lettygirl Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 ok going to be completely honest here Got dumped with my ex of 7yrs yesterday, basically i had trust issues cause of constant lying from him and a gut feeling of him not being faithful we have a 3yr old son together so will remain in contact. However back to the split, I hacked into his ms and facebook accounts and found a message to and from a woman who he had obviously kissed and offered to get a hotoel room however she was married and called it off before anything happened. Obviously I confronted him and I lied and said a friend had hacked him (didnt give a name) and he wouldnt admit even what i had seen. Well today he went to the police and I admitted it was me though I may as well be honest.He said how mad hwas understandably and I was crying saying I was wrong and he agreed for our son's sake to keep the police outta it. He still wanted to call me later and did and i thanked him for being reasonable and said i so sorry basically did all i could do without begging.He saifd eventually we will prob be friends but he is very angry. I love him loads and I know I did wrong im usually a very honest faithful person this is the first time ive ever done anthing to hurt him i just have had trust issues and had a big moment of insecurity which i paid for by finding exactly what i didnt want to find. I just wanna know if this invasion can be forgiven. Please dont hesistate to leave any opinions good or bad I know it was wrong to go into his account and im feeling bad about it but what do i do next. Im seeing him in 2 days for him to see our son. We live bout hour and half away from each other.
BlindbyLove Posted May 7, 2010 Posted May 7, 2010 Just curious....How did this get turned around from you confronting him about another woman to you being dumped for looking in the 1st place? IMO, he quickly turn the tables to take all attention off him to make you feel bad for what you did but what are you going to do to fix the original problem that is at hand? Letting him get mad and walking out will soon blow over once he calms down being that it's only been 1 day. I would be more concern once it starts to be 1 month or longer. Even if he comes back and you guys work things out(which I hope you do) then you have to go back and deal with problem that started all this in 1st place.
Author lettygirl Posted May 7, 2010 Author Posted May 7, 2010 Im not sure how he turned it around I think im usually so honest I felt guilty doing something like snooping and I let it drop I think I was so upset he made it sound so final, I could forgive him for what he did it was a while ago and nothing actually happened I would give him one more chance. I dont know how to deal with his anger he is going to call me again on sunday but he just sounded so angry and hurt I forgot to think of how I felt.
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