him. Thinking that he has to do everything they say or else they'll leave him. Often desperate and emotionally needy. Avoid at all costs. But there are good guys out there, like me and many others, who both love and respect their significant others, treat them right, wouldn't do anything to hurt them, but have strong confidant personalities and stand up for what they believe in. So when people say 'can't find happiness in a nice guy' they're probably just not referring to what you may think of as a nice guy. This was the source of many arguments for me when I first got into relationship forums 2-3 years ago.
Author cutieh Posted May 9, 2010 Author Posted May 9, 2010 You can't delete posts on this forum, they were deleted because he was probably banned. Here is a trick I learned after a while on the internet, I'm consider myself a guy who is nice, but when the internet says 'nice guy' it means something different, so here is a quick definition Nice Guy- Noun- A guy who is so milquetoast and weak willed that he lets women step all over him in an effort to get them to like him. Thinking that he has to do everything they say or else they'll leave him. Often desperate and emotionally needy. Avoid at all costs. But there are good guys out there, like me and many others, who both love and respect their significant others, treat them right, wouldn't do anything to hurt them, but have strong confidant personalities and stand up for what they believe in. So when people say 'can't find happiness in a nice guy' they're probably just not referring to what you may think of as a nice guy. This was the source of many arguments for me when I first got into relationship forums 2-3 years ago. nice and good guy is the same dang thing. and a nice guy does not mean to me that he lets you walk over him. a desperate guy is exactly a desperate guy.
Rorschach Posted May 9, 2010 Posted May 9, 2010 nice and good guy is the same dang thing. and a nice guy does not mean to me that he lets you walk over him. a desperate guy is exactly a desperate guy. I understand your frustration, it's a stupid matter of semantics that the internet just expects everybody to know. I still call myself a nice guy despite that the internet would call me a 'good guy'. It's stupid i know but it's just the way the internet works as is. So if anybody is talking about 'nice guys finish last' or 'don't go for nice guys' thats all their talking about, desperate needy guys.
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